After my post yesterday I received a question that I thought was worth answering publicly, as it’s a question I’ve received before.
The question was, essentially, how can you want something, and yet not be attached? Isn’t wanting something by its very definition forming an attachment to that thing?
And I see why someone might think that. From what I’ve seen, the great majority of desires that people try to manifest are ego-based, based on attachment, and therefore do not work.
Despite what people might say, the law of attraction isn’t about ego-gratification. Actually it has very little to do with the ego at all.
The type of desire that the LOA deals with is a far deeper, more refined desire.
There are two types of desire that I see: ego-based desire, and inspiration-based desire.
Ego-based desire is a desire based on wanting and attachment. In this context, wanting is synonymous with lack, so the more you want that thing— i.e., the more you are attached to it— the more you feel the lack of it. And of course since you feel the lack of it, you manifest the lack of it as well.
As I mentioned in yesterday’s message, when you are trying to get something with the ego, the only fruit is negative emotions: you feel wanting, yearning, lacking, anxiety, fear, anger, frustration, depression, etc. The list goes on and on.
This is the fruit of the ego, because it is never satisfied, and because of the lack mentality it comes from, you can only manifest lack and dissatisfaction.
Look at your most intense desires, which I’m willing to bet are based on ego. Notice how as you strive to get those desires, and you don’t get them, you suffer. You want them, you lack them, you yearn for them, and they remain out of your reach.
And you probably think you’re doing the law of attraction wrong in some way. And in a sense you are, but the biggest issue is that your desire is based on ego, and will never work out that way no matter how positive you force yourself to be.
There’s a second kind of desire that people rarely understand or experience. This is an inspiration-based desire— a desire based on fullness rather than lack— joy rather than suffering.
When you let go of ego, the true inspiration of your soul begins to flow through you, and true desires arise to the surface. These desires are not ego-based, because you would not suffer without them, nor do you need them. They are based on joy.
It’s like an artist creating a work of art. He does not do so because he needs to— he does so for the joy of it. His ego does not need that next painting, sculpture, or musical composition to be happy— they were an expression of his very soul. They were born out of his fullness.
Of course it’s a fine line and not a perfect metaphor, because indeed some artists might create out of ego. They might create in order to sell their creations and make money, or for the purpose of receiving recognition and fame from their art. But both of these reasons would be ego-based.
But the artist who creates for the sake of the art— that is one who creates from inspiration.
What keeps you stuck in ego? Your desire doesn’t necessarily have to be based on ego if it currently is: you can easily change it to one based on inspiration.
But the thing keeping you stuck is resistance, which is another word for the ego’s hold on you. If you learned how to let go of this resistance and enter into a deeper state of being, then your desire would flow naturally from inspiration and fullness, and you would easily manifest it.
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