In today’s Spiritual Freedom Support Call, we discuss such topics as the role of the ego, why we incarnate in the physical world, how to find your true desires, whether “selfish” desires are okay, and how exactly to define white vs. black magic.
- [03:26] Announcement: Releasing The Art of Reality Creation 2.0 soon.
- [08:50] The movie The Shack.
- [13:04] Changes on the website.
- [17:04] How do you use the ego as a tool?
- [28:44] The point of incarnation is to grow.
- [35:45] What do you do when the ego is taking control?
- [38:56] The ego can be fun.
- [43:16] What is the role of “I am”?
- [48:48] Choose the story you’d rather live.
- [55:20] True desires are in alignment with your higher self, your soul purpose, and your ego.
- [58:14] Desires at the expense of someone else.
- [01:03:00] The difference between white and black magic.
- [01:09:10] Is Trump going against the Universal Flow?
- [01:15:33] Speeding up a manifestation.
- [01:20:31] Three properties of energy: direction, speed, altitude (see next week’s post for a better definition).
- [01:26:46] Two ways to increase speed.
How About You?
Now it’s your turn. What have you gained from this week’s discussions? I always love reading your thoughts in the comments, so feel free to let me know or ask any questions you might have.
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Nice conversation. I grew up in a household where black magic was practiced by default. It does have repercussions especially on growing children. I mean, do you want them to be confident and fearless and go through life that way or in fear and stagnate? So, I came into spirituality as a sort of detox, for lack of a better phrase, to remind myself of what’s really what.
I did not know that voodoo was an actual religion, but perhaps it is misinterpreted. I think one of the aims of voodoo is healing, but I’m not sure.
Hi Kat,
I’m sorry you had to deal with black magic as a child. That must have been tough. I’m glad you got through it okay. 🙂
Oh yes, Voodoo is very popular from what I’ve heard. I know next to nothing about it, but only that it is widely practiced.
I’m glad you enjoyed the call. 🙂
I also would like to add here, since we discuss about being on our path, our chosen path, or however way we put it, that path is usually not a straight line. B, you yourself speak about this in the perfect example of your career. It was definitely not linear, not clear cut from A to B. There were twists, turns, intrigue, you stopped certain things, while taking up others, yet you were still on your path. I’m trying to say that, although things may seem like they are never to be, something will happen to remind you to keep going. I just want to clarify this. You keep going and going and then look how far you’ve come, emotionally and mentally counts here don’t forget, then you look around you and you’ve arrived, however you got there without knowing it. It’s not like a stop on a train where you get off and know you got there. You just arrive.
I hope this makes sense. So, looking around you and saying “still not there yet” perhaps keeps us from where we want to be. Maybe we shouldn’t look at all. I haven’t been doing this and I’ve been making progress because before I was looking and getting impatient. Just some things to consider.
Hi Kat,
Yes I agree completely. Your path comes about so organically, if that makes sense. It grows in unexpected ways. It sneaks up on you when you don’t realize it.
You never run out of topics, amazing. 😀 Very interesting call.
First of all, an unrelated question: do you think that Hades and Hecate will be your patron and matron deities for the rest of your current life, or do you think that there might come the time where they will have taught you everything you “needed” to learn, and you will get other deities?
Anyway, with all the bad experiences in my life, my tolerance for resistance has kind of increased, I guess, which is actually a doubled-edged sword. On the one hand, now it would take soooo much to actually push me to a suicidal state again. On the other hand, it can take stronger resistance to cross my tolerance threshold and force me to surrender. Well, with some things anyway. I’m still working on raising my vibration to the neutral and above, so things would actually start moving.
This is so weird, a year ago, I would still often get into blaming others, hatred, and strong sorrow, which were very low states, and they would occur so often, but I would also get into really high state, where I would feel the connection with divine in such a powerful way, and I would know that everything’s been going just fine, and my “purpose” was clear. However now, a year later, I don’t really get into extremely low states anymore, especially not hatred, but I also haven’t been able to access those high vibrations of clarity, that strong connection with the Divine. It seems like both the negative extremes and the positive extremes disappeared, and now I’m in a void or something, but it’s below neutral, it’s still negative. My guess is that those extreme negative moments each time forced me into a surrender, which would then inevitably catapult me into extreme high energy moments. Without the extreme negatives, there are no extreme positives anymore. From time to time I catch myself having a “meh, I don’t care” mentality. Anyway yeah the way to go now is being aware of my focus, and cultivating gratitude and appreciation, among other things.
Hi Z,
Thanks. 🙂 Yep, the Universe always seems to provide more topics. 😀
To your questions:
I hope that they will. I’m still developing my relationship with Hecate, but I feel extremely close to Hades. That probably sounds odd, but he’s helped me a ton in so many different ways. I’m really not sure if it’d last forever, but I hope that it will.
I disagree with your assessment. I don’t think you have to go into the negative to be launched into the positive.
When you have a lot of neutral “meh” energy, I think the issue is that you just need to speed up the energy a bit more. Faster energy will always polarize you pretty quickly. 🙂
Hi Brandon,
I just wanted to say that I have added doing a spell for each of my goals. 🙂 I used the process described in your last post with crystals, visualization and affirmations. So far I have only performed the spells once, but I plan to repeat the process in a few days or next week. I feel that the spell, because of the increased time and focus spent with the goal, really amplified focus and emotion. I’m looking forward to seeing the results of the spells (and the increased resistance, uncomfortable as it is, because it shows that energy is speeding up).
You mentioned how with a next level goal, you should be seeing evidence weekly, and sometimes this may be feeling based. For me this evidence is often only feelings for quite a while. With my recent money goals for instance, the bulk of the money came all at once. Week by week though, I did feel more aligned and accepting of having the money. It seems that once my subconscious was aligned with the money, it came quite quickly. I’ve noticed in the past, too, that many goals of mine manifest quite suddenly as opposed to gradually. I equate these seemingly sudden results to how bamboo grows: for years there is no sign of growth above the surface, but when bamboo finally sprouts, it grows very quickly. I imagine that subconscious structures were shifting beneath the surface, gathering momentum and then finally, results were visible after the roots were firmly planted enough.
Hi R,
That’s awesome! I’m so glad you were able to do a spell. 🙂
I’d love to hear what results you notice from your spells.
Yeah, I think it’s different for everyone. But it should not be that you’re working at it for a month and seeing no progress, either inside or outside. That’ll only generally happen if you are stuck in resistance.
I also wanted to add that recently, I’ve begun adding feelings of security, stability and peace of mind to each of my goals. I feel like this is really helping! I wish more teachers discussed the need of our subconscious mind to feel safe. 🙂
Hi R,
Yes feeling safe is so important. You’ll love this weekend’s podcast I think. I call it, the principle of homeostasis. You need to find that new comfort zone. You need to create a new normal. That’s probably the most important part of the law of attraction, but too often ignored.
I’m looking forward to that podcast! I think normalizing the goal as much as possible is a big key to manifesting it. I was confused for so many years because everyone talks about feeling really happy and excited about your desire, but that hadn’t been working very well for me.
I was rereading one of your posts from last month about the consciousness first paradigm. One of my goals, for example, at the very beginning felt almost unbelievable and very far away. It definitely feels more believable now. I can see a very likely path to achieving it, even if I’m not aware of every detail or completely able to act on it right now. My last money manifestations gave me extra trust: once there is alignment within, the outside will take care of itself. (You’ll know what action to take and be able to take it, or the manifestation will come to you through some other way.)
One of my other goals is a little more than a week away from being completed. I really have been giving extra focus and attention to this one (music goal). I’ve been inspired to book a session with a vocal coach I really want to work with via Skype. Not only is this for practical tips to resolve a few singing issues, but a big part of why I’m planning to do this is for reassurance and giving myself peace of mind. 🙂
With my third goal, I have noticed that it feels more believable and have also experienced some outer evidence. This evidence wouldn’t be meaningful to anyone else other than me, but I know it’s a sign that energy is aligning.
I feel that the greatest resistance for me has to do with feeling worthy and deserving of my goals. This is reflected to me by the people around me (they don’t feel they are deserving of a better life). I know that this evidence will change though as I become more aligned within with being deserving and worthy.
Hi R,
I’m glad it makes sense. I agree it’s important. This is why I try to dig into what is really behind the law of attraction. It’s such a vital law, but we don’t always stop and really investigate how it works. I think it’s essential that we do that.
It sounds like your goals are going great! I’m very happy for you. Yes your consciousness definitely changes before the outer world. Alignment, then manifestation. 🙂
Also good luck with the vocal coach. That sounds exciting!
Thanks Brandon! That post about consciousness first is so essential for me, I refer to it often. It’s a big paradigm shift and runs counter to what most people are taught, but already I have seen evidence of it that has greatly increased my trust. Sometimes I get so frustrated – why didn’t I know more about how the LOA really works earlier?
I’m looking forward to my lesson! It’s been nearly 5 years since I’ve last seen a vocal coach, but I really want to do this because I tend to get quite nervous and tense when I record (especially when I know the recordings are for someone else). And I just want to do the best job possible with my songs because I’m going to send them to a successful artist I know and respect. 🙂
Because you weren’t ready for it yet.
I know it’s a bit cliche, but I believe truth is always occult. I mean occult in the literal definition: hidden. The law of attraction is so popularized and mainstream that, well honestly it can’t help but be a little truth mixed with a heck of a lot of falsehood. Hope that doesn’t sound bad, but it’s how I see it. And it fails for most people, because they take these mainstream sources and try to use those teachings.
I think this is why the old magical traditions created the secret societies they did, like the Golden Dawn, the OTO, etc. They wanted to protect the truth from being watered down. Not to say it has to be locked within some secret society like that, but I get what they were after.
Oh, yeah, I totally get this too! Did you know that Golden Dawn is the name of a new political party in Greece?
Really? I had no idea. Any connection, or just coincidental?
Coincidental. For a tiny country there are like 15 parties.
Maybe that should be tried here. I mean, there are more than 10 of everything else, why not political parties?
Since this is a coven, we might as well talk about everything, you know? 🙂
Haha totally agreed. I know, the political system here is so binary. I find myself agreeing with both sides, but it’s almost like you have to choose one or the other. Morally/socially I’m very liberal, economically with certain issues I’m more conservative.
By the way, I wanted to tell you, your comment about the coven is what inspired me to put that image of the moon up on the top right of the site. I’ve been wanting to do that for a while. 🙂 I loved your comment. I totally think it’s a coven.
Oh, I am so glad! I love that image!
Yes, well, that is totally what we are doing with this activity!
I just noticed today the results of a spell I had cast last year. Well, it was not the usual spell, but I did put the energy out there, so yes, it falls under that category. I was going to actually go out there and do it myself, but I did not, and it was done for me! This is wonderful and I am thankful!
That’s awesome! Did it just come today, or did you just look back today and realize that it had been done for a while? I know how that is sometimes. 🙂
It must have been done the other day when they were outside and I noticed it today as I exited the house. This pertains to my neighbors and their pots and bowls that collect rainwater. I was going to overturn them myself so that would not happen and insects won’t breed with all the diseases they spread. And so it was! Sorry if this was too much information, but it is a very good example.
No that’s great. 🙂 Congratulations on that. 😀
I’m not surprised about that at all! Perhaps if I didn’t struggle so much before, I wouldn’t really understand and be able to use the LOA effectively now.
I do feel that there is a lot of misinformation out there. It seems that some people have a lot of success with the more mainstream LOA teachings. I’m guessing that they went through the transformation process (Magus path) beforehand?
Hi R,
From what I’ve seen, most people don’t have much awareness of what they are doing.
As an NLP practitioner, I was taught that to model someone’s behavior, that person isn’t always useful in telling you how they do what they do. They’ll give some bit of advice, but usually their success has nothing to do with that.
Most LOA teachings are just carbon copies of a few different mainstream sources: Napoleon Hill, Neville Goddard, Seth, Abraham, or The Secret. I can almost always determine which of these sources a particular person’s teachings come from.
The point is, most people take one of these sources, and then proceed to interpret all of their experiences in the light of that source. For instance, if on the Abraham forum you tell them that it’s not working, they’ll always have an answer as to why. It’s either because you’re doing it for the manifestation and not just to feel good, or that you are “happy face stickering” it, or something else.
Some people succeed naturally. Either they are raised with helpful subconscious programs to help them to succeed, or their life experiences lead them to take the appropriate steps to success.
I think my NLP training was one of the most useful things I went through. BTW, I just received my master practitioner certification (I list it here). 🙂 Not to brag, but I’m pretty happy about it.
Anyway, it taught me to look at things in terms of what works. I believe success can be modeled, no matter which area of life that applies to. I’ve thrown away a lot of common teaching because it just didn’t work.
So, long story short, people succeed in spite of themselves sometimes. They take the proper steps, but don’t realize how it was they actually succeeded. So, they guess. Sometimes that guess is right, and a lot of times it’s not.
I agree with you. I can definitely see many examples of people succeeding and coming up with inaccurate explanations for their success. A lot of people will quote hard work, for example, but we can see that there are many others who work just as hard who are unsuccessful. Or people will say it was just being positive that got them what they wanted, but there are many positive people stuck bad situations too.
I know what you mean on Abe Forum! I would always get frustrated reading through there. I have no doubt that some people are very successful with Abe’s teachings, but they are likely the ones who reprogrammed their subconscious structures.
Just a little bit ago I heard that the dog sitting job I was hired for this month had been cancelled. I am upset, but I feel that if it can be cancelled so quickly, then another way to get this money quickly can come about as well. I do expect to get a similar amount of money soon through something I’m selling, but it would be really nice to have this extra money as well. I’m thinking that this has to do with feelings of deserving and my mind’s comfort zone.
Hi R,
Yes I completely agree. Lots of people are positive and yet are not successful. And same for hard work.
I’m sorry to hear about the dog sitting job. I’m sure something else will turn up. It may very well have to do with your comfort zone.
I’m feeling quite angry at my subconscious mind right now! I definitely think this is due to structures that do not serve me. I’m also guessing that I need to keep focused and choose, over and over, the result I want even in the face of resistance and defeat? Manifesting this amount of money wasn’t even a definite goal this month, as I’m focusing on other areas right now. But I feel that if I met my January and February money goals, I can create over what I did those months this month.
Hi R,
Well, when you are making a lot of change to your subconscious structures, you have to sometimes give them time to catch up. You accomplished so much in the last two months, but now give them time to stabilize at this new level. You’ll still get a good bit with not as much effort as before.
But yes, continue to be persistent. 🙂
Yeah, that’s true. I did meet those two monthly goals and decided to spend this month giving more attention to my other goals (which also take a lot of energy). You’re right in that I may be going a bit too fast without allowing myself to stabilize. Maybe slowing down a little could be helpful? I definitely can jump too far ahead of myself at times!
How do you explain when someone had been struggling in one area for a long time experiences successes in it quite quickly? I am thinking of someone I know with her music career. She struggled for years, but began to achieve greater and greater success rather quickly. Not only surrounding her career, but in other areas of her life too. Now she is really happy with her life and frequently talks about how she is living her dream and how great life is. Is this due to shifting subconscious structures (unknowingly)?
Hi R,
Actually this is very common. Any time you see someone struggling, they are likely working through some major resistance, and gradually changing their subconscious structures as a result.
Likely she was stuck in a rut with her resistance for a while, but something acted as the catalyst that finally helped her to shift that resistance. The subconscious structures were changed in very quick succession, and therefore she started succeeding. Often the catalyst can be very subtle. Sometimes just an additional force of will, or just someone getting tired of the resistance and letting go of it all at once.
In the past, when I saw how well she’s doing and all the success she’s having in life in general, I would get really, really jealous. I still do at times, but more so now I feel happy for her. I feel like she’s proof that what I want is possible and can happen for me too. She is staying true to herself and her music, making the most of her gifts and believing in herself. Apparently even when she was beginning to see success, many people were still doubting her, but she just kept believing in herself instead.
My cousin has also experienced a lot of struggle in her professional life for many years, but for (I think around) 5 years now she’s been very successful in what she does. She is living the dream she told me she wanted to live 10 years ago. I’m really happy for her.
I’m curious how it’s possible for someone to let go of resistance seemingly quickly and create so much change in their subconscious structures, especially if they aren’t working with a coach.
Hi R,
Well, imagine the pressure of water behind a dam. The pressure is great, because of the built up momentum of that water. If that wall comes down, then the flood of water is massive.
Sometimes when you deal with resistance for years, it just builds up pressure. Eventually you just let go, and all that pressure is released, the subconscious structures are changed, and success begins almost immediately. It’s a pretty painful process, but happens quite frequently from what I’ve seen.
I’ve seen this happen many times too! A very famous example would be what happened with J.K. Rowling and Harry Potter, for instance. She didn’t become a billionaire overnight, but the publishing house she signed with still have her a decent advance when they decided to publish her books. And from there obviously we all know what happened. 🙂
The subconscious structures are released when you let go of resistance? But it is still necessary to struggle and face a lot of resistance to shift them, is that correct?
It seems like the painful release of resistance you’re describing is what Melody Fletcher terms as the cattle prod moment. She has written a lot about the extreme pain people deal with before letting go of resistance. Actually, I found out about Co-Creation Coaching from your comments on her blog!
Hi R,
Yes that is similar. But I don’t think she believes it is necessary.
I don’t think such a painful moment is necessary, but it is necessary to struggle with the resistance to create those new subconscious structures. As you’ll see in next Monday’s post, you can’t just let go and allow the Universe to bring it to you. I know, that goes against all LOA doctrine, ever. But, this approach only works for current level goals.
For next level goals, you need the will to deliberately choose the goal, and create that tension between where you are and where you want to be. This generates significant resistance, and as you work through it, you build new structures that will support this goal.
When it happens all at once, it’s just that that tension has been there for a while, but you’ve not allowed yourself to let go of current reality. Once you take that final step, then the final part of the process happens very quickly. But again, I don’t recommend this path.
I actually also feel that there is some degree of tension involved for next level goals. I agree that for next level goals, particularly around things we really, really want, it’s not enough to just let go and allow the Universe to deliver. There has to be tension there on some level. I have experienced this quite a few times in my life and can see it in the experiences of others.
Does this apply to when someone seemingly gives up on a desire too? For example someone I know (not sure if I’d consider him a friend, but definitely an acquaintance) used to really, really want and try hard to get the attention of women he was attracted to when he was younger. Eventually he got so tired of pursuing pretty girls and women in general (particularly due to a string of bad relationships) that he just gave up on them all together. He says when stopped wanting them, that’s when they began to chase after him and have been all over him since. These are exactly the kinds of beautiful women (models, actresses, etc.) that he so desperately wanted when he was younger, but he still claims to have given up on love and even refrains from most short term flings. One could say that it’s easy for him to meet very attractive women due to the work he does, but he was working in the same field before and they didn’t want to be around him nearly as much. He has some really funny stories about these girls chasing him down and how desperate they could be. lol They’re actually quite funny to hear!
I’m excited for Monday’s post! It sounds like a lot of really useful and insightful information will be shared. 🙂
Hi R,
Giving up your desire is very risky. It depends on the stage of the process that you give up.
For many people who give up, they get nothing but disappointment. I mean, people giving up on their dreams is almost a cliche. So obviously just giving up is not the solution to success, or everyone who gave up on their dreams would have immediately achieved them.
What it sounds like happened with your friend is similar to the other example you gave. When he did give up, the subconscious structures were already starting to regenerate to match that higher desire. It was just the effort of trying so hard that was blocking him from the goal. So once he gave up, there was room for that desire to come to him. It was now a current level goal.
But again, you have to be careful. I would not recommend it overall. I see people recommending this course of action, to just give up on it and it’ll come to you, but that just doesn’t work most of the time.
I feel like my (strong) desires are so intense, there is no way I could truly give up on them. But there have been times when I’ve “given up” and was met with success.
This is a relatively minor example, but to meet my last minute end of February goal, I only got the money after I gave up on it. When I say I gave up, I mean that I believed it would come soon and decided to stop trying so hard to make it happen. I still believed I would get it, but maybe not as quickly as I had planned. Of course, I did end up getting it, and in a far easier way than I had anticipated. I’m guessing this was because the subconscious structures were in place? I had struggled with the goal, and when I let go at the end, the amount I needed came to me quite easily. Had I not struggled, I imagine that I may not have met my goal. It seems that giving up only works if there has been some degree of struggle before.
I don’t plan to give up on my current goals because I’ve made a commitment to them and am far too invested in them to forget about them or let them go.
Hi R,
Yes that sounds like the case.
Giving up or letting go can be an effective way to switch from a negative focus to a positive focus, or even just to the zero state, where the energy is free to flow.
So essentially, any time you are in the zero state, or in any non-resistant state, the energy will flow and bring you what is natural to your current subconscious structures. It’s a good way of determining what your current subconscious structures can support. I was impressed when I tried this in January and still got a good bit of money, even though I hadn’t been trying to manifest it.
Oddly, last month I didn’t get as much, but I was focusing more on business income, than overall income. My business income was higher last month than it had been nearly since the start, but overall income was slightly lower (though not uncomfortably so) than in January.
So if you like, you can go in short sprints. Speed up the energy, deal with the resistance, let go and see what comes. Speed up the energy, deal with the resistance, let go and see what comes. So on and so forth. It can be fun to see where your new comfort zone is located.
Thanks Brandon, that’s a really helpful explanation. I feel drawn to doing something like that with money this month while I focus on my other goals. Right now I have enough in my account from last month and will have more when I resell this higher priced item. I would like more, yes, but my priorities are on my other goals for this month. This may be a good experiment, like you mentioned, to see what my subconscious structures are supporting. My other goals though…no way am I giving those up this month! 🙂 There is definitely tension around my goals, and I feel the need to increase and normalize this tension to really speed up momentum. Maybe towards the end of their deadlines I will let go, but only if I truly feel that the structures are in place (like with my last money goal). Right now letting go would be far too uncomfortable.
Yep, I think you have a good intuitive grasp of the energetic flow. You don’t want to let go too early. 🙂
It’s not always een necessary to let go completely, either. I mean to let go of the goal. Of course you need to let go every time you focus, so that you don’t obsess about it.
My biggest goals have come when I’ve simply doubled down on the tension and really insisted that it happen. Letting go has worked a few times, too, so it just depends. Just saying that it depends on how the energy is flowing for you and how much resistance you have.
I usually only let go of my goals when I’m really beaten down by and torn apart by them. It’s like a last resort. (“Ok, I’ve done my part and can’t take it anymore. Here Universe, I hand this over to you.”) Even at times when I really insisted that certain goals happen, there is still a feeling of letting go to some extent.
I will have to relisten to this week’s podcast again, particularly the end where you talk about increasing the speed.
Yep I get what you mean. For me it’s switching from a sense of desperation and neediness, to one of confidence. That can feel like letting go, because in a way it’s less insistent. The energy is less lacking, and more about simply knowing it’ll happen. 🙂
That’s a good way of putting it! 🙂 It can really feel like surrender for me; surrendering after I’ve done what I can do and just trusting that it will happen. It’s a feeling of calmness, knowing and relief.
You know what this reminds me of Brandon? When I was about 12 or 13, there was this student trip I wanted to go on. Even after attending many informational meetings and fundraisers, I ended up not being able to go on that trip because the cost ended up being too high. BUT, I did not lose faith and was able to go on a trip to the one place I really wanted to visit. The trip I was planning to go would only spend one or two days in that city, but I ended up going that summer for 10 days and had a great time.
I’m also thinking of my experience in finding an au pair family and my computer. I kept believing and did not give up even in the face of defeat. I kept choosing my goal (unknowingly, of course) and eventually got it.
Hi R,
Those are such great experiences!
Yeah, persistence and will are so important. See the property of “power” that I’ll be discussing on Monday. I’ll go into a lot more detail.
I look forward to that post!
It seems that whenever I really want something specific and set a goal for it, I get it. I spend a lot of time thinking about and focusing on that thing and manifest it some way or another. These are often next level goals – kind of big jumps from my current level, but not too far fetched that they are completely unbelievable.
Brandon, have you come across Bentinho Massaro? He has a very slick website set up, which kind of puts me off a bit, but he has some interesting angles on LOA according to his ebook. Definitely using will to the max! Not sure i would go that far but it’s all useful info to take bits from.
I think reading widely and going with what resonates is a good approach, as long as it doesn’t resonate because it re-enforces negative subconscious beliefs of course. . .
I feel like I am at a stage where I can start ‘doing’ a bit more and amassing info a bit less 😉
Hi Jon,
His name rings a bell, but I don’t know much about him. Looking at his site, it doesn’t really resonate too much, but I find his journey interesting.
I agree about reading widely. I try to read a wide range of authors and LOA teachers. Sometimes I end up returning the book because it was nothing new, but sometimes it offers a fresh perspective that helps me with some aspect of my own work.
Hey Brandon,
Do you know the site CalmDownMind? I was reading an article on there just now about how our desires only manifest when we feel normal about them. In the comments, Sen (the site’s author) brought up how we should also visualize the negative aspects of having our goal.
Naturally, as I was reading, I thought about my own goals. A likely way I see myself achieving my moving goal, for instance, involves a big sacrifice on my behalf, something I really don’t want to do and could have negative long term effects, but I would be able to get the money fairly quickly. There are slower ways of getting there, but waiting feels worse.
I wonder about the complete truth of what Sen wrote because it didn’t feel bad or like a big sacrifice to get my computer, for example. I mean yes, it did only come after a lot of doubt, frustration and let downs, but it didn’t feel really awful or dreadful. It was pretty intense and frustrating at times. I was definitely tested, but overall I knew that I would still get a computer with everything I wanted on it despite all the negative emotions. I was really challenged by my own beliefs each time I refused to settle for something less than I wanted. Maybe I didn’t manifest the absolute highest possibility possible, but I did get a nice computer that I could afford, even if it was a bit above my spending comfort zone.
As I work on my music, I experience ups and downs, but the sense of accomplishment I feel is gratifying. It’s a calm feeling, good but not really buzzing off the walls happy, more like a balanced satisfying feeling (neutral good). Gratifying in a calm way, a deeper fulfillment. Earlier today I was really frustrated with a few songs. After taking a break though, I experienced a sense of joy when I noticed improvements in my delivery of a few of the songs. I also began writing down another song I had been toying with for a few months (flowed out easily). Of course I then ran into another frustrating issue, and so on and so forth. If it was too easy, it wouldn’t be enjoyable. All day I had been very aware of the contrast between emotional states. This contrast feels like a game almost: the emotional peaks and valleys are satisfying.
Sen also wrote about how we don’t need to set clear intentions, as once we clear out our inner imbalances/resistance and have a more realistic view of reality, we will naturally flow towards our true desires. I feel that setting intentions is kind of fun though. It’s fun to feel that energy move. On the other hand, there can be a lot of negative emotion with goal setting, namely intense doubt, frustration, anxiety and sometimes even depression. I guess setting next level goals fuels the emotional imbalance? Speeding up the energy is a bumpy ride: exhilarating and very uncomfortable.
I do wonder about the negative/dark aspects of the lives of people who are happily living their dreams. Especially those who post all over social media snippets from their amazing lives. Perhaps they are just living out the balance of light after intense darkness?
I also notice this light/dark polarity in relationship to how I feel about and evidence I see if my goals. Some days, I feel very confident about my goals and notice evidence of their manifestation. Other days I feel very doubtful and fearful noticing manifestations of my own resistance.
I thought the CalmDownMind article was very wise. I used to experience extreme joy and extreme depression, but now I’m more balanced. I still have a tendency to be delusional and unrealistic though (something with my birth chart perhaps?) These tendencies to fantasize are holding up my goals probably. I have trouble getting rid of them though. I’ve been a day dreamer/very imaginative since I can remember! In school I would often get in trouble for day dreaming and not being present in class.
Hi R,
Nothing wrong with being a daydreamer. I’ve always had seemingly unrealistic goals myself, too. But then, I’m living out several of those goals now.
You used that word “unrealistic” again. I think there are very few things that are unrealistic. Not saying nothing is unrealistic, but as my emails always say, Anything is possible.
Of course I do think you need to get to the place of feeling normal about these things, but that’s just part of the process of creation.
I also think that article is a good one. I just have a few minor disagreements with it, as I mentioned above.
Hi R,
yes I know of that site, an it’s one of my favorites. 🙂
However, I don’t agree about thinking of the negative aspects of your goal. There don’t have to be negative aspects. You’re a creator: there doesn’t need to be a trade off.
I do think it takes working through resistance to get there, but once you are there, it should be enjoyable, but of course normal.
All the manifestations I’ve received were positive. Times when I thought something would be negative, it really didn’t turn out that way, when I trusted.
A few times in the past I had something negative turn out, but it was only because I wasn’t able to let go fully and trust.
I also disagree with not having to set an intention. As you know, I am fully in favor of setting strong goals that we want to achieve.
I hate the word “realistic”. What’s it even mean? People usually use it to say something like, “Oh, be realistic. You can’t do X.” But, there have usually been people who have done X before you. It’s usually a way to limit the Universe.
Yes you’re right that speeding up the energy is bumpy. But I don’t think I’d have it any other way. And I think other creatives are the same.
As far as the negative aspects of the lives of others, in my experience, they are definitely present, but those people aren’t going to post about it on Facebook. Why would they? It’s not even about pretending, it’s just that they might want to work through that personally.
But I don’t think that life always has to be difficult or anything. yes there will always be resistance of some kind, but once you learn how to work with that, that is not a bad thing.
HI Brandon,
Thanks for your detailed reply. Your view seems much closer to what I feel to be true. I was doubting myself heavily after reading that article. I just kept thinking, should we have to give so much focus to unwanted aspects of our desire? And why shouldn’t we have desires? Having specific goals and desires is fun! Sure resistance is always there is some form or another, but it’s not always this dreadful awful thing. It can be more of a nuisance or just feeling like you’d prefer a few things to be different about the situation.
There have been quite a few times when I had gotten something that came with little resistance. The resistance came up strongly as I was working on getting that thing though. 🙂
Yes creative people do seem to enjoy contrast! I find the ride for the most part enjoyable, even if it’s a bit bumpy at times. Choosing and achieving your goals is fun and forces you to grow.
I was using the word realistic a lot as it was used frequently in the article and proceeding comments I read. I always got in trouble by my parents for being unrealistic. What you said is true though. I mean, at some point most of what we have today was considered unrealistic.
Hi R,
Thanks. Yeah I actually really enjoy the feeling of releasing a bit of resistance and palpably moving deeper into the vibrational signature of my goal. It’s a great feeling!
Resistance doesn’t at all have to be a difficult thing, especially once you learn the tricks of how to best deal with it.
I know how it is to feel like what you want is unrealistic. I’ve mentioned before my mother always wanted me to get a good job with high pay. I’m also a programmer, so I think she expected me to get a well-paying job as a computer programmer / software engineer, and be set for life.
Obviously I didn’t live up to those expectations. The truth is that I never really enjoyed having to make things for others that I didn’t really want to make. I used to do freelancing, and hated it. I love making things I am passionate about, like plugins that I want for this site, such as the astrology features I’ve added. That’s really fun for me.
Anyway I rambled, sorry. The point was, I used to think it was unrealistic to make money working with some field of spirituality. But, here I am. 🙂 Took a lot of overcoming of limiting beliefs to realize I was worth being paid the amount I am, and what I offer is worth that much, too. But once I did, then it started flowing. 😀
Thank you Brandon for sharing your experience. I really like the moon phase plugin by the way.
I understand exactly what you mean about blocks in the way of getting paid what you’re worth. I definitely have those in place that I’m working on getting rid of. It’s been really difficult for me to get rid of them, but having to settle for less with money frustrates me to no end.
I just saw your new podcast episode was uploaded. 🙂 I’ve only read a little bit of the transcript and will listen to the entire episode later. What you wrote about excitement makes me think of Christmas and birthday gifts when I was younger. Before getting the gifts I wanted, I felt a bit anxious as to whether I’d actually get them. When I did get them, I was really happy for a day or two, but then these new toys felt normal. I enjoyed playing with them, but I had new desires for other toys arise.
Hi R,
Thanks. The blocks can be difficult. But it is very possible to overcome them.
Yeah I had the birthday/Christmas issue as well. 🙂 That’s honestly how I’ve discovered a lot of this, at least initially. For me I’d rarely touch a present after a few days.