I haven’t been able to update for a while, because I was pretty sick for the last week. So the challenge got a bit of a pause.
This week I’ve been really observing the dichotomy present in our relationship with money and how we communicate about it.
On one hand you have the practical side: those who encourage budgeting, investing, saving, etc.
On the other you have the more LOA / vibrationally-aware side: those who say that the important thing is how we feel about money, and not actually what we do with it.
Sometimes these two perspectives feel a bit like matter and antimatter: if they were ever to come together, the universe might explode.
I might have mentioned before a book I read in the past, Becoming Rich by Genevieve Davis. In that book she did mix these two perspectives: discussing the importance of feeling good about money, but also the necessity of managing it well.
Even though it received a lot of positive reviews, it was surprising to me the vehemence with which many people disparaged her book. Many people dismissed it as being nothing but a book on “money management”, as though that were some foreign concept to the law of attraction.
I recently listened to a podcast from the guy who created my favorite budgeting software. he did an experiment where he attempted to go an entire year without budgeting his money in detail. And he said that the end result for him was that his bank balance actually declined throughout the year, even though he had no clear idea on how that might have happened. He hadn’t made any major purchases or really changed his money habits at all, but the lessened awareness of his money situation still caused a net decline.
And then I listen to someone like, say, Abraham, who talks about our vibrational currency (a term I’ve really been connecting with lately), and that we should take money out of the equation completely.
It’s a multifaceted issue, and honestly I don’t think there’s any simple answer. Of course, that’s exactly the reason I’m doing this 90-day challenge: to find answers to difficult questions like this.
Could I ever seriously advise someone, for instance, not to worry about saving for their retirement, if that didn’t feel good to them? That it’d just take care of itself?
I don’t think so. I’d perhaps instead help them to find a better-feeling place about saving, and find the path of least resistance to saving enough for retirement.
But to completely take that out of the equation — I don’t think I’d ever do that.
I feel a tiny bit hypocritical about that, but it’s how I feel at the moment. Perhaps I can change that in time. Perhaps I’m relying too much on action: I’m not sure.
Perhaps it’s a matter of putting up guardrails until they are no longer needed. For instance, while I believe you can make all the money you want without ever working, I’d never suggest that you go and quit your job tomorrow and put it to the test.
why? Because you quite honestly probably don’t believe in that possibility right now, so you’d just be shooting yourself in the foot.
It’d be like attempting calculus before you learned your basic multiplication tables. Calculus is obviously possible, but not nearly as likely to someone who hasn’t learned basic math.
And so budgeting is one of those guardrails. It’s probably technically unnecessary, but would I ever suggest dropping it to someone who hasn’t absolutely mastered their money vibration yet? Probably not. For the time being, I’m not even suggesting it to myself.
What’s theoretically possible, and what’s practically possible in the moment, are two entirely different things.
Genevieve Davis actually has a really good discussion of this in her book. She talks about the power of thinking small. She says, of course you can be a millionaire. But can you manifest millions of dollars while painfully aware of all of your past-due bills? That’d be very unlikely.
And so why not start with a small improvement, like having enough money to pay everything on time? And then after that, having a bit of extra money left over at the end of the month? and then focusing on slowly increasing your bank balance over time.
That doesn’t mean the millions won’t come. It just means that each step to reaching that goal will be small and believable. It’s surprising how quickly it can build up momentum once you get started.
That’s kind of how I got started on all this, really. Back in 2016, I didn’t start with the idea of tripling my income. I only focused on a few hundred extra dollars per month, or having a bit left over in my checking account at the end of the month. And it just increased from there.
I think that’s been my mistake lately. I’ve focused on these very big goals that I want to get in a short-period of time. Let me manifest $5,000 by August so I can go on this trip I want to go on. But then it doesn’t happen, and I just get discouraged and think I’ve lost my touch.
What if instead, I focus on smaller, easier-to-believe goals, that while small, would still have an observable impact on my financial situation?
That’s what I’ve been turning my focus towards more this week, and I find it a lot less stressful.
I went from wanting to manifest thousands for a nice anniversary vacation, to instead deciding on a simpler trip that is still really meaningful to us.
And, the relief was palpable. The pressure let up immediately. And I felt far more optimistic about matters.
As Abraham says, satisfied with what is, and eager for more. And this is the way to do that.
So there’s not so much of a dichotomy as one might think between these perspectives. We want to be open to greater possibilities in life, while still keeping ourselves grounded in the practicalities of our physical reality.
That doesn’t at all lessen the truthfulness of “anything is possible”. It simply points out that the seemingly impossible is made possible when broken down into enough small, believable steps.
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