I’m sorry for the silence. Things have been very busy here with work.
But I had a recent experience that I wanted to share, as it’s a perfect demonstration of something that I’ve been saying for years, and a perfect example of how the law of attraction works when you can just get out of the way.
Abraham says that you can have anything you want. Even in the case of two partners who want seemingly contradictory things, both can get exactly what they want.
This is something I’ve mostly believed, but about which Christine has been skeptical. However, a recent experience has proven it to be true beyond a shadow of a doubt.
So we had been planning on this weekend trip for a few months. There was a conference being held in Pittsburgh on September 4, by an author we like, and we thought it’d be fun to attend this conference. it was supposed to be something nice for our 10-year anniversary which we just celebrated last month. So I bought the tickets back in July, fully believing that we would go.
However as the event approached, things just weren’t working out. The question was, how were we going to get around the city? Being blind, obviously transportation is a big concern. And it was just far enough outside the city that getting an Uber wouldn’t be entirely reliable.
Then I emailed the people responsible for the event to at least let them know we’d be coming, are visually impaired and might need some special accommodations. It’s something I like to do with anywhere we are going to visit independently, just so we know that our needs will be met, and usually it’s no problem.
But they just weren’t responding to the email, which was making me quite nervous.
So long story short, things just weren’t falling into place. I know from years of experience that life is supposed to be effortless. Things should feel easy, when we are going on the right path. And this just wasn’t feeling like that.
But I was hesitant to give up on it entirely, because Christine in particular really wanted to go to this event.
Then, my family decided to go on vacation. For years, ever since I was about 5 years old, my mother and I would go on vacation to Ocean City, MD, with a family friend. it was a tradition we’d do every year, almost without fail.
Obviously when I met Christine, she was included in this tradition, although there were about 6 years when neither of us went, because we were living in New York. But we had gone the previous two years, in 2019 and 2020.
However, no one was really expecting to go this year.
But at the last minute, my mother and this family friend decided they were going to go, and invited us. We refused, for various reasons, one of which was that we’d be leaving on September 7, just three days after this other event. And, there just wasn’t enough in the budget to do both things.
But as the time got closer, I started to realize I’d really love to go on vacation. I’ve been working really hard at work and could really use a week off. But I didn’t say anything at first since I didn’t want to disappoint Christine.
So let’s take the score real quick: there’s an event that’s really important to Christine, but we were struggling with the details of getting there. Then, there’s a vacation I really wanted to go on, but couldn’t because there wasn’t enough money in the budget to cover both that vacation and this event, and I didn’t want to disappoint Christine.
Finally I did mention just in passing that I’d miss not going on vacation. We discussed the details, but nothing really seemed to be presenting itself. It seemed either I’d get what I wanted, or Christine would get what she wanted.
Well I was pretty depressed about this for a few days, with no solution seeming possible.
But then one day I just decided, things were going to work out. I decided that I wanted to go on vacation, and we’d just have to find a way for both of us to get what we wanted. So I opened up to the solution to present itself.
Then I had the idea to look on this event’s website and noticed that in October, they’d be back in Pennsylvania, just in a different location. It’d be far enough in the future that I figured we could budget for it pretty easily. So, we could go on vacation now, and still go to this event, just a month later.
Christine was happy with that, so I emailed them to see if they could transfer our tickets to the October event. They ended up just refunding our tickets and said we could purchase new ones — this, even though they claim that their tickets are non-refundable.
Then the whole thing fell into place in one stroke: it just so happens that the October event is going to be offered online as well. So, if we don’t want to, we don’t have to worry about transportation — about how to get there, get to and from the event and so on. Christine said she was perfectly happy for us to watch it online.
So just by opening up to the solution, everything fell into place. The feeling of things not being in flow was a warning signal to me that something was amiss, but at first I hadn’t been willing to listen to it, because I didn’t want to disappoint Christine. But when I finally opened up to the perfect thing happening, it all resolved itself in a way that neither of us could have previously imagined.
I’m sorry for this very lengthy post, but I really thought it was a perfect example of the law of attraction at work. When things seem to not be flowing, something is wrong. But when you open up to the solution, everything falls into place better than you could have planned it yourself.
This really speaks to my new understanding of the law of attraction, namely that it isn’t something we “do” at all. It’s just something we allow, something we flow with. But that’s a topic for another post.
It also points to the importance of being willing to be selfish enough to insist on what you want. If either of us had just given up on our own desire, letting the other person have what they wanted, things wouldn’t have worked out so perfectly. If I had given up my desire for vacation, maybe we’d force this weekend’s trip but be stressed about how to get where we needed to go. And if Christine had given up her desire for this event, then we wouldn’t have found this same event in October that we can happily enjoy at home.
But because we were both willing to be selfish enough to insist on what we wanted, the Universe found a way that worked for both of us.
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