Is it possible to have total freedom from resistance? What would a life be like that had no resistance at all? And, is this even desirable?
As I’ve discussed recently, creative tension is an essential part of the process of creation. Without tension, there is no growth.
However, a lot of people don’t like that tension. Resistance is uncomfortable. I receive a lot of questions about how exactly people can have total freedom from resistance.
But, the truth is that both tension (or resistance) and relaxation have a part in the creative process. You cannot have one without the other. Permanent freedom from resistance would not actually be desirable, and you’ll see why in this post.
The Transformative Power of Resistance
Resistance is a transformative process. Without resistance, there would be no growth. It takes resistance to change you into the person that is a match to your desired manifestation.
I wish I remembered where I heard this, but I once heard of a story of a scientist who was observing a bird being hatched. He saw the bird struggling and struggling to get through the shell. Feeling bad for it, he reached over and helped to break the shell, just a little. And, the bird wasn’t able to survive. It needed the resistance of that shell to prepare it for life, and even just helping it a little bit, the scientist stripped it of that necessity.
When you hold the vision of your goal, it sets up creative tension. When it is a next-level goal, as it often will be, your subconscious mind will let you know why you don’t have that goal yet. This is resistance.
Releasing resistance towards your goal will shape you into the person you need to be in order to become a match to that goal. Your current way of thinking is incompatible with your manifestation, and that’s why it feels resistant. Continuing to focus on the goal anyway, and moving through that resistance, will reprogram you to be a match. It transforms you from the inside out.
Manifestation is not just a matter of focusing on what you want, and what you want coming to you. When what you want is a next level goal, you have to change to meet it. Just like the bird, who needed the pressure and resistance of that shell to strengthen and develop, so you need the creative tension and resistance of your goal in order to successfully attain it.
Geysers: An Example of the Importance of Resistance
In the image above you see a geyser. A geyser is a great example of resistance in action. This page explains that cool water beneath the ground filters down until it reaches a layer of hot rocks, at which point it begins to boil. However, with the pressure from above, it is unable to turn to steam, and becomes superheated water. Eventually, it becomes so hot that it overwhelms the pressure above, and shoots out in a geyser.
As you’ll see, this is a perfect example of the importance of tension, but also of relaxation and release. Without tension or resistance, the water would not build up the momentum it needed. Without the release, it could not come out as a geyser, but would remain trapped, or more likely just find another path of least resistance. Resistance and release, tension and relaxation, are two sides of the same coin. One naturally leads to the other.
Total Freedom from Resistance Robs You of the Ability to Transform
Total freedom from resistance might sound like a great thing. We are programmed to desire happiness, and we would obviously love that happiness to last. Heck, the world’s biggest religions have the concept of eternal happiness as part of their doctrine.
But here’s the thing: when you don’t have resistance, you don’t have change. Resistance is the catalyst of transformation. Without resistance, transformation cannot happen. And when transformation does not happen, change does not happen.
That means, as long as you want something greater, you’ll have resistance. You’ll need to transform to match that something greater, and that means developing that creative tension that will pull you towards your goal. Permanent freedom from resistance would not allow you to develop this creative tension, and therefore you could not have the momentum necessary to move towards your goal.
You’ll Never Stop Wanting Something Greater
Some paths, like Buddhism, or Advaita, respond to the above by simply trying to shut off the capacity to desire. If desire will always lead to resistance, or suffering, then let’s just stop desiring, right?
But the desire to stop desiring is, well, just another desire. It’s turtles all the way down, as they say. 🙂
You can’t possibly shut off your desires. They might change into new desires, but you will always desire something greater. Desire is the engine of growth. Growth only comes about by resistance. It’s all tied together in one big package.
Freedom from resistance means freedom from striving for more, which you will never stop doing. There will never be a day when you say to yourself, “Finally, I have arrived. I no longer desire anything.” It’s the whole setup of the game we’re in. It’s built that way, so that growth is constantly happening. Without growth, what’s the point?
You Can Never Escape Resistance
So for that reason, the moment you set your vision on something new, you can be guaranteed that a good chunk of resistance is going to arise almost immediately. Life is going to challenge you. You’re going to be like that little bird fighting to get out of the egg, or like the superheated water trying to find a way out of the ground.
The bird can’t just choose to stay in the egg, and the water can’t choose to stay underground. Change has to happen. And the process of change is resistance. It is inescapable.
You can’t choose to stay in your current situation. Even if there are aspects that are pleasant, and I’m sure there are, there are also aspects you’d like to change. And that is okay: you have to acknowledge and embrace that. Staying where you are is just becoming stagnant. It is refusing to move because moving is too frightening, but just like the water in the geyser, movement will happen eventually, once the pressure becomes too great.
Finding the Balance: Release Is Necessary, Too
I said above that they are two sides of the same coin. The bird eventually gets out of the egg. The water eventually shoots up out of the ground. The pressure of their resistant state is not an end, but simply a means to something else. It has to lead to resolution. It has to move towards the aim of that process.
Let’s say you’re looking for a job. The process of looking is the resistance, or creative tension. It feels unresolved. It’s not completely comfortable. But it’s also not a situation that lasts forever. It has to get resolved, somehow.
You have to allow the resistance, by not trying to run away from the discomfort. But you also have to allow the resolution and release of that resistance, by receiving and acknowledging the desired goal.
This is not the same as seeking freedom from resistance. You allowed the discomfort. Then, you welcomed its resolution. You also know there will be greater change in the future. Maybe you’ll look for a promotion, or eventually you’ll want another job. Things will change somehow, and that will lead right back to resistance again. It’s a constantly moving cycle.
Living the Cycle of Resistance and Release
Manifestation is about getting comfortable with this cycle. It’s about realizing that the resistance is a necessary part of the process, and allowing it to play out to its resolution. It’s about trusting the process, that it will indeed resolve. And, it’s about not trying to escape that discomfort, because you realize its importance in the process of transformation.
Creation occurs in a cycle, not only within each manifestation, as resistance > release/completion, but also in a broader way. You might make some serious progress in one area of life for a while, really leveraging the power of resistance to transform, and seeing major changes in your life as a result. That is the resistance mode of manifesting. But you also need a period of resolution. You need a time for those changes to stabilize and catch up with you. This is the release mode.
My Own Experience with the Resistance and Release Cycle
I’ve mentioned lately that I’ve had huge success over the last three months, since discovering the resistance / tension mode of manifesting. I set big goals, and achieved every one.
But, after last month’s goal, which was the biggest of them all yet, I felt this need to withdraw, let go, and conserve my energy for a while. I had gone through major change, and now it was time to let that catch up with me a bit.
So, I promised myself that in January, I’d allow things to settle down a bit. I’d give my subconscious mind a chance to regroup and integrate all of the learnings from the past three months.
Actually, I’ll start that officially once the psychic course is underway. This course is another massive undertaking for me, and so it’s important to me that it goes well. But once it commences, I am giving myself a bit of a break.
And I know that when the time is right, my energy will naturally move me to growing towards the next level, because that’s the cycle. It’s inevitable. As I said, there is no permanent freedom from resistance, only temporary hiatuses, until we once again become restless and desirous of change yet again. 🙂
The Nature of the Resistance Mode of Manifesting
In the resistance / tension mode, you set a definitive next level goal that is inspiring, believable, and challenging.
Then, you allow that goal to challenge you. You allow it to bring up your resistance. You focus on it at least once a day, and do the work of releasing resistance to the best of your ability, while moving into the vibrational signature of the goal.
I’ve said before that this can be pretty terrifying at times. Let it be. I’ll discuss on Thursday how you can successfully deal with this step, but it is vital that you do not run away from it. It requires something of you, and your only two options are to (1) hold the vision anyway until it resolves, or (2) drop the vision and feel comfortable for the moment, but without lasting change.
It’s the simple act of holding to that vision despite the resistance to it that generates the momentum towards your goal. When you hold the vision regardless of what’s going on in your subconscious, or even in outer reality, you root yourself to that new reality which you are envisioning, and it quickly manifests.
Therefore the process of the resistance mode can be summarized as:
- Deliberately choose a next level goal
- Hold the vision despite the discomfort
- Receive the goal when it comes
The Nature of the Release Mode of Manifesting
You might be able to do the above for even a few of your goals in succession. But, eventually, your energy will naturally tend towards rest. You’ll know it’s time to take a break, and allow your subconscious mind to integrate all the changes you’ve undergone.
This is a very important period in the overall process. It allows you to stabilize at your new level. It may not appear as though much is happening on the outside, but within the subconscious mind, a lot is going on.
It’s sort of like the relationship between waking and sleeping. When you’re awake, you can accomplish a lot. But sleep is necessary in order to integrate what you achieved during the day. It’s the yin to the yang of the waking state. Without that essential sleep stage, you’ll lose a lot of the progress you might have made that day.
And so it is with manifesting. The resistance mode, which is the yang end of this spectrum, is all about pushing forward and creating major change. But the release mode is the yin aspect, and it is just as important. It is where everything is integrated and taken in by your subconscious mind. Then, when you return to the resistance mode once again, you will likely be even further along than you were before.
Bringing It All Together
Total freedom from resistance is not possible. Freedom from resistance is not even desirable, because resistance is the vehicle of change, and you will always want change.
However, temporary respites from resistance is importance, and it forms the 2 modes of the law of attraction that we’ve discussed: the resistance mode, and the release mode.
The resistance mode is that creative tension I’ve been discussing. It is the major catalyst of change in your life. It pushes you forward towards your next level goals.
But the release mode is just as important. While it does not offer permanent freedom from resistance, it does allow you to rest, while integrating all of the changes and transformation from the resistance mode.
If you really want to be the deliberate creator of your life, then it’s essential that you get comfortable with discomfort. But, it should not be a permanent state of affairs, either. By finding the balance between resistance and release, you can maximize your effectiveness as a creator.
How About You?
Now it’s your turn. Are you allowing the transformative power of resistance and creative tension in your life? How will you apply these 2 modes of manifesting: the resistance mode, and the release mode? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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Hi B,
Adyashanti, Osho, Tolle, Bernadete Roberts and many others have said that struggle and resistance seem to be necessary to get us up to a critical point, but eventually there’s a complete letting go of struggle. This moment often happens after all the effort fails to produce lasting happiness and there’s a complete exhaustion. Whether the effort is in meditation or business or whatever, it’s that giving up which allows IT to transform us. When IT takes over, it still runs through cycles of tensioning/releasing, until it’s done. Final enlightenment.
Hi CJ,
Thanks for your comment.
This is similar to what I’m talking about, but not exactly.
Creative tension really does have an effect. It is not just something we try until we finally decide to let go.
Really that’s the whole point of this post. A lot of LOA teachers say to skip the tension part, and simply let go from the beginning. But from dozens of reports I’ve personally read or been told, it doesn’t work, unless the subconscious is already compatible with that goal.
Creative tension is not a waste of time. It is the catalyst to push you forward.
I also don’t know if I quite believe in a final enlightenment, where there is no more striving or growing. I’ve read the accounts of many masters, and most of them still seem very inspired to do something or another. I think that rather than totally being freed of resistance, they’ve rather learned the trick to dealing with it simply and effortlessly, without much fuss, by living from the zero state.
“I also don’t know if I quite believe in a final enlightenment, where there is no more striving or growing. I’ve read the accounts of many masters, and most of them still seem very inspired to do something or another. I think that rather than totally being freed of resistance, they’ve rather learned the trick to dealing with it simply and effortlessly, without much fuss, by living from the zero state”.
I believe in final enlightenment. After the big E, the only difference is there’s no focal “I” doing the directing, and therefore no one to suffer. Things still happen, stuff gets done, everything is inspired, but I’m not doing it, IT is. That is to say, the universe is doing it, because I no longer operates.
I’m just parroting what I’ve read, obviously. Makes sense to me though. I’ve personally met and spoken with two so-called enlightened people and it didn’t help me!! Strangely, they both live within 10 minutes of me, which must be quite a rarity.
That’s cool. I did a lot of in depth study and practice with non-duality some time ago. A lot of people believe that enlightenment will end all problems for them. Even Adyashanti says this isn’t true, and it’s more like a beginning to something new, than an ending.
Enlightenment is hyped up a lot. Less ego involvement is a very good thing. But despite what people say, the ego never dies completely, or else you couldn’t exist on this plane. It’s more like a mastering of ego, so the ego isn’t in control anymore.
All very interesting, though. 🙂
Hi B,
Adyashanti, Osho, Tolle, Bernadete Roberts and many others have said that struggle and resistance seem to be necessary to get us up to a critical point, but eventually there’s a complete letting go of struggle. This moment often happens after all the effort fails to produce lasting happiness and there’s a complete exhaustion. Whether the effort is in meditation or business or whatever, it’s that giving up which allows IT to transform us. When IT takes over, it still runs through cycles of tensioning/releasing, until it’s done. Final enlightenment.
Hi CJ,
Thanks for your comment.
This is similar to what I’m talking about, but not exactly.
Creative tension really does have an effect. It is not just something we try until we finally decide to let go.
Really that’s the whole point of this post. A lot of LOA teachers say to skip the tension part, and simply let go from the beginning. But from dozens of reports I’ve personally read or been told, it doesn’t work, unless the subconscious is already compatible with that goal.
Creative tension is not a waste of time. It is the catalyst to push you forward.
I also don’t know if I quite believe in a final enlightenment, where there is no more striving or growing. I’ve read the accounts of many masters, and most of them still seem very inspired to do something or another. I think that rather than totally being freed of resistance, they’ve rather learned the trick to dealing with it simply and effortlessly, without much fuss, by living from the zero state.
“I also don’t know if I quite believe in a final enlightenment, where there is no more striving or growing. I’ve read the accounts of many masters, and most of them still seem very inspired to do something or another. I think that rather than totally being freed of resistance, they’ve rather learned the trick to dealing with it simply and effortlessly, without much fuss, by living from the zero state”.
I believe in final enlightenment. After the big E, the only difference is there’s no focal “I” doing the directing, and therefore no one to suffer. Things still happen, stuff gets done, everything is inspired, but I’m not doing it, IT is. That is to say, the universe is doing it, because I no longer operates.
I’m just parroting what I’ve read, obviously. Makes sense to me though. I’ve personally met and spoken with two so-called enlightened people and it didn’t help me!! Strangely, they both live within 10 minutes of me, which must be quite a rarity.
That’s cool. I did a lot of in depth study and practice with non-duality some time ago. A lot of people believe that enlightenment will end all problems for them. Even Adyashanti says this isn’t true, and it’s more like a beginning to something new, than an ending.
Enlightenment is hyped up a lot. Less ego involvement is a very good thing. But despite what people say, the ego never dies completely, or else you couldn’t exist on this plane. It’s more like a mastering of ego, so the ego isn’t in control anymore.
All very interesting, though. 🙂
Even God took the last day off, right? 🙂
Yes, this is a good description of what goes on. I like to call it pleasantly pursue the goal. I keep reminding myself of this because I tend to get stressed out about it, especially since others comment on my lack of progress, when in reality, I move so much behind the scenes in order to go on with some things. There are no overnight successes, though the populace seems to think so, but then again, look at where most people are. Anyway, it is very much a process and it makes sense.
Hi Kat,
Yes, very true. 🙂 It does take time, though not always. We’ll actually be mentioning that in this weekend’s podcast, that manifestations don’t always have to take a lot of time. sometimes they do, certainly, but it depends.
But it’s true that so much happens in the background. I do like that Abraham says that 99% of the process happens in the non-physical. It’s only much later on that it actually starts to manifest. As I say in The Art of Reality Creation, it’s one of the latter stages of any manifestation when it starts to come into the physical.
Even God took the last day off, right? 🙂
Yes, this is a good description of what goes on. I like to call it pleasantly pursue the goal. I keep reminding myself of this because I tend to get stressed out about it, especially since others comment on my lack of progress, when in reality, I move so much behind the scenes in order to go on with some things. There are no overnight successes, though the populace seems to think so, but then again, look at where most people are. Anyway, it is very much a process and it makes sense.
Hi Kat,
Yes, very true. 🙂 It does take time, though not always. We’ll actually be mentioning that in this weekend’s podcast, that manifestations don’t always have to take a lot of time. sometimes they do, certainly, but it depends.
But it’s true that so much happens in the background. I do like that Abraham says that 99% of the process happens in the non-physical. It’s only much later on that it actually starts to manifest. As I say in The Art of Reality Creation, it’s one of the latter stages of any manifestation when it starts to come into the physical.
CJ,
I do believe you absolutely can let go of struggle and learn to decrease your resistance greatly. I think that’s what the zero state teaches us. However, I would say it is simply impossible to fully let go of resistance while living in a body, That’s what death is ha. Of course, massive resistance due to old limiting beliefs will cause immense suffering. I can attest to this and also a cause of chronic disease, when we resist the flow of who we are. The subconscious develops beliefs which at the time, (often in childhood), it believed were keeping us safe, but these then developed into habits which are just programmed in the subconscious. They no longer serve us. and NLP which is the process of brain re-training that I have used for my own chronic disease, is a wonderful method to change those habits.
As long as you have a survival mechanism/nervous system/subconscious mind, it will react defensively to things that it deems as potentially dangerous. Of course, that would be dependent also on what limiting beliefs we might have as well, as far as how much resistance to everyday things there is.
But, you couldn’t live in physical life without that resistance from the survival apparatus. You’d be dead in an instant. In the non physical, manifestations happen instantaneously. You wouldn’t want that here, in the physical. The position of ‘not having it’ is what makes the manifestation process and human life seem so real to us. And you can only ‘not have something’ initially, because there is a level of resistance to it. So, resistance will always be a factor, but I strongly believe that resistance early in life is a sort of ‘contrast’ that Abe would call. It was for me and there is no need for immense suffering/ resistance later in life. But, there will always be SOME level of resistance for as long as you occupy a human body with a survival mechanism.
So, I like to thank my survival/physical mind for the job it does and simply soothe the resistance when manifesting.
Exactly right on all counts, Derek. The subconscious mind is not the enemy. In fact it is invaluable to our survival, as you said. The ego is not the enemy, either. It’s just a system of programs that were meant to help us. We can retrain the ego to be beneficial to us.
But yes absolutely, resistance will always be here. That was the point of this post. That’s why I’m extremely skeptical of people who say they are totally “enlightened”. Yes, there’s an extreme diminution of ego. There’s greater centeredness in the zero state. But, the ego never dies. There’s no “eternal bliss” where there is no resistance whatsoever. That wouldn’t even be desirable. I truly believe that if we were in some state of perpetual joy, even then we’d still seek for something more, and in the seeking for something more, there would be resistance, and then release: the cycle of creation. It’s inevitable.
This weekend’s podcast will go into more explanation on the zero state and how it helps with limiting beliefs. I think you’ll enjoy it. 🙂
Thanks Brandon. If I’m around, will definitely check it out. Will there be a free recording?
Oh the podcast? It’s totally free. It’ll be published on the blog this Saturday. 🙂
I would appreciate some more clarity on the zero state and limiting beliefs so I’ll be looking forward to this 🙂
Awesome. If you use iTunes, you can subscribe here. It’ll be on the blog, too, though. 🙂
CJ,
I do believe you absolutely can let go of struggle and learn to decrease your resistance greatly. I think that’s what the zero state teaches us. However, I would say it is simply impossible to fully let go of resistance while living in a body, That’s what death is ha. Of course, massive resistance due to old limiting beliefs will cause immense suffering. I can attest to this and also a cause of chronic disease, when we resist the flow of who we are. The subconscious develops beliefs which at the time, (often in childhood), it believed were keeping us safe, but these then developed into habits which are just programmed in the subconscious. They no longer serve us. and NLP which is the process of brain re-training that I have used for my own chronic disease, is a wonderful method to change those habits.
As long as you have a survival mechanism/nervous system/subconscious mind, it will react defensively to things that it deems as potentially dangerous. Of course, that would be dependent also on what limiting beliefs we might have as well, as far as how much resistance to everyday things there is.
But, you couldn’t live in physical life without that resistance from the survival apparatus. You’d be dead in an instant. In the non physical, manifestations happen instantaneously. You wouldn’t want that here, in the physical. The position of ‘not having it’ is what makes the manifestation process and human life seem so real to us. And you can only ‘not have something’ initially, because there is a level of resistance to it. So, resistance will always be a factor, but I strongly believe that resistance early in life is a sort of ‘contrast’ that Abe would call. It was for me and there is no need for immense suffering/ resistance later in life. But, there will always be SOME level of resistance for as long as you occupy a human body with a survival mechanism.
So, I like to thank my survival/physical mind for the job it does and simply soothe the resistance when manifesting.
Exactly right on all counts, Derek. The subconscious mind is not the enemy. In fact it is invaluable to our survival, as you said. The ego is not the enemy, either. It’s just a system of programs that were meant to help us. We can retrain the ego to be beneficial to us.
But yes absolutely, resistance will always be here. That was the point of this post. That’s why I’m extremely skeptical of people who say they are totally “enlightened”. Yes, there’s an extreme diminution of ego. There’s greater centeredness in the zero state. But, the ego never dies. There’s no “eternal bliss” where there is no resistance whatsoever. That wouldn’t even be desirable. I truly believe that if we were in some state of perpetual joy, even then we’d still seek for something more, and in the seeking for something more, there would be resistance, and then release: the cycle of creation. It’s inevitable.
This weekend’s podcast will go into more explanation on the zero state and how it helps with limiting beliefs. I think you’ll enjoy it. 🙂
Thanks Brandon. If I’m around, will definitely check it out. Will there be a free recording?
Oh the podcast? It’s totally free. It’ll be published on the blog this Saturday. 🙂
I would appreciate some more clarity on the zero state and limiting beliefs so I’ll be looking forward to this 🙂
Awesome. If you use iTunes, you can subscribe here. It’ll be on the blog, too, though. 🙂
Since you guys, Derek and Brandon, have done NLP, what does it say about maintaining overall health and wellbeing? As in, how do you do it?
I know you’ll ask about a specific example, so let’s say getting healthy after an illness or how do you get muscles to function well again after straining, let’s say? I’m curious about this since NLP is sort of a way of life.
NLP on its own is totally non-mystical. It’s a psychological technique. If you ask most NLP practitioners how to get healthy again, they’ll say to do the things necessary to get healthy, physically speaking. If you have trouble with that, NLP can help with the motivation, such as making your goal seem more important and more possible, but it’s all psychological.
Kat, I am doing a specific brain retraining program which uses a lot of NLP and it’s for people with chronic illness (chronic fatigue for me). The premise of the program is no different than anything we talk about here and it’s more of a spiritual awakening/manifestation program in a sense (which is how I am choosing to look at it). I gave CJ info on it as him and I have explored similar programs, but I don’t think it fit him. However, I’d be glad to provide you some info if you would like. I don’t know if you are looking to heal from something or not. It really depends on what your goal is.
Thank you so much, Derek.
Yes, I am interested because I was told all my muscle pains come from other factors, i.e., my sciatica comes from fear, groin pain from tension, I am not even breathing properly, etc. I would like to further look into these. My body is basically this pretzel and I am in pain. I know the body can heal itself. There is no PMing on here, but if you would please forward some info or a website, that would be great! I’ll also aks you more as it arises. Thank you!
Hi Kat,
I’ll just give you the name of the program and if you want more info, feel free to email me. The program I am doing is called the “gupta programme”. My email is dmann8681@gmail.com.
The program specializes in people with chronic fatigue and chronic pain (fibromyalgia). So, I don’t know what your cause of pain is, but can’t hurt to look into. Ultimately, I don’t think you really need a ‘program’ itself. I think Brandon’s info is enough. I’ve been doing the program before I discovered Brandon’s site. But, if you’ll notice, they are ultimately very similar and almost identical. Except the program that I do specializes specifically in chronic illness.
Let me know if you have more questions
I know that resistance sometimes feels like discomfort, but does it always have to feel that way? To me, the word “discomfort” signals something unpleasant, like a toothache. I think you can experience the tension of resistance in a way that is not necessarily unpleasant. For example, maybe you can remember being a kid on Christmas morning waiting for your parents to get up so you can open presents. There was an intensity of feeling and eagerness–even impatience–but it didn’t feel like a bad thing. It was just a very excited state of tension.
Another example might be when you’re waiting in line for your favorite theme park, and you see the theme park workers walking up to open the gates. You’re very excited, you want to be in there already, but you don’t feel unhappy or in pain or distressed or anything like that. Quite the opposite! You’re very happy and anticipatory. To me, the tension of waiting eagerly for your favorite restaurant meal to be served or for your package to arrive is not always unpleasant. It’s tension, but it’s not “discomfort,” in my terminology.
I just wanted to make sure that if anyone else reading this associates “discomfort” with something negative (like when a doctor asks you, “Are you feeling any discomfort in this arm?”) knows that resistance does not have to be a painful or unpleasant state. Tension does not have to feel negative. It could feel neutral, and maybe even positive sometimes.
Hi Lisa,
I agree it doesn’t always have to feel bad. Though, your examples are for situations that are already quite believable to you, and so they would be current level goals.
But any time you are striving for a next level goal, which is out of your current range of easy belief, well it is going to be a bit uncomfortable. It’s just the nature of it. That discomfort is the process of your subconscious mind coming into alignment with that goal and fully accepting it.
I’m not really sure any other way to put that. It’s not just excitement, because at this point, you are not totally sure it’s going to happen.
Imagine something you’re anticipating, but aren’t quite sure about. Perhaps a new job that you’d really like to get, but aren’t quite confident you’ll get it. You’re certainly excited, but there’s a bit of discomfort as you align with that goal. It’s a stretching, striving, definite resistance-based sort of state. And then if you get it, there’s relief.
Does that make it a bit clearer? It’s not just something you know is going to happen, or else this principle doesn’t apply, because that would be a current level goal. It’s something that you really hope will happen, but honestly have no idea.
For the last three months or so, I’ve lived in this sort of balance. My goals seemed impossible, but I held on to them anyway. And it was pretty uncomfortable for a while, not just exciting. As I got closer to them, there was more excitement and less discomfort.
But the reason I’m playing up the “discomfort” thing here is because a lot of people try to run away from that. To me, it’s a necessary part of the process. You’re not there yet. Of course you feel uncomfortable, or resistant a little. That’s natural. But a lot of law of attraction practitioners try to escape that feeling, by “distracting” themselves with feel-good thoughts. Like I’ve seen the advice before, “Just think about puppies and kittens to distract yourself from the resistance.” That to me is not beneficial at all.
Ah, I think I understand now. So the resistance might feel negative, neutral, or even good if you’re heading towards a goal on the level that you’re at, but it will feel negative if you’re trying to move up a level. Is that right? It does seem true that any time I try to move to a new level, the resistance feels unpleasant.
I agree with you that distracting yourself with puppies and kittens when you feel the next-level resistance is usually bad advice. I mean, if the resistance is just overwhelming and you want to watch a cat video to calm down, that’s fine. But if you want to move forward with a next-level goal, sooner or later you need to learn to handle the resistance differently.
Thanks for the clarification! Much appreciated.
Hi Lisa,
Yes. Usually for a current level goal, there will be little to no resistance. At most you might have a bit of anxiety, but usually the process should be pretty clear-cut. I recently discussed how I manifested a plugin I needed for WordPress. I thought I’d have to pay $50, but didn’t feel comfortable with it. I ended up finding another one that was equally as good, and free. There was no resistance, and I was just surprised when the manifestation happened. I wasn’t even really trying to manifest anything, but it just slipped into my reality.
Same thing happened with my computer charger. My old one was fraying. Mac chargers are like $80 though, and so I was putting it off. Then randomly I found that I had a spare charger I had forgotten about. So, $80 saved. 🙂 Effortless manifestation.
But both of those were current level goals. It took no effort at all to manifest.
I think this is what most LOA teachers mean, when they talk about how to manifest. They talk about it being effortless, and always feeling good. But that’s not going to stretch you. Yes, you can get parking spaces and other easy things to you with that technique, but you can’t get to the next level. That’s why most people complain that small manifestations are easy, but they can’t get bigger ones. They just don’t have the tools to get those bigger manifestations.
I vibe with about 50 percent of what Abe says greatly, and the other 50 percent makes me cringe ha. You and I both coming from a background in non-duality, is probably why both of us have never jived with the idea of ‘distraction’. To me, it misses the mark greatly on why the resistance is there in the first place. Some teachings like Eckhart Tolle have this big fascination with making the ego the enemy (perhaps from their own misunderstanding of resistance).
It didn’t make sense until recently (largely with a lot of help from reading your blogs) that resistance IS our friend and to me is where the self love component comes in so greatly.
The universe is inclusive which even Abe acknowledges, then why would you distract yourself? It’s not about indulging into negative stories, but you absolutely CAN be with the emotion without driving the story. I mean, it’s really just an old story. That’s all it really is. And yes, it takes practice not to give that story life, but there needs to be an understanding of why that story is playing out as a habit. But, Abe refuses to acknowledge that a subconscious exists and this is why their followers (who are often like drones lol) just re-regurgitate anything Abe says. But, there is a lot I like about Abe too, so I don’t want to completely bash them here 🙂
Yes exactly right. We talked a lot about this in last night’s support call (posting it soon, I promise ????). The ego is not the enemy, and neither is the subconscious mind.
Yeah some stuff is good, but mostly it’s coming from a perspective of the world that’s just not reflective of reality. E.g., they say that high vibration = bliss/joy/happiness, and that’s not necessarily true. You have to get comfortable with the whole spectrum of emotion, because that’s what’s real, even if you are in the zero state all day.
I think a balance is best. I agree many non-dual people like Eckhart Tolle and the like, overplay the “ego is the enemy” line. It’s really not. It’s just playing out the programming you taught it.
Since you guys, Derek and Brandon, have done NLP, what does it say about maintaining overall health and wellbeing? As in, how do you do it?
I know you’ll ask about a specific example, so let’s say getting healthy after an illness or how do you get muscles to function well again after straining, let’s say? I’m curious about this since NLP is sort of a way of life.
NLP on its own is totally non-mystical. It’s a psychological technique. If you ask most NLP practitioners how to get healthy again, they’ll say to do the things necessary to get healthy, physically speaking. If you have trouble with that, NLP can help with the motivation, such as making your goal seem more important and more possible, but it’s all psychological.
Kat, I am doing a specific brain retraining program which uses a lot of NLP and it’s for people with chronic illness (chronic fatigue for me). The premise of the program is no different than anything we talk about here and it’s more of a spiritual awakening/manifestation program in a sense (which is how I am choosing to look at it). I gave CJ info on it as him and I have explored similar programs, but I don’t think it fit him. However, I’d be glad to provide you some info if you would like. I don’t know if you are looking to heal from something or not. It really depends on what your goal is.
Thank you so much, Derek.
Yes, I am interested because I was told all my muscle pains come from other factors, i.e., my sciatica comes from fear, groin pain from tension, I am not even breathing properly, etc. I would like to further look into these. My body is basically this pretzel and I am in pain. I know the body can heal itself. There is no PMing on here, but if you would please forward some info or a website, that would be great! I’ll also aks you more as it arises. Thank you!
Hi Kat,
I’ll just give you the name of the program and if you want more info, feel free to email me. The program I am doing is called the “gupta programme”. My email is dmann8681@gmail.com.
The program specializes in people with chronic fatigue and chronic pain (fibromyalgia). So, I don’t know what your cause of pain is, but can’t hurt to look into. Ultimately, I don’t think you really need a ‘program’ itself. I think Brandon’s info is enough. I’ve been doing the program before I discovered Brandon’s site. But, if you’ll notice, they are ultimately very similar and almost identical. Except the program that I do specializes specifically in chronic illness.
Let me know if you have more questions
I know that resistance sometimes feels like discomfort, but does it always have to feel that way? To me, the word “discomfort” signals something unpleasant, like a toothache. I think you can experience the tension of resistance in a way that is not necessarily unpleasant. For example, maybe you can remember being a kid on Christmas morning waiting for your parents to get up so you can open presents. There was an intensity of feeling and eagerness–even impatience–but it didn’t feel like a bad thing. It was just a very excited state of tension.
Another example might be when you’re waiting in line for your favorite theme park, and you see the theme park workers walking up to open the gates. You’re very excited, you want to be in there already, but you don’t feel unhappy or in pain or distressed or anything like that. Quite the opposite! You’re very happy and anticipatory. To me, the tension of waiting eagerly for your favorite restaurant meal to be served or for your package to arrive is not always unpleasant. It’s tension, but it’s not “discomfort,” in my terminology.
I just wanted to make sure that if anyone else reading this associates “discomfort” with something negative (like when a doctor asks you, “Are you feeling any discomfort in this arm?”) knows that resistance does not have to be a painful or unpleasant state. Tension does not have to feel negative. It could feel neutral, and maybe even positive sometimes.
Hi Lisa,
I agree it doesn’t always have to feel bad. Though, your examples are for situations that are already quite believable to you, and so they would be current level goals.
But any time you are striving for a next level goal, which is out of your current range of easy belief, well it is going to be a bit uncomfortable. It’s just the nature of it. That discomfort is the process of your subconscious mind coming into alignment with that goal and fully accepting it.
I’m not really sure any other way to put that. It’s not just excitement, because at this point, you are not totally sure it’s going to happen.
Imagine something you’re anticipating, but aren’t quite sure about. Perhaps a new job that you’d really like to get, but aren’t quite confident you’ll get it. You’re certainly excited, but there’s a bit of discomfort as you align with that goal. It’s a stretching, striving, definite resistance-based sort of state. And then if you get it, there’s relief.
Does that make it a bit clearer? It’s not just something you know is going to happen, or else this principle doesn’t apply, because that would be a current level goal. It’s something that you really hope will happen, but honestly have no idea.
For the last three months or so, I’ve lived in this sort of balance. My goals seemed impossible, but I held on to them anyway. And it was pretty uncomfortable for a while, not just exciting. As I got closer to them, there was more excitement and less discomfort.
But the reason I’m playing up the “discomfort” thing here is because a lot of people try to run away from that. To me, it’s a necessary part of the process. You’re not there yet. Of course you feel uncomfortable, or resistant a little. That’s natural. But a lot of law of attraction practitioners try to escape that feeling, by “distracting” themselves with feel-good thoughts. Like I’ve seen the advice before, “Just think about puppies and kittens to distract yourself from the resistance.” That to me is not beneficial at all.
Ah, I think I understand now. So the resistance might feel negative, neutral, or even good if you’re heading towards a goal on the level that you’re at, but it will feel negative if you’re trying to move up a level. Is that right? It does seem true that any time I try to move to a new level, the resistance feels unpleasant.
I agree with you that distracting yourself with puppies and kittens when you feel the next-level resistance is usually bad advice. I mean, if the resistance is just overwhelming and you want to watch a cat video to calm down, that’s fine. But if you want to move forward with a next-level goal, sooner or later you need to learn to handle the resistance differently.
Thanks for the clarification! Much appreciated.
Hi Lisa,
Yes. Usually for a current level goal, there will be little to no resistance. At most you might have a bit of anxiety, but usually the process should be pretty clear-cut. I recently discussed how I manifested a plugin I needed for WordPress. I thought I’d have to pay $50, but didn’t feel comfortable with it. I ended up finding another one that was equally as good, and free. There was no resistance, and I was just surprised when the manifestation happened. I wasn’t even really trying to manifest anything, but it just slipped into my reality.
Same thing happened with my computer charger. My old one was fraying. Mac chargers are like $80 though, and so I was putting it off. Then randomly I found that I had a spare charger I had forgotten about. So, $80 saved. 🙂 Effortless manifestation.
But both of those were current level goals. It took no effort at all to manifest.
I think this is what most LOA teachers mean, when they talk about how to manifest. They talk about it being effortless, and always feeling good. But that’s not going to stretch you. Yes, you can get parking spaces and other easy things to you with that technique, but you can’t get to the next level. That’s why most people complain that small manifestations are easy, but they can’t get bigger ones. They just don’t have the tools to get those bigger manifestations.
I vibe with about 50 percent of what Abe says greatly, and the other 50 percent makes me cringe ha. You and I both coming from a background in non-duality, is probably why both of us have never jived with the idea of ‘distraction’. To me, it misses the mark greatly on why the resistance is there in the first place. Some teachings like Eckhart Tolle have this big fascination with making the ego the enemy (perhaps from their own misunderstanding of resistance).
It didn’t make sense until recently (largely with a lot of help from reading your blogs) that resistance IS our friend and to me is where the self love component comes in so greatly.
The universe is inclusive which even Abe acknowledges, then why would you distract yourself? It’s not about indulging into negative stories, but you absolutely CAN be with the emotion without driving the story. I mean, it’s really just an old story. That’s all it really is. And yes, it takes practice not to give that story life, but there needs to be an understanding of why that story is playing out as a habit. But, Abe refuses to acknowledge that a subconscious exists and this is why their followers (who are often like drones lol) just re-regurgitate anything Abe says. But, there is a lot I like about Abe too, so I don’t want to completely bash them here 🙂
Yes exactly right. We talked a lot about this in last night’s support call (posting it soon, I promise ????). The ego is not the enemy, and neither is the subconscious mind.
Yeah some stuff is good, but mostly it’s coming from a perspective of the world that’s just not reflective of reality. E.g., they say that high vibration = bliss/joy/happiness, and that’s not necessarily true. You have to get comfortable with the whole spectrum of emotion, because that’s what’s real, even if you are in the zero state all day.
I think a balance is best. I agree many non-dual people like Eckhart Tolle and the like, overplay the “ego is the enemy” line. It’s really not. It’s just playing out the programming you taught it.
Thanks Brandon, I agree.
For me, I see the higher vibrations in my own experience, not so much as I am trying to be happy or trying to be positive as Abe says, as opposed to not being happy, but more of a realizing that I have the power to choose my own reality and I don’t have to push away the negative stuff, as I can compassionately understand why it’s there now. It’s kind of the unconditional peace in a sense of acceptance of everything including the negative emotions.
It is here where no matter how bad I am physically feeling, there is still this underlying level of peace. This is why the zero state resonated so greatly with me with this topic. Personally, I see that as what Abe calls…..’higher vibrations’. I just don’t really jive with their formula for getting there. The really negative stuff (lower vibrations) happens to me when I start believing an old thought/belief and then I feel trapped.
In a sense, I guess, I understand what they mean by higher vibrations equating to ‘positivity’, because when you are in that unconditional space, it obviously does feel ‘good’, but it’s more like peace than bliss. I feel like Bliss is an emotion of relief in a sense and can often happen during a spiritual awakening, when we realize what a relief it is that we don’t have to believe in the old story anymore. But, bliss does not last.
I don’t like their approach of finding a better feeling thought as well. I see it all as perfect including the negativity, because we are empowered beings to always create a different reality. You just don’t have to believe the thought. After all, truth to me is simply what we are experiencing in this very moment including the ‘what is’ (external reality) which includes all emotions and feelings. It’s just our thoughts/beliefs (which is just a story) ABOUT that what is….. that traps us in a belief that the external is real, objective, solid existing ‘truth’ that we cannot change.
At least that’s been my experience of late. I don’t know if others have shared in similar realizations. There is most certainly a balance with these teachings.
Yes. In last night’s call (got it posted finally ????), I say that even in the zero state, there can be negative emotions. There will likely be more positive emotions, because there is less resistance, but there are still going to be negative emotions, because they are part of reality. Sometimes they just happen.
I agree about being more like peace than bliss. It’s a deep sense of inner peace and stillness.
Thanks Brandon, I agree.
For me, I see the higher vibrations in my own experience, not so much as I am trying to be happy or trying to be positive as Abe says, as opposed to not being happy, but more of a realizing that I have the power to choose my own reality and I don’t have to push away the negative stuff, as I can compassionately understand why it’s there now. It’s kind of the unconditional peace in a sense of acceptance of everything including the negative emotions.
It is here where no matter how bad I am physically feeling, there is still this underlying level of peace. This is why the zero state resonated so greatly with me with this topic. Personally, I see that as what Abe calls…..’higher vibrations’. I just don’t really jive with their formula for getting there. The really negative stuff (lower vibrations) happens to me when I start believing an old thought/belief and then I feel trapped.
In a sense, I guess, I understand what they mean by higher vibrations equating to ‘positivity’, because when you are in that unconditional space, it obviously does feel ‘good’, but it’s more like peace than bliss. I feel like Bliss is an emotion of relief in a sense and can often happen during a spiritual awakening, when we realize what a relief it is that we don’t have to believe in the old story anymore. But, bliss does not last.
I don’t like their approach of finding a better feeling thought as well. I see it all as perfect including the negativity, because we are empowered beings to always create a different reality. You just don’t have to believe the thought. After all, truth to me is simply what we are experiencing in this very moment including the ‘what is’ (external reality) which includes all emotions and feelings. It’s just our thoughts/beliefs (which is just a story) ABOUT that what is….. that traps us in a belief that the external is real, objective, solid existing ‘truth’ that we cannot change.
At least that’s been my experience of late. I don’t know if others have shared in similar realizations. There is most certainly a balance with these teachings.
Yes. In last night’s call (got it posted finally ????), I say that even in the zero state, there can be negative emotions. There will likely be more positive emotions, because there is less resistance, but there are still going to be negative emotions, because they are part of reality. Sometimes they just happen.
I agree about being more like peace than bliss. It’s a deep sense of inner peace and stillness.
Even though I haven’t deliberately manifested anything, I’m gonna post again, because it’s a good thing to release pride. lol
I have learned though a lot about my complaining. I feel that whenever I complain, I want something or someone to modify my past. I complain about having been alone for so long in my life, because I want someone (like the Universe) to compensate me by changing my past. I complain about my looks because I want the Universe to change my genes before my body was fully formed. I complain about health, because I want to have been healthy for all this time, in other words I want the Universe to change my past so I could feel better. Or, I want a compensation in a special way right now, to make up for all the loss or bad stuff that has happened so far.
I read “A Real Witch’s Guide to the Law of Attraction”, and something struck me, that is written in there. Life isn’t fair. Also life is what we make it. So anyway, no matter what I do from now, or what I be from now on, I can’t change what has been. What has been is a constant. I can only choose what I do from now on. Complaining can’t ever modify the past, but it surely can stall positive changes in my life from present to the future, and it will. All I can ever do is decide how my life’s gonna flow from now towards some point in the future. And all complaining can really do is stall it. There’s no force in the Universe that will start pitying me and finally decide to compensate me. The Universe is not a human. I feel that these realizations were what I needed, so I’m thankful for that.
And now, about my issue. I’ve noticed that there are many sound issues in my apartment. That weird sound that I couldn’t find where it comes from, poor isolation from the outside, poor isolation from the hall, a neighbor who sings loud and in a creepy way, another neighbor who sometimes turns on the radio loud in the morning while I’m sleeping, and also my fridge has started making the weirdest irritating noises. I know that these things instigate powerlessness in me to come up to the surface. However I’m wondering if there’s a special something here, since all these problems are acoustic?
And the special question: how do I “fix” this? Do I keep intending a peaceful apartment, i.e. creating peace? Will that work? Or should I sit with the feeling and eventually discover the real cause of all these negative sound manifestations? Obviously it has something to do with powerlessness. Whenever some of these negative sound manifestations arises, should I simply allow the powerlessness/anger, and still choose a peaceful apartment, making use of the creative tension? Or should I try to sit with the feelings and try to get the message of these manifestations?
Hi Z,
I’m happy for you about your realizations. A real witch never complains, because he/she knows that complaining will only continue to perpetuate the bad situation. I’m so glad you enjoyed the book.
I do want to address something, though. It’s true the Universe isn’t going to do something that you’re not a match to. But I’ve seen you say several times recently that this is because the Universe is cold and mechanical. I get how that might follow, but I disagree. The Universe I deal with is far from cold and mechanical. The Universe I deal with wants to help, but will stand by until I’m ready.
I still work with my God and Goddess, Hades and Hecate, and I credit them with helping me with a huge amount of my progress over the past few months. I’ve been working with Hecate a great deal lately on developing this psychic course. Information just flows. I’m a claircognizant, so that’s how I get most of my information. But it’s been ramped up lately.
You have a team of helpers ready to help. This includes your own higher self, your spirit guides, and any other beings you choose to work with. None of them are cold and mechanical.
Now to answer your question you asked here: I am not a proponent of digging through a limiting belief to find its root. I like what you said about allowing the thoughts, and choosing a peaceful apartment. That’s the way. Wait for the podcast on Saturday for more details about that. 🙂
Hope this helps.
Thank you, Brandon! Now I can keep choosing a peaceful apartment, without doubting whether it’ll work or not.
I was feeling that the Universe is cold and mechanical because it doesn’t act like God (the way Christians see him), someone who will reward the good and not reward the “bad” (I won’t write “punish”, because I don’t like the idea of punishing someone). However I’m beginning to get what you are saying, every day a little bit more. Today I was feeling loneliness at class again, but I allowed the feelings and chose my goal of enjoying friends and being open, anyway. In a short time, there were several manifestations of pleasant talks with people. It was really cool. I understand that it doesn’t always have to happen instantaneously like that, but this was really nice.
I’ll also re-listen to the 10 keys, since the first time I listened to it I had trouble concentrating, because I was kind of tired. However, I think it’s very useful, and I think that everyone should have such good basics. I didn’t intend the money for that, and it was more like a current level manifestation. However I’m really glad. 🙂
P.S. Also it was cool hearing Justin talking about the Mystical Hermit Crab. 😀
Hi Z,
So happy for you for your manifestation of pleasant conversations.
Yeah Christians have it all wrong there. People aren’t rewarded for being good or bad. Everyone is rewarded if they are open to being rewarded. The Universe, the gods, don’t really believe in good or bad.
I’m happy you enjoyed the 10 Keys course. I was surprised, and very happy for you, when I saw the sign-up. Glad it was an easy manifestation. 🙂 I agree, I’d say it is the absolute essential basics someone needs to get started.
I forgot to say that hearing you talk about your December monthly goal manifesting also had a big influence on me. I find it amazing that you could achieve it even without always feeling good about it, or even believing that it would come about. It actually gave me motivation. Also, what you wrote in this blog post makes perfect sense. It goes well with that saying, “everything you want is on the other side of fear”.
Hi Z,
I’m so happy it inspired you. Yes, I definitely did not always feel good about it. I did not always believe it was possible. I was just persistent, and I accomplished my goal, and a lot more. 🙂
Z,
I haven’t read through all your comments here but get the idea of what you are saying. I’m glad you are reading the recommended books because they are truly helpful. And I can also give some sound advice.
Believe me, no one wants to change the past more than I do. That’s how I came into the LOA in the first place. My intuition led me to it because I was deeply depressed about something I did not do. The saying that you regret things you don’t do is correct. You never regret what you do. It’s that question of “what if”? My life would have been better had I taken that path. But I learned so much on the path I did take and yet I’m still on it. It’s not over.
Anyway, I digress. I just wanted to add that if someone is royally pissing you off, why not come out and tell them to shut up? This is far more effective than sitting there with the feelings and all that jazz. You haven’t done this yet. I told a kid who was misbehaving over the holidays that if he didn’t stop, I’d kick his ass and he stopped right then and there. Why not outwardly make your intentions known? This moves a lot more energy than what you’ve been doing. Now, if you did this and they still continued to bother you, then eventually you will see that it won’t bother you at some point. But, i suggest you do the former. I mean, why the heck not? I don’t get it.
Hey, Kat, thank you for your comment and suggestion. Things are kind of complicated. xD
This neighbor that sometimes plays the radio music loud (fortunately it’s just sometimes) in the morning is an older man, living alone, and has health problems. I recently overheard him telling another neighbor that he had been in a car accident, and that he’s been fearful since then.
The guy that sings now and then… well, this one is kind of complicated, because I like to sing in my apartment, too. xD I just don’t do it so loud like him, and in my opinion he sounds weird (and even kind of creepy), but I sing “properly”. Not that I am necessarily skilled, but I sing in a nice melody. If I asked him to stop singing, would he ask me to stop singing? If someone asked me to do it, I wouldn’t like to, because it’s a great expression of myself.
And all the other sounds have nothing to do with people, even though for 1 of the sounds I haven’t yet been able to pinpoint what exactly is making it and where exactly it’s coming from. I’ve also noticed that annoying sounds popping up for me is not just something present in my apartment. It’s something that can appear anywhere, so I guess that it’s a joint issue that will be present wherever I am, until the energy is released.
However, you did make a really good point that CAN be applied in my life. There are situations in life when someone is bothering me in an intrusive way, and instead of setting a boundary, I just allow the feelings. This is still an issue for me, knowing when to simply allow the feelings, and when to actually actively enforce a boundary.
One more thing, that has been puzzling my mind. From the standpoint of a deliberate creator (Magus), should I envision specifically my current apartment as peaceful and enjoyable, or should I focus on an apartment, without specifying it to be this exact current one? I don’t own the apartment, I’m just paying monthly rent, so I don’t know which one of the options should I do. Should I avoid focusing specifically on peace in this apartment, because that would limit the Universal flow? Or should I do it after all, because deliberate creation and active focus on energy can do anything?
It’s really up to you. What about just focusing on a peaceful living environment? But it’s up to how you want to handle it. 🙂
Thank you! 🙂
Even though I haven’t deliberately manifested anything, I’m gonna post again, because it’s a good thing to release pride. lol
I have learned though a lot about my complaining. I feel that whenever I complain, I want something or someone to modify my past. I complain about having been alone for so long in my life, because I want someone (like the Universe) to compensate me by changing my past. I complain about my looks because I want the Universe to change my genes before my body was fully formed. I complain about health, because I want to have been healthy for all this time, in other words I want the Universe to change my past so I could feel better. Or, I want a compensation in a special way right now, to make up for all the loss or bad stuff that has happened so far.
I read “A Real Witch’s Guide to the Law of Attraction”, and something struck me, that is written in there. Life isn’t fair. Also life is what we make it. So anyway, no matter what I do from now, or what I be from now on, I can’t change what has been. What has been is a constant. I can only choose what I do from now on. Complaining can’t ever modify the past, but it surely can stall positive changes in my life from present to the future, and it will. All I can ever do is decide how my life’s gonna flow from now towards some point in the future. And all complaining can really do is stall it. There’s no force in the Universe that will start pitying me and finally decide to compensate me. The Universe is not a human. I feel that these realizations were what I needed, so I’m thankful for that.
And now, about my issue. I’ve noticed that there are many sound issues in my apartment. That weird sound that I couldn’t find where it comes from, poor isolation from the outside, poor isolation from the hall, a neighbor who sings loud and in a creepy way, another neighbor who sometimes turns on the radio loud in the morning while I’m sleeping, and also my fridge has started making the weirdest irritating noises. I know that these things instigate powerlessness in me to come up to the surface. However I’m wondering if there’s a special something here, since all these problems are acoustic?
And the special question: how do I “fix” this? Do I keep intending a peaceful apartment, i.e. creating peace? Will that work? Or should I sit with the feeling and eventually discover the real cause of all these negative sound manifestations? Obviously it has something to do with powerlessness. Whenever some of these negative sound manifestations arises, should I simply allow the powerlessness/anger, and still choose a peaceful apartment, making use of the creative tension? Or should I try to sit with the feelings and try to get the message of these manifestations?
Hi Z,
I’m happy for you about your realizations. A real witch never complains, because he/she knows that complaining will only continue to perpetuate the bad situation. I’m so glad you enjoyed the book.
I do want to address something, though. It’s true the Universe isn’t going to do something that you’re not a match to. But I’ve seen you say several times recently that this is because the Universe is cold and mechanical. I get how that might follow, but I disagree. The Universe I deal with is far from cold and mechanical. The Universe I deal with wants to help, but will stand by until I’m ready.
I still work with my God and Goddess, Hades and Hecate, and I credit them with helping me with a huge amount of my progress over the past few months. I’ve been working with Hecate a great deal lately on developing this psychic course. Information just flows. I’m a claircognizant, so that’s how I get most of my information. But it’s been ramped up lately.
You have a team of helpers ready to help. This includes your own higher self, your spirit guides, and any other beings you choose to work with. None of them are cold and mechanical.
Now to answer your question you asked here: I am not a proponent of digging through a limiting belief to find its root. I like what you said about allowing the thoughts, and choosing a peaceful apartment. That’s the way. Wait for the podcast on Saturday for more details about that. 🙂
Hope this helps.
Thank you, Brandon! Now I can keep choosing a peaceful apartment, without doubting whether it’ll work or not.
I was feeling that the Universe is cold and mechanical because it doesn’t act like God (the way Christians see him), someone who will reward the good and not reward the “bad” (I won’t write “punish”, because I don’t like the idea of punishing someone). However I’m beginning to get what you are saying, every day a little bit more. Today I was feeling loneliness at class again, but I allowed the feelings and chose my goal of enjoying friends and being open, anyway. In a short time, there were several manifestations of pleasant talks with people. It was really cool. I understand that it doesn’t always have to happen instantaneously like that, but this was really nice.
I’ll also re-listen to the 10 keys, since the first time I listened to it I had trouble concentrating, because I was kind of tired. However, I think it’s very useful, and I think that everyone should have such good basics. I didn’t intend the money for that, and it was more like a current level manifestation. However I’m really glad. 🙂
P.S. Also it was cool hearing Justin talking about the Mystical Hermit Crab. 😀
Hi Z,
So happy for you for your manifestation of pleasant conversations.
Yeah Christians have it all wrong there. People aren’t rewarded for being good or bad. Everyone is rewarded if they are open to being rewarded. The Universe, the gods, don’t really believe in good or bad.
I’m happy you enjoyed the 10 Keys course. I was surprised, and very happy for you, when I saw the sign-up. Glad it was an easy manifestation. 🙂 I agree, I’d say it is the absolute essential basics someone needs to get started.
I forgot to say that hearing you talk about your December monthly goal manifesting also had a big influence on me. I find it amazing that you could achieve it even without always feeling good about it, or even believing that it would come about. It actually gave me motivation. Also, what you wrote in this blog post makes perfect sense. It goes well with that saying, “everything you want is on the other side of fear”.
Hi Z,
I’m so happy it inspired you. Yes, I definitely did not always feel good about it. I did not always believe it was possible. I was just persistent, and I accomplished my goal, and a lot more. 🙂
Z,
I haven’t read through all your comments here but get the idea of what you are saying. I’m glad you are reading the recommended books because they are truly helpful. And I can also give some sound advice.
Believe me, no one wants to change the past more than I do. That’s how I came into the LOA in the first place. My intuition led me to it because I was deeply depressed about something I did not do. The saying that you regret things you don’t do is correct. You never regret what you do. It’s that question of “what if”? My life would have been better had I taken that path. But I learned so much on the path I did take and yet I’m still on it. It’s not over.
Anyway, I digress. I just wanted to add that if someone is royally pissing you off, why not come out and tell them to shut up? This is far more effective than sitting there with the feelings and all that jazz. You haven’t done this yet. I told a kid who was misbehaving over the holidays that if he didn’t stop, I’d kick his ass and he stopped right then and there. Why not outwardly make your intentions known? This moves a lot more energy than what you’ve been doing. Now, if you did this and they still continued to bother you, then eventually you will see that it won’t bother you at some point. But, i suggest you do the former. I mean, why the heck not? I don’t get it.
Hey, Kat, thank you for your comment and suggestion. Things are kind of complicated. xD
This neighbor that sometimes plays the radio music loud (fortunately it’s just sometimes) in the morning is an older man, living alone, and has health problems. I recently overheard him telling another neighbor that he had been in a car accident, and that he’s been fearful since then.
The guy that sings now and then… well, this one is kind of complicated, because I like to sing in my apartment, too. xD I just don’t do it so loud like him, and in my opinion he sounds weird (and even kind of creepy), but I sing “properly”. Not that I am necessarily skilled, but I sing in a nice melody. If I asked him to stop singing, would he ask me to stop singing? If someone asked me to do it, I wouldn’t like to, because it’s a great expression of myself.
And all the other sounds have nothing to do with people, even though for 1 of the sounds I haven’t yet been able to pinpoint what exactly is making it and where exactly it’s coming from. I’ve also noticed that annoying sounds popping up for me is not just something present in my apartment. It’s something that can appear anywhere, so I guess that it’s a joint issue that will be present wherever I am, until the energy is released.
However, you did make a really good point that CAN be applied in my life. There are situations in life when someone is bothering me in an intrusive way, and instead of setting a boundary, I just allow the feelings. This is still an issue for me, knowing when to simply allow the feelings, and when to actually actively enforce a boundary.
One more thing, that has been puzzling my mind. From the standpoint of a deliberate creator (Magus), should I envision specifically my current apartment as peaceful and enjoyable, or should I focus on an apartment, without specifying it to be this exact current one? I don’t own the apartment, I’m just paying monthly rent, so I don’t know which one of the options should I do. Should I avoid focusing specifically on peace in this apartment, because that would limit the Universal flow? Or should I do it after all, because deliberate creation and active focus on energy can do anything?
It’s really up to you. What about just focusing on a peaceful living environment? But it’s up to how you want to handle it. 🙂
Thank you! 🙂
I don’t get this..I thought manifestations are all about doing what feels good, and then taking inspired action? What’s the difference between this and the mainstream mentality that we need to “work till we drop” in order to get what we want?
Hi Indigo,
Thanks for your comment.
I understand it’s a totally different way of seeing things.
I think you’ll like next Monday’s blog post, as it will answer this question more than I can in this comment. But I will answer to the best of my ability.
Basically, just because you feel good doesn’t mean that you’re moving towards your goal. I know that seems different, but it’s true.
The difference between what I’m saying, and what most people do, is that most people don’t try to align on the inside at all. They try to make up the difference through outer action.
I’m saying that the inner work is the most important. But the inner work is not always going to feel great. It quite often will feel rather uncomfortable. But that is okay.
Does this make sense?
Thanks for your reply Brandon. Yes I agree that the inner work will not always feel comfortable, but to me it still feels “better” and more like “relief” than trying to suppress it by doing something that makes you feel “good”. So I guess the key word here is we should always go in the direction of relief? (And that sometimes feels negative, its not always sunshine and rainbows)
Looking forward to the new post!
Hi Indigo,
Brandon will give you his response.
My response is that emotions are guidance tools. This is one area of the Abraham teachings I highly resonate with. Many teachers talk about emotions being ‘random arisings’ and they are clearly not. If you consider that in order to even know that you have a choice to create something that is aligned with who you truly are, you would first have to see that there IS a choice. You can only know there is a choice if you first experience what it is like to not have a choice (negative emotion). Negative emotions and resistance are some of the most vital aspects of our physical experience. They are often the contrasting tools to get you into alignment. If you are manifesting, resistance is a helpful aspect in order for you to first experience what it is like to NOT have what you want in order that you can relish it when it does come.
So, when you are manifesting something large, it’s likely that you will experience strong resistance which is just old limiting beliefs that will rise to the surface from the survival mechanism thinking it’s protecting you from something ‘dangerous’. Over time though, that resistance will ultimately decrease when you re-train your subconscious.
You never, ever have to stay in a negative emotion, meaning wallow in it. We are always looking for relief yes, because negative emotions don’t feel good obviously as they are not aligned with our nature. But, that does not make them wrong.
Yet, with that said, Source does not come here to choose only to have positive experiences. Source chooses to have all experiences. It’s just that love and peace on the emotional scale are the guidance tools to let us know if we are aligned or not. You can manifest from fear as well. Many of us do it. The universe does not judge. The universe is completely unconditionally accepting of ‘good and bad” (which are just human terms). But, the emotions will let you know when you are operating from a place of who you truly are when you are operating from a limiting belief.
Just my opinion.
Thank you for the reply Brandon.
The light and the dark is exactly the way I see it as well and this darkness was what I WANTED early on for the experiences I came here to explore and only needed that darkness and struggle early on in my life, to first explore what it was like to feel powerless with no choice and not to love myself with the empowering realization that I AM the light and always have been, and that I DO always have a choice, just like you wrote in your recent blog post.
But, I could never have realized that I have a choice to create what I want, if I hadn’t first gone through hell in my life to feel like I “did not have a choice”. This to me, is the ultimate aspect of resistance. Now, resistance is coming up still, but I’m seeing it less and less in my life.
I learned to play guitar because it simply excited me and during the process, it was ABSOLUTELY difficult at times to learn new pieces and a lot of patterns of ‘achiever’ mentality (resistance) came over me. And of course it’s difficult to learn a new piece. But, I later realized on reflection, that all that fighting was completely unnecessary. Because all of the resistance that arose during my guitar playing was because I was trying so hard to get to the end goal of becoming an incredible guitar player, that I was missing out on the initial joy that I had during playing. It’s joy which is where it all is. When I first started playing, sure it was not easy and took a ton of practice, but there was absolutely no suffering. Then it became a means to an end for me. Resistance has only arose in my experience when I am doing something either as an attachment to a goal/desire or because I am trying to accomplish something for the wrong reasons. The latter one has been huge for me.
Playing guitar for me was the next natural progression in my life and it was incredible and fun when I allowed it to be, but also took a lot of work. Learning to be mindful and BE with my fingers playing on the strings of late, is such a different feel than struggling to get down a piece of music. Instead now, it’s TENSION that I experience, but not resistance and that’s why I resonate so much with your notion of tension being different than resistance. And it took a lot of frustration at times as my subconscious was learning a new skill, and I felt like giving up at points, but this was during a time period also, where I was still finding myself and I longed so badly to get to that end goal of being a great guitar player, that the more I looked into it, I wanted the recognition from other people and I wanted something to value about myself. You see, I love your notion of tension. It resonates SO deeply with me. But, I don’t see that as the same resistance. Resistance to me is struggle and suffering and only serves a purpose to a point where we allow it to.
Tension on the other hand as you have taught, is a natural part of embarking on any new difficult task, because exactly like you said, you are teaching your subconscious a new skill which it previously did not know. This is the basis of neuroplasticity. I’ve recently started playing again and there is zero resistance now. Of course, that previous resistance in the past is what gave way, to allow me to approach the instrument in a more mindful fashion.
I manifested a career for myself where I wanted specific things for myself (working from home, good pay) which I have mentioned, that stemmed from previous unwanted experiences of a job that I hated. I hated the job because I wasn’t making any money and because I was sick and felt unwanted in my life. I was miserable, and unhappy. This was the resistance I needed in order to find what I truly DID want…..a career that I have now. But, as soon as I discovered this new career as an option, I became so inspired. But, the manifestation process of manifesting that career while absolutely involved a TON of inspired action including going back to school and interning, was not a struggle in the least bit for me. It was fun and inspiring and exciting. Yes, there was tension, but no resistance for me.
I understand that when we are getting our subconscious to get on board with learning a new skill, it simply takes practice, because you are re-programming your brain and that does include a lot of tension, but resistance to me, is when the nervous system is intentionally acting defensive out of fear. Learning to play guitar is a challenge, but not because our subconscious is fearful. It’s just because we are learning a new skill which is what I would interpret as tension. And tension is a necessary aspect of manifesting and learning a new skill. But, suffering is not…..unless you are clinging to an outcome.
Letting go to me, does not mean sitting on your couch doing nothing. Letting go and allowing to me is focusing on your goal, releasing whatever resistance arises, but taking inspired action and if there is struggle, it’s just old defensive patterns that are scared. The more I learn to be with my emotions lovingly and embrace them, this to me IS letting go. Trust me, I am currently in the process of manifesting a massive goal of health after 10 years of struggling with a chronic illness. This IS a huge manifestation project I have taken on that my subconscious has fought and fought and fought against. But, it’s getting easier and easier for me the more I learn that I don’t have to believe those old patterns anymore and the more I learn to let go and allow and I’m seeing the results in my body as well…..slowly :). To me, letting and allowing combined with a vision on my goal is the key to this whole process.
Just my take
Hi Derek,
I think we do agree, but are defining things differently.
You say resistance to you is just when the nervous system is reacting out of fear. I can see where that comes from, but I also see resistance as a bit more than that.
I see resistance as the process of carving out our goal. There’s a great quote from Michelangelo I’ve referred to on several occasions: “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”
When you first set out to create something totally new, you have to pinpoint that vibrational signature, and tune in to that to the exclusion of all else. The “resistance” aspect is the aspect of everything that is not your goal falling away from your inner state. When you think of your goal, and you feel partly good, partly resistant, and you instead move towards the feeling of the goal, that to me is the process of working with resistance to move towards what you want.
I see resistance as a beneficial thing, not as just a defensive posture.
So I think this is the major difference.
I also like your definition of letting go. I’ve found in the past that most people take “letting go” to mean to simply feel good about the goal and that’s it. So when I emphasize these other elements, I mean that it is more than that. It’s exactly what you mention: letting the resistance come up, seeing through it through non-attachment, and moving towards the goal. It’s a more active process for me than the connotation of “letting go”, though that’s certainly a part of it. 🙂
Thanks for the conversation today Brandon. Will have to let this stuff sink in :). Hopefully you didn’t think i was being argumentative. I’ve learned a lot from you. Will read more on this later.
Not at all. 🙂 I enjoyed the conversation very much. I think there is 99% agreement, with some minor differences in definition and perspective. Conversation like this is great for encouraging growth on both sides. 🙂
Hi Indigo,
I can tell by the verbiage of your comments that you’re familiar with Abraham. I’ll give my usual disclaimer: don’t try to sync up what I write with what Abraham talks about. There will be some similarities, but there are much more contradictions. I disagree with them on many points.
Always move towards relief: not necessarily. Relief can mean many things. It can mean you’ve given up on your vision and the cessation of resistance as a result feels like huge relief. I just had a client today talk about exactly this: she had an opportunity she really wanted, but was too afraid to take. She didn’t take it, and felt relief, because the fear was gone.
Does that mean the opportunity was wrong? No, it just means she felt really afraid, and so letting go of the opportunity felt like relief to her.
Abraham’s teachings are very one-dimensional to me. They say that relief is always better. But, not always.
What I think is always better is the zero state. That is the stillness that exists within. Check out my podcast this coming Saturday for more information on how that works. But, that inner stillness will always bring you away from resistance, and quickly towards your goals. The zero state is not the same as joy, or happiness, or love, or bliss. It’s just inner stillness, which is okay with all emotions.
Emotions do mean something, I agree with Derek. But they are much more complex than just “positive = good and negative = bad”.
The essence of what I teach is: focus on the vision of what you want, in the face of whatever resistance arises. Take it with you into inner stillness, and it’ll come into physical reality quickly.
Hi Brandon,
I don’t agree with everything Abraham says either, I think it’s way too simplified. I’m just curious if you agree with Melody Fletcher? ( I actually came to your blog from hers) She seems to teach a lot that if you feel good you’ll get everything you want.
I’m still kind of confused by what you teach… by focussing on what you want, do you mean we should visualize our vision everyday? And “taking it with you into inner stillness in the face of whatever resistance that arises” so in other words, go into the resistance instead of away from it? Like be okay with it? We may be a little lost in translation here, because to me that IS “relief”, going into the fear is more “relief” to me than giving up.
Also in the example of your client, how do you know that it was her fear talking when she didn’t want to take that opportunity, or it was her intuition telling her that particular opportunity just isn’t right for her, and the right one is just around the corner?
I appreciate all your responses!
Hi Indigo,
Great questions.
Melody is mostly along the line of Abraham as well. I do disagree with a lot of what she says.
Yes, absolutely. You might want to read my definition of current level goals vs. next level goals. With next level goals, it takes near daily focus on your goals to manifest them. It can be in the form of visualization, journaling, affirmations, or whatever works for you. My course, The Art of Reality Creation, I give a lot of techniques for how to move towards your goals.
Yes, more or less. It’s more about non-attachment (blog post about this going live in about an hour). Non-attachment to your stories, to your resistance, just letting it be what it is, and moving into stillness with your goal in mind. Not giving your resistance your focus or emotional investment.
To you, perhaps, but I’ve worked with many people who actively avoid resistance. They’ll “distract” themselves, think about other things, anything to avoid the resistance.
Emotion has one primary job when it comes to manifestation: it shows you how much your current focus agrees with your subconscious mind’s programming. Note that this is different than your “inner being” agreeing with your focus and therefore you feel good. When your subconscious mind feels threatened by your goal, you will absolutely not feel good. But when you maintain the focus anyway, and even add some positive emotion to the goal, while not reacting to the resistance, your subconscious mind learns that the goal is more important than the current programming, and it starts to alter its own programming.
So relief could mean, “What I’m focusing on now is in agreement with my subconscious mind’s programming,” which you don’t necessarily want, because that means nothing is changing. or it could mean, “I have successfully trained my subconscious mind that my goal is good, and safe.” That is desirable.
So it’s not as simple as relief = good and resistance = bad.
Context, and intuition. We had been talking about this opportunity for a while. It was a huge next level goal for her, or at least a means to that goal. She was excited about it, but in the moment of truth, she became fearful.
I’ve had the same thing happen. I have fear about a certain option, but I know deeper down, intuitively, that it is actually a good path for me. I take the path, despite the fear, and it works out wonderfully.
Hope that clarifies things.
Wow Brandon, I’m gonna have to read this over a couple times tomorrow but I think you’re on to something here!! This may be the missing link to why LOA doesnt work for most ppl (some people can be happy for years and nothing happens).
I’m so glad I found your blog. You explained it so well it is eye opening for me right now…I feel like I’ve found that next level “aha” moment beyond what Melody and Abraham teaches. I”ll sleep on this.
Thank you!!
PS: May I ask how you know what you know? Is it intuition or life experiences?
PS: I don’t think relief means giving up on your dreams, because when you want something so so bad, giving up doesnt feel good at all. But it should also be said that sometimes when you give up on something thats when stuff happens, like when I decided to “take a break” with pursuing my dream career to focus on other things, I was on the verge of giving up, thats when good stuff manifested..Because I released resistance to the now, and just decided to have fun for a bit.
I personally know some people that hold their visions all day everyday, focus on it and thats all they think about, and yet 5 years 10 years go by and they still don’t achieve their dreams.
I think there is a happy middle ground.
Yes you are right. Obsessing about the goal isn’t good. I’d guess that if you really got a look at their inner state, they’d be constantly anxious about the goal, which isn’t beneficial.
I would say that the reason you succeeded is partly because of the letting go, but the previous resistance also altered the programming of your subconscious mind, so that once you did let go, everything could work out. That’s the balance of resistance and release I talk about in this post. That struggle with the vision forces your subconscious mind to reprogram itself to be more in alignment with your goal. Then you let go, and it all works out.
I’ve found that if you let go from the beginning, and it’s a goal that you don’t quite believe yet, it’s not going to generate the momentum to bring you there.
So in reply to your comment Brandon about subconscious programming and I know there’s a long thread of comments here, if I am understanding this correctly, if you actually are re-programming your subconscious, (because all resistance, is really just old limiting beliefs from your subconscious that are just trying to protect you out of a fear of you expressing yourself/your desires), then in the future, your resistance should absolutely decrease.
With my brain retraining program that I am doing for chronic fatigue, we are re-programming the subconscious based on old limiting beliefs about ourselves and what I found is a lifelong practice of mindfulness and body awareness meditation, brings me more and more into that zero state. Just being in that state regardless of manifesting or not, makes my life much more peaceful, eases my nervous system by not having to buy into those old habits of thinking anymore and therefore, releases more and more resistance.
So, therefore, it would make sense that in my own future manifestations, the more resistance I release now through re-programming for the manifestation I am trying to make happen now, that resistance (while always existing on some level since we operate through human bodies) should absolutely be less and less. This is what I meant in a comment above yesterday to CJ. There is no reason you have to live with that much resistance going forward and that much suffering every time you want to manifest something…..IF you are re-programming your subconscious now. Massive resistance will only exist for as long as we:
A) Continue to believe those thoughts and are not aware of who we truly are (basically completely enveloped in those old patterns of thinking believing we are separate people in a world of competition)
B) Even when we become aware (wake up to our true nature), have still not re-programmed our subconscious, because those patterns obviously don’t just vanish. They didn’t for Ramana nor Nisargadatta. Both had to maintain a lifelong practice of meditation. They will continue to play out until we train our minds otherwise. It’s like the saying that you only need to keep suffering (experiencing massive resistance) for as long as you keep invigorating those old stories or pathways.
This is why I see resistance (negative emotions) only serving one purpose. Well two purposes. Number one to keep us safe. And number two….giving us the experience of what it is like NOT to have what we desire in order to relish it greater when we DO get it. It’s like contrast. If you already are Light, then what fun would it be to manifest when you know it’s coming? But, the experience of darkness (resistant negative emotions), which is just an experience…… is what offsets the unchanging background of Light in order to appreciate actually the experience of “having something” which you previously “did not have”. You would need old habits of thinking which the greater part of who you really are, knows is really not true, but would serve you in the form of resistance for as long as you wish to keep that alive.
Abe does very much over simplify the emotional stuff and like you guys, I very much don’t agree with a lot of what they say. But what they and Bashar say about this is really profound and can’t be ignored I feel. They are basically just saying (in simplified words) that when we think thoughts based in fear and worry and doubt, who we truly are, knows that these thoughts are not actually true.
Anyway, that’s how I am interpreting this whole thing at least based on the messages above along with my own understanding of this stuff. Thanks for the conversation in this thread Brandon and Indigo as you both have made wonderful points.
Thanks Brandon and yes, I am not at all advocating that resistance should be gotten rid of, because like you said it’s impossible especially living in a human body.
But, I also know that life is only supposed to be as difficult as we allow ourselves to believe it is through that old subconscious programming which manifests as resistance. Myself and many others are healing our bodies by releasing resistance and coming to see our true nature. Undoubtedly it’s been a very difficult resistance filled process for myself. But, having seen through so many old beliefs, it’s going to be quite difficult for those beliefs to ‘get me’ again in the future in the same way. In the non physical we manifest instantaneously without any resistance at all. This has been reported from every NDE and OBE I have encountered, plus channels and mediums. Therefore, I don’t believe resistance is a necessity in manifesting. I believe it simply adds an intended effect while we are here in these bodies and a well intended effect it is.
And yes, of course if I take on a larger project in my life, there undoubtedly will be a push back against it, but it doesn’t have to cause me suffering or be painful, and I can instantaneously soothe that scared part of myself and don’t have to believe it anymore.
Of course we come here as some of us want to take on more and more challenging situations because that’s the fun of life like you said. But, I also think that’s across multiple lifetimes (even though all lives are simultaneous) as well as each life will offer different challenges depending on the theme we are exploring. Meaning, I think we explore a theme in each life and I already known mine is related to illness and not loving myself, and when we’re done exploring it, we can create anything we want and life just doesn’t have to be a struggle.
Not that long ago which I have not shared on here, but I did share on an Eckhart Tolle non-duality forum I post on which has some Abe people that I am friendly with, I developed an immediate desire for more financial abundance. I started incorporating this into my visualizations. The feelings of living my life completely financially free and the feelings of ‘having everything I need in my life’….and it felt awesome in the visualizations. A couple of weeks later, I got a call from a recruiter in my field for an awesome weekend part time job for some extra cash, and then my car insurance company (Allstate) called me to notify me that I qualified due to my great credit for a new program of theirs about a week later. They lowered my 6 month insurance from 1,050 to 600 dollars which is about 800 dollars cheaper a year. This all happened within a few weeks this past fall. I didn’t feel any resistance to the financial aspect and I manifested this. Now, I understand this isn’t necessarily a ‘ larger’ goal, but it still worked for me with very little resistance. And the reason I believe is because I didn’t think much about it except for those visualizations.
The same thing for healing…..the releasing of resistance is what actually is healing the body, because the nervous system is shifting from a defensive posture of fear to its normal state (our own natural state) of ease and peace. It’s resistance itself (while serving an intended aspect initially) which actually causes dis-ease.
So, just to put out there, I 100 percent agree with you, in the context of yin and yang, but I still feel that the yang part (whichever part is the action part) will feel inspired and feel good to take action to do things when the time is right. And when resistance arises, you just release it. But, the more you re-program your subconscious now, those old beliefs should not still be arising in the same way. I think for many people, more and more resistance arises when they get so attached to a goal. I have been delving more and more into doing activities and things that simply bring me joy (and loved the trills and arpeggios reference as a former guitar and piano player myself) and I think this is connecting me with a much deeper place within me, yet it’s also pushing me out of my comfort zone a bit which of course doesn’t always feel good as there is more resistance there to be released.
I have this inkling of my intuition that life is about finding that place of love and excitement within ourselves that brings us joy and acting on those things. Sure, it might feel uncomfortable at times, and I know there will be resistance that comes to the surface again for sure without a doubt…..but I can only say that the more I release my own resistance, life if anything is getting easier, because of my perception of it. But, will let you know when I try to build the next “Empire State Building” and we’ll see how much arises then ha
Hi Derek,
I think we largely agree.
I think you misunderstand me though. I’m not saying that resistance is always necessary. In the case of your money manifestation (congratulations, BTW), that was something you could already easily believe in. The structures were already in place in your subconscious mind to manifest those things. This is what most LOA teachers are referring to when they say to just feel good.
Recall the difference between current level goals and next level goals. If something is already pretty believable to you, the subconscious structures are in place, and it’s easy. If it is not believable, then there will be resistance, and the struggle with that resistance will create the new structures needed to create what you want.
Imagine a river. At first, it might have to carve its way through the landscape, through rock and everything else. But after its path is carved, then it is effortless to follow that path.
Or again back to the pianist. After he masters those trills in that one piece, those trills will forever come easily to him. There is no more resistance, and that’s awesome. The subconscious structures are in place to make those trills easy.
But in the next piece, maybe there are left hand trills, or maybe there are arpeggios, or something else. And, that’s a next level goal. So again, he struggles against it, and the subconscious mind creates the structures necessary to make that possible, too.
So when you manifested your money, and the discount in your insurance, you already believed that was possible. You felt good about more money, and all you had to do was to envision it briefly, forget about it, and it happened. That’s a current level goal.
But now let’s say you wanted to double your income. I doubt it’d be so effortless for you. I also don’t think it would just require thinking about it once, dropping it, and it happening a few weeks later. You don’t have the subconscious structures in place to allow that to happen. So, the resistance comes up, you work through it, and the structures are developed.
The healing is a different story. You held resistance in your energy field, and in your physical body. Resistance is only useful when it is allowed to flow through naturally. it comes up, and we allow it, and make the decision to focus on our goal instead. When it is repressed, into the subconscious mind, into the energy field, or into the physical body, you are feeding that manifestation (more about that in Saturday’s podcast). You’re making it real. You’re weaving your tapestry (see latest post) with the thread of that unwanted story.
Absolutely life will get easier as you learn to work with resistance. Even Abraham has a new Step 5, which is very similar to what I’m saying above. They say not to be afraid to be in Step 1 (ask), which is the contrast, because that is the catalyst to your new desires. Don’t be afraid to get into the resistance and work through it. In their Step 5, resistance becomes just another welcomed part of the process.
I think I mentioned in Tuesday’s support call about my recent two effortless manifestations. The first one, I had to get a new Mac charger, but didn’t want to have to pay $80. Well, I found a spare I didn’t realize I had. Zero effort, zero resistance, totally feeling good. Why? it was a current level goal.
Second example, I wanted a plugin for WordPress to auto-link affiliate keywords, like to Amazon and such. I found one that cost $49. I didn’t want to pay that. I found another, better one that was free. Another totally effortless manifestation, totally feeling good, zero resistance. It was a current level goal.
So I totally get the effortless manifestation angle. I’m totally on board with it. But that’s not the type of manifestation I’m referring to in these posts. I’m largely referring to those next level goals, because let’s be honest, when people come to the law of attraction, what they want is to create something big in their life. They don’t just want those parking spaces, or whatever else is small to them. They want something big, or else they wouldn’t seek out the law of attraction.
But the letting go method won’t work for those big goals. They require another approach, which necessitates getting comfortable with discomfort and through creative tension, building those subconscious structures to make it possible to manifest those big goals.
Thank you Brandon for clarifying that. And I read your new post and think it’s brilliant and I think it sums up the entire structure of why suffering relating to resistance. I too have found a lot of value in Byron Katie’s “work”.
I’ve been drawn to your blog over the past few months before your perspective is much more in line with mine than other deliberate creation blogs like Melodys (where I too found you ha). You speak with immense clarity, I have to say. I have not had a chance to listen to Tuesday’s call. I will absolutely make an effort to hear Saturday’s podcast.
I do understand what you are saying. I guess, for me, at this point in time, perhaps where my own perspective has shifted a bit in a different direction than others in the deliberate creating community, is that the only long term larger goal I am aiming for right now……is healing and I just don’t have long term visions which is not a bad thing nor a good thing.
Because I’m in the process of trying to act on little things right now that excite me and bring me happiness and it’s been so much fun that it’s so hard for me to focus on manifesting in a larger context. Life being such a struggle for me growing up into my adult years now (I’m 35)….has taught me so much about resistance and how it serves us. But, what has been so amazing for me in reading your posts, is trying to grasp the nature of resistance (in relation to my own life with dis-ease), and I do agree largely with the majority of what you say, because you and I clearly see this differently than Abe and others.
What you describe in the healing process is EXACTLY on par with the brain retraining program I am doing which I find so fascinitating and is why I have been so drawn towards your writings in that context. It’s literally about…..not getting caught up in the story (the resistance) and focusing instead on your goal. The way I see it, is that…..why WOULDN’T your goal manifest? The thoughts that worry about it manifesting and the doubts and fears and anxieties are just resistance and the ‘natural’ part of who we are already knows that are goals are going to happen, but we just have to soothe the ‘survival parts” (the same terms I use for what you call the subconscious) and simply not give them life.
So, what you are saying is (and give me feedback here), smaller level goals obviously are not going to bring up that much resistance because the survival mechanism/subconscious has an easier time getting on board with it. But, the LARGER level goals (whatever you would define as that) obviously are going to bring up more resistance because the survival part of us does not believe it is possible due to old beliefs and therefore, it is going to require greater soothing of that resistance/discomfort. Is this correct?
And I think the point I was trying to make in the last post, is that after you continually soothe and release that resistance, the more and more larger goals you take on going forward, should not bring on that same level of resistance anymore as your subconscious gets trained to understand that ‘what it believes to be a solid, empirical objective reality where only this, this , and this is possible’ is actually a malleable piece of clay and really ANYTHING is ultimately possible (well within some level of reason ha).
So, the greater part of us, (who we truly are) already knows that we can manifest our goals and it’s really a matter of convincing the ego or subconscious by re-programming it (Bashar calls it….making a contract with the ego, which I love) that it’s ok. I actually don’t see it as adding on ‘new beliefs’, but simply removing the beliefs that were in place to see that you ALWAYS have a choice to indulge in the old story or the new story.
So, other than offering us the opportunity to experience suffering and struggling which DOES give off desire to explore the opposite, why other purpose does resistance serve in our live down the line? This is where I agree partially with what CJ is saying in that earlier post, that I feel resistance will only serve a purpose up until a certain point. That’s not the same as saying resistance will totally be gone. But, I only see it serving an initial purpose in our lives.
Your thoughts?
Hi Derek,
Great discussion. 😀
It’s perfectly okay, obviously, that you are only seekign the smaller goals right now. Nothing wrong with that at all. 🙂
Correct.
But besides beliefs, and I’ll respond about this lower down, too, but it’s about subconscious structures. I’m realizing I need to perhaps write a post on this.
When you learn that piece on the piano, you don’t necessarily disbelieve you can play that difficult part, you’re just not used to it. It takes training.
So it’s about beliefs, yes. But it’s also about these subconscious structures that make it easier to achieve your goal. The subconscious structure of “make a million dollars a year” is totally different than that of “Make $50,000 a year.” Even if you believe the former is possible, which you probably won’t initially, it doesn’t negate the fact that you don’t have the structures in place to generate that much. You don’t know how to do it on a manifestational level.
It’s like if you’re used to only walking say a mile at the most, you don’t have the structures in place to run a marathon. It takes training to get to that level.
And I agree in principle. Back to the pianist: when he’s just learning how to play his first piece, the structures to play the piano just aren’t there at all. Twenty years later when he’s playing Beethoven sonatas, it’s far, far, far easier. But as before, that doesn’t mean he won’t struggle with new technical difficulties.
I find that there’s a time when someone is new to manifesting, that they just don’t have that trust. Trust is one of the 10 keys you need to manifest. Once you build that trust, and some of the basic subconscious structures to create your reality, you become a better manifester. But, there will be technical struggles, new areas of life that you haven’t trained in yet, which will give you trouble—i.e., bring up resistance.
This is what I wanted to respond to. It is definitely removing old beliefs. I also think it’s definitely about building new structures. I dont’ want to call them beliefs, but new… skillsets. New abilities to manifest bigger things. It’s not just about beliefs. It’s about subconscious structures.
Yes, Abraham says the purpose of resistance is to fire off “rockets of desire”, and that’s about it.
My view of it is more holistic. It’s the other side of the coin. It’s the shadow self that challenges us to develop those new structures, just like in the pianist example I keep alluding to.
What’s the point to struggling with a new piece? Because without that struggle, you don’t develop the new technique to play it properly.
What’s the purpose of resistance? Because without resistance, you don’t develop the new ability to manifest bigger things.
In a movie, do you want to witness the protagonist meet success after success? It gets boring. We need a villain. We need someone for him to struggle against. Think of Joseph Campbell and The Power of Myth. We need light and dark in life.
A few months ago, I made a commitment to studying darkness. You might recall that I started working with the deity Hades. I think this is why I’ve learned as much as I have about the shadow side of all of this. And I’ve learned that it is the shadow side that forces you to grow.
So, the purpose of resistance, again, is not just to know what you want. It is to train your subconscious mind to manifest those bigger goals.
But just as with the post above, there are cycles of resistance and release. You’re currently in a release phase, and that’s okay. Eventually, I predict your energy will naturally attract you to a creation/resistance stage for those bigger goals. It might take months, or years, but that’s the cycle. So I think a lot more of this will make sense as you set your vision on bigger things.
I also just wanted to say, I think that when you really know what you want, you’ll always know what direction to move in. The tension created by your deliberate choice will set up new pathways to open up to you, and you’ll know exactly where to go. This has been my experience.
The river doesn’t ever not know where to go. It goes according to the structures in place, no matter how much resistance is in the way. It burrows through rock if necessary, given enough time.
So, the act of deciding on what you want, will set forces in motion which will naturally bring you to that desire.
So, Brandon, here you are saying that no matter if everything is stacked against you, you can still achieve what you want.
Also, with emotions, I think they are taken way too seriously. Why do people get depressed with every single thing that comes along? I know a lot of people do. Many jump to conclusions with every drawback. They conclude worthlessness and hopelessness with every glitch. I think we are conditioned to think that, if it is not going smoothly, you might as well give up. But who decides this? Why would society say that is all we do is work anyway, so it might as well be in what we want. At least, that is how I look at it. Please respond to this because it is pretty important.
Hi Kat,
Correct. No matter what your subconscious mind wants to be holding on to, you can still achieve your goal. In the upcoming podcast, we compare it to your obstacle being like a mountain. You can try to dig through it, or you can just walk right around it. 🙂
And I agree that we take emotions way too seriously. If anything, they are just your subconscious mind showing you where you hold resistance. It’s really nothing more than that. Emotions are just energy. They come and they go.
I hope this answers your question.
You can also go under the mountain or fly over the mountain. 🙂
Yes, thank you! I think people get upset way too often about things. What concerns me is these emotions affect physical health and mental state can lead to physical deterioration and vice versa. It is one, not two separate things, as we know and now researchers are coming to this conclusion.
We should take things with a grain of salt. Just because someone says you can’t doesn’t mean much. Perhaps it can go either way- you believe them and not go ahead, or ignore them and do go on with it.
One more comment, in the non physical manifestation happens instantaneously simply by thinking about something. There is zero resistance in the non physical. This has been reported in every NDE that I have researched and I’ve done extensive research with OBE’s as well with people like William Buhlman who are experts in this field. And Robert Monroe’s work as well.
It’s only here in the physical where there is resistance which slows down manifestations. So, resistance to me is not necessary at all for manifestation, but IS necessary to create a desire. It’s necessary to experience yourself as ‘darkness’ in order to understand ‘light’ in a different context.
Hi Derek,
I agree that in the non-physical, manifestation is instantaneous. But I disagree with the conclusion.
To me, the reason it is instantaneous is because every possibility is present. Every goal is a current level goal. There are no next level goals, because everything is immediately available energetically.
And that’s why we incarnate, for the excitement of striving for those next level goals, and having to work through that resistance, because we are at a place where not everything is immediately available. We are at a place where our subconscious minds have certain programming, and need to be trained to accomplish certain results.
Also, I see ourselves as both darkness and light. A lot of spiritual people characterize the non-physical as only light, and the process of self-discovery, or enlightenment, as totally cutting out the darkness and becoming only the light. But we are both, or else there could not be non-duality. We cannot be one and not the other. We are here for both the light and the dark. Getting comfortable with that darkness has been a transformative process for me.
The non physical IS light as I see it. There really IS only Light in actuality. Darkness while I completely agree is to be embraced and I am completely on board with being with the darkness, is ultimately not real when you see where the darkness is stemming from. Darkness is simply a belief that you are something other than light. It’s believing the old resistant thought patterns. There is no actual entity called ‘darkness’ that exists. And yes, I too have studied and done a lot of inquiry and light and darkness.
I agree completely Brandon on why we are here. But, again, to me, the resistance will only serve a purpose for as long as you believe you need it. The rest I see as tension which is different from resistance.
Basically, I feel we are saying the same things. The only difference to me is that I don’t view life as going from one goal to the next. Because it’s far too easy to get into ‘achiever mode’. I’ve been there in the past.
I view life as first of all finding out who I truly am and from that place of love (zero state has fit it perfectly for me) connecting to what I truly DO want and taking any inspired action from there. Sure, old resistance will come up to the surface for as long as it needs be. But, only for as long as needs be. I speak as this has been my experience of late with healing and with taking part in activities that excite me including starting singing lessons which I recently began.
I don’t necessarily think life is just going from one goal to the next.
I did want to respond to your earlier comment about the guitar, because I think your experience there colors your view of achievement, compared to my experience with the piano.
I love the experience of struggling with a new piece. I love the experience of working for 30-60 minutes on a difficult part of a piece, letting it go, coming back the next day and seeing it improve almost magically. To me it’s not about achievement, but about shaping my performance to be in alignment with my vision of how I want it to be.
So our experiences there are different. And that necessity to struggle will never come to an end, because there is always new technique.
Sure, I could just play pieces that were easy to me, but that takes away the joy of improvement and growth.
I will disagree about there not being darkness. I believe that light and dark are just emanations of the same Source, which is neither and both. Here’s a great quote from Byron Katie’s blog:
Source
Thanks for that quote and yeah, this is just a matter semantics, because I completely agree. I am using the term “light” not as in polarity to darkness, but Light as in “All there is”. Ultimately, as I see it, there is only “All there is” which is unconditional love. Unconditional love ultimately is what we are. It’s that peace, that stillness. And of course within that ‘unconditional love’ exists the ‘potential’ for expression of darkness, but the darkness is not in polarity to our true nature as love. When I have been in that place of stillness and I really can only speak from experience, there is only love for everything and I know that dark emotions cannot exist there, for when I hold the space for them, they no longer seem ‘dark’.
This is such a fascinating topic because, I use the term “light” as a reference to Pure Awareness. From reading so many near death experiences in the past, there is something to be said for ‘higher vibrations’ not as in a right or wrong context. But, our true nature IS of that vibration of love which is what some call ‘higher’ But, higher does not mean ‘better’. But, love is not something different than “not love”.
Love is simply total allowance and unconditional acceptance…..OF the shadow as well. When energy does not flow in the body, due to energizing old belief patterns of fear, and worry and anxiety, dis-ease happens because those patterns are not in alignment with our true nature which is love and always total allowance. It’s like the shadow is believing yourself to be a limiting, unworthy aspect when in reality the greater part of you knows this not to be true. And we are completely free to experience that type of bondage for as long as we please. But, life will let you know as helpful pointers where you are.
What I have learned from my own healing process is that when I allow the darkness, and stop fighting it, it is transmuted into light and love. That’s why darkness itself is not something separate that I have come to see. The shadow aspect is simply an aspect of us that believes it is something other than light. And that TOO is perfectly ok. But, you know and feel it in your experience (life does not feel good) when you are operating from a place of depression, powerlessness, anxiety, fear. It feels terrible. The minute you allow them, and dis-identify from being them alone, they are transmuted. It’s always a belief that keeps these emotions alive. Of course these too are loved by Source which has NO judgment. But, there is a reason that unconditional acceptance and love feels so peaceful, because peace is our inherent nature. And the darkness is meant for us to compassionately with love embrace and integrate. But, darkness exists when you block off the flow of who you truly are and what you truly desire.
It’s a beautiful process. Ultimately all of it is perfectly valid. But, your experience will absolutely let you know when you are aligning to closer to your nature and when you are not.
I totally agree with what you’re saying.
I just differentiate between non-dual Light (capital L to show it’s absolute nature), and dualistic light, which is in the polarity of light/dark. I don’t like using the word Light in the non-dual sense for that reason, because it can be confusing. I prefer zero state, or Peace, or Stillness, or Emptiness, or whatever.
I find that a lot of people try to be positive all the time, because of this light = good and dark = bad idea. And, that doesn’t work. Both sides of the polarity will be present at some point. When we enter Stillness, or Peace, we can be present to whatever comes up, as it comes up.
In NDE’s, many people experience ‘hell’ which is just a carryover of beliefs from physical life. Those beliefs that are aligned with fear, and doubt and anxiety produce the emotions of darkness and that darkness cannot exist in the higher vibrations of love and that is why many people first experience “hellish” types of near death experiences. It’s a turning away from the light often out of feelings of unworthiness and a lack of self love. This has been the largest aspect of my life here. I experienced countless darkness for years because I didn’t love myself. My life experiences taught me that it was self love that I was seeking all along and this process INCLUDED turning INTO the darkness.
So, ultimately Source is the ‘all that is’, but the vibrations of love are more aligned with that Source because all Source can do….is love.
I don’t get this..I thought manifestations are all about doing what feels good, and then taking inspired action? What’s the difference between this and the mainstream mentality that we need to “work till we drop” in order to get what we want?
Hi Indigo,
Thanks for your comment.
I understand it’s a totally different way of seeing things.
I think you’ll like next Monday’s blog post, as it will answer this question more than I can in this comment. But I will answer to the best of my ability.
Basically, just because you feel good doesn’t mean that you’re moving towards your goal. I know that seems different, but it’s true.
The difference between what I’m saying, and what most people do, is that most people don’t try to align on the inside at all. They try to make up the difference through outer action.
I’m saying that the inner work is the most important. But the inner work is not always going to feel great. It quite often will feel rather uncomfortable. But that is okay.
Does this make sense?
Thanks for your reply Brandon. Yes I agree that the inner work will not always feel comfortable, but to me it still feels “better” and more like “relief” than trying to suppress it by doing something that makes you feel “good”. So I guess the key word here is we should always go in the direction of relief? (And that sometimes feels negative, its not always sunshine and rainbows)
Looking forward to the new post!
Hi Indigo,
Brandon will give you his response.
My response is that emotions are guidance tools. This is one area of the Abraham teachings I highly resonate with. Many teachers talk about emotions being ‘random arisings’ and they are clearly not. If you consider that in order to even know that you have a choice to create something that is aligned with who you truly are, you would first have to see that there IS a choice. You can only know there is a choice if you first experience what it is like to not have a choice (negative emotion). Negative emotions and resistance are some of the most vital aspects of our physical experience. They are often the contrasting tools to get you into alignment. If you are manifesting, resistance is a helpful aspect in order for you to first experience what it is like to NOT have what you want in order that you can relish it when it does come.
So, when you are manifesting something large, it’s likely that you will experience strong resistance which is just old limiting beliefs that will rise to the surface from the survival mechanism thinking it’s protecting you from something ‘dangerous’. Over time though, that resistance will ultimately decrease when you re-train your subconscious.
You never, ever have to stay in a negative emotion, meaning wallow in it. We are always looking for relief yes, because negative emotions don’t feel good obviously as they are not aligned with our nature. But, that does not make them wrong.
Yet, with that said, Source does not come here to choose only to have positive experiences. Source chooses to have all experiences. It’s just that love and peace on the emotional scale are the guidance tools to let us know if we are aligned or not. You can manifest from fear as well. Many of us do it. The universe does not judge. The universe is completely unconditionally accepting of ‘good and bad” (which are just human terms). But, the emotions will let you know when you are operating from a place of who you truly are when you are operating from a limiting belief.
Just my opinion.
Thank you for the reply Brandon.
The light and the dark is exactly the way I see it as well and this darkness was what I WANTED early on for the experiences I came here to explore and only needed that darkness and struggle early on in my life, to first explore what it was like to feel powerless with no choice and not to love myself with the empowering realization that I AM the light and always have been, and that I DO always have a choice, just like you wrote in your recent blog post.
But, I could never have realized that I have a choice to create what I want, if I hadn’t first gone through hell in my life to feel like I “did not have a choice”. This to me, is the ultimate aspect of resistance. Now, resistance is coming up still, but I’m seeing it less and less in my life.
I learned to play guitar because it simply excited me and during the process, it was ABSOLUTELY difficult at times to learn new pieces and a lot of patterns of ‘achiever’ mentality (resistance) came over me. And of course it’s difficult to learn a new piece. But, I later realized on reflection, that all that fighting was completely unnecessary. Because all of the resistance that arose during my guitar playing was because I was trying so hard to get to the end goal of becoming an incredible guitar player, that I was missing out on the initial joy that I had during playing. It’s joy which is where it all is. When I first started playing, sure it was not easy and took a ton of practice, but there was absolutely no suffering. Then it became a means to an end for me. Resistance has only arose in my experience when I am doing something either as an attachment to a goal/desire or because I am trying to accomplish something for the wrong reasons. The latter one has been huge for me.
Playing guitar for me was the next natural progression in my life and it was incredible and fun when I allowed it to be, but also took a lot of work. Learning to be mindful and BE with my fingers playing on the strings of late, is such a different feel than struggling to get down a piece of music. Instead now, it’s TENSION that I experience, but not resistance and that’s why I resonate so much with your notion of tension being different than resistance. And it took a lot of frustration at times as my subconscious was learning a new skill, and I felt like giving up at points, but this was during a time period also, where I was still finding myself and I longed so badly to get to that end goal of being a great guitar player, that the more I looked into it, I wanted the recognition from other people and I wanted something to value about myself. You see, I love your notion of tension. It resonates SO deeply with me. But, I don’t see that as the same resistance. Resistance to me is struggle and suffering and only serves a purpose to a point where we allow it to.
Tension on the other hand as you have taught, is a natural part of embarking on any new difficult task, because exactly like you said, you are teaching your subconscious a new skill which it previously did not know. This is the basis of neuroplasticity. I’ve recently started playing again and there is zero resistance now. Of course, that previous resistance in the past is what gave way, to allow me to approach the instrument in a more mindful fashion.
I manifested a career for myself where I wanted specific things for myself (working from home, good pay) which I have mentioned, that stemmed from previous unwanted experiences of a job that I hated. I hated the job because I wasn’t making any money and because I was sick and felt unwanted in my life. I was miserable, and unhappy. This was the resistance I needed in order to find what I truly DID want…..a career that I have now. But, as soon as I discovered this new career as an option, I became so inspired. But, the manifestation process of manifesting that career while absolutely involved a TON of inspired action including going back to school and interning, was not a struggle in the least bit for me. It was fun and inspiring and exciting. Yes, there was tension, but no resistance for me.
I understand that when we are getting our subconscious to get on board with learning a new skill, it simply takes practice, because you are re-programming your brain and that does include a lot of tension, but resistance to me, is when the nervous system is intentionally acting defensive out of fear. Learning to play guitar is a challenge, but not because our subconscious is fearful. It’s just because we are learning a new skill which is what I would interpret as tension. And tension is a necessary aspect of manifesting and learning a new skill. But, suffering is not…..unless you are clinging to an outcome.
Letting go to me, does not mean sitting on your couch doing nothing. Letting go and allowing to me is focusing on your goal, releasing whatever resistance arises, but taking inspired action and if there is struggle, it’s just old defensive patterns that are scared. The more I learn to be with my emotions lovingly and embrace them, this to me IS letting go. Trust me, I am currently in the process of manifesting a massive goal of health after 10 years of struggling with a chronic illness. This IS a huge manifestation project I have taken on that my subconscious has fought and fought and fought against. But, it’s getting easier and easier for me the more I learn that I don’t have to believe those old patterns anymore and the more I learn to let go and allow and I’m seeing the results in my body as well…..slowly :). To me, letting and allowing combined with a vision on my goal is the key to this whole process.
Just my take
Hi Derek,
I think we do agree, but are defining things differently.
You say resistance to you is just when the nervous system is reacting out of fear. I can see where that comes from, but I also see resistance as a bit more than that.
I see resistance as the process of carving out our goal. There’s a great quote from Michelangelo I’ve referred to on several occasions: “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”
When you first set out to create something totally new, you have to pinpoint that vibrational signature, and tune in to that to the exclusion of all else. The “resistance” aspect is the aspect of everything that is not your goal falling away from your inner state. When you think of your goal, and you feel partly good, partly resistant, and you instead move towards the feeling of the goal, that to me is the process of working with resistance to move towards what you want.
I see resistance as a beneficial thing, not as just a defensive posture.
So I think this is the major difference.
I also like your definition of letting go. I’ve found in the past that most people take “letting go” to mean to simply feel good about the goal and that’s it. So when I emphasize these other elements, I mean that it is more than that. It’s exactly what you mention: letting the resistance come up, seeing through it through non-attachment, and moving towards the goal. It’s a more active process for me than the connotation of “letting go”, though that’s certainly a part of it. 🙂
Thanks for the conversation today Brandon. Will have to let this stuff sink in :). Hopefully you didn’t think i was being argumentative. I’ve learned a lot from you. Will read more on this later.
Not at all. 🙂 I enjoyed the conversation very much. I think there is 99% agreement, with some minor differences in definition and perspective. Conversation like this is great for encouraging growth on both sides. 🙂
Hi Indigo,
I can tell by the verbiage of your comments that you’re familiar with Abraham. I’ll give my usual disclaimer: don’t try to sync up what I write with what Abraham talks about. There will be some similarities, but there are much more contradictions. I disagree with them on many points.
Always move towards relief: not necessarily. Relief can mean many things. It can mean you’ve given up on your vision and the cessation of resistance as a result feels like huge relief. I just had a client today talk about exactly this: she had an opportunity she really wanted, but was too afraid to take. She didn’t take it, and felt relief, because the fear was gone.
Does that mean the opportunity was wrong? No, it just means she felt really afraid, and so letting go of the opportunity felt like relief to her.
Abraham’s teachings are very one-dimensional to me. They say that relief is always better. But, not always.
What I think is always better is the zero state. That is the stillness that exists within. Check out my podcast this coming Saturday for more information on how that works. But, that inner stillness will always bring you away from resistance, and quickly towards your goals. The zero state is not the same as joy, or happiness, or love, or bliss. It’s just inner stillness, which is okay with all emotions.
Emotions do mean something, I agree with Derek. But they are much more complex than just “positive = good and negative = bad”.
The essence of what I teach is: focus on the vision of what you want, in the face of whatever resistance arises. Take it with you into inner stillness, and it’ll come into physical reality quickly.
Hi Brandon,
I don’t agree with everything Abraham says either, I think it’s way too simplified. I’m just curious if you agree with Melody Fletcher? ( I actually came to your blog from hers) She seems to teach a lot that if you feel good you’ll get everything you want.
I’m still kind of confused by what you teach… by focussing on what you want, do you mean we should visualize our vision everyday? And “taking it with you into inner stillness in the face of whatever resistance that arises” so in other words, go into the resistance instead of away from it? Like be okay with it? We may be a little lost in translation here, because to me that IS “relief”, going into the fear is more “relief” to me than giving up.
Also in the example of your client, how do you know that it was her fear talking when she didn’t want to take that opportunity, or it was her intuition telling her that particular opportunity just isn’t right for her, and the right one is just around the corner?
I appreciate all your responses!
Hi Indigo,
Great questions.
Melody is mostly along the line of Abraham as well. I do disagree with a lot of what she says.
Yes, absolutely. You might want to read my definition of current level goals vs. next level goals. With next level goals, it takes near daily focus on your goals to manifest them. It can be in the form of visualization, journaling, affirmations, or whatever works for you. My course, The Art of Reality Creation, I give a lot of techniques for how to move towards your goals.
Yes, more or less. It’s more about non-attachment (blog post about this going live in about an hour). Non-attachment to your stories, to your resistance, just letting it be what it is, and moving into stillness with your goal in mind. Not giving your resistance your focus or emotional investment.
To you, perhaps, but I’ve worked with many people who actively avoid resistance. They’ll “distract” themselves, think about other things, anything to avoid the resistance.
Emotion has one primary job when it comes to manifestation: it shows you how much your current focus agrees with your subconscious mind’s programming. Note that this is different than your “inner being” agreeing with your focus and therefore you feel good. When your subconscious mind feels threatened by your goal, you will absolutely not feel good. But when you maintain the focus anyway, and even add some positive emotion to the goal, while not reacting to the resistance, your subconscious mind learns that the goal is more important than the current programming, and it starts to alter its own programming.
So relief could mean, “What I’m focusing on now is in agreement with my subconscious mind’s programming,” which you don’t necessarily want, because that means nothing is changing. or it could mean, “I have successfully trained my subconscious mind that my goal is good, and safe.” That is desirable.
So it’s not as simple as relief = good and resistance = bad.
Context, and intuition. We had been talking about this opportunity for a while. It was a huge next level goal for her, or at least a means to that goal. She was excited about it, but in the moment of truth, she became fearful.
I’ve had the same thing happen. I have fear about a certain option, but I know deeper down, intuitively, that it is actually a good path for me. I take the path, despite the fear, and it works out wonderfully.
Hope that clarifies things.
Wow Brandon, I’m gonna have to read this over a couple times tomorrow but I think you’re on to something here!! This may be the missing link to why LOA doesnt work for most ppl (some people can be happy for years and nothing happens).
I’m so glad I found your blog. You explained it so well it is eye opening for me right now…I feel like I’ve found that next level “aha” moment beyond what Melody and Abraham teaches. I”ll sleep on this.
Thank you!!
PS: May I ask how you know what you know? Is it intuition or life experiences?
PS: I don’t think relief means giving up on your dreams, because when you want something so so bad, giving up doesnt feel good at all. But it should also be said that sometimes when you give up on something thats when stuff happens, like when I decided to “take a break” with pursuing my dream career to focus on other things, I was on the verge of giving up, thats when good stuff manifested..Because I released resistance to the now, and just decided to have fun for a bit.
I personally know some people that hold their visions all day everyday, focus on it and thats all they think about, and yet 5 years 10 years go by and they still don’t achieve their dreams.
I think there is a happy middle ground.
Yes you are right. Obsessing about the goal isn’t good. I’d guess that if you really got a look at their inner state, they’d be constantly anxious about the goal, which isn’t beneficial.
I would say that the reason you succeeded is partly because of the letting go, but the previous resistance also altered the programming of your subconscious mind, so that once you did let go, everything could work out. That’s the balance of resistance and release I talk about in this post. That struggle with the vision forces your subconscious mind to reprogram itself to be more in alignment with your goal. Then you let go, and it all works out.
I’ve found that if you let go from the beginning, and it’s a goal that you don’t quite believe yet, it’s not going to generate the momentum to bring you there.
So in reply to your comment Brandon about subconscious programming and I know there’s a long thread of comments here, if I am understanding this correctly, if you actually are re-programming your subconscious, (because all resistance, is really just old limiting beliefs from your subconscious that are just trying to protect you out of a fear of you expressing yourself/your desires), then in the future, your resistance should absolutely decrease.
With my brain retraining program that I am doing for chronic fatigue, we are re-programming the subconscious based on old limiting beliefs about ourselves and what I found is a lifelong practice of mindfulness and body awareness meditation, brings me more and more into that zero state. Just being in that state regardless of manifesting or not, makes my life much more peaceful, eases my nervous system by not having to buy into those old habits of thinking anymore and therefore, releases more and more resistance.
So, therefore, it would make sense that in my own future manifestations, the more resistance I release now through re-programming for the manifestation I am trying to make happen now, that resistance (while always existing on some level since we operate through human bodies) should absolutely be less and less. This is what I meant in a comment above yesterday to CJ. There is no reason you have to live with that much resistance going forward and that much suffering every time you want to manifest something…..IF you are re-programming your subconscious now. Massive resistance will only exist for as long as we:
A) Continue to believe those thoughts and are not aware of who we truly are (basically completely enveloped in those old patterns of thinking believing we are separate people in a world of competition)
B) Even when we become aware (wake up to our true nature), have still not re-programmed our subconscious, because those patterns obviously don’t just vanish. They didn’t for Ramana nor Nisargadatta. Both had to maintain a lifelong practice of meditation. They will continue to play out until we train our minds otherwise. It’s like the saying that you only need to keep suffering (experiencing massive resistance) for as long as you keep invigorating those old stories or pathways.
This is why I see resistance (negative emotions) only serving one purpose. Well two purposes. Number one to keep us safe. And number two….giving us the experience of what it is like NOT to have what we desire in order to relish it greater when we DO get it. It’s like contrast. If you already are Light, then what fun would it be to manifest when you know it’s coming? But, the experience of darkness (resistant negative emotions), which is just an experience…… is what offsets the unchanging background of Light in order to appreciate actually the experience of “having something” which you previously “did not have”. You would need old habits of thinking which the greater part of who you really are, knows is really not true, but would serve you in the form of resistance for as long as you wish to keep that alive.
Abe does very much over simplify the emotional stuff and like you guys, I very much don’t agree with a lot of what they say. But what they and Bashar say about this is really profound and can’t be ignored I feel. They are basically just saying (in simplified words) that when we think thoughts based in fear and worry and doubt, who we truly are, knows that these thoughts are not actually true.
Anyway, that’s how I am interpreting this whole thing at least based on the messages above along with my own understanding of this stuff. Thanks for the conversation in this thread Brandon and Indigo as you both have made wonderful points.
Hi Derek,
Yes, you’re absolutely correct. As you work through this resistance, the reprogramming of your subconscious mind will mean that there is less resistance.
You’ll enjoy the new post for that reason, I think.
But the thing I’m pointing out here is that there’s always another level. The resistance I think is not just to show you what you don’t want, but it is useful to struggle against it to create the structures that you do want.
I compared it earlier I think to a hard piano piece. A musician will always get better, right? But is there ever a time that every single piece of music is easy? No, of course not. One particular piece might require a lot of work on trills, and so he gets really good at trills, or at least one type of trill. But then there’s alternating octaves, arpeggios, runs, crossing hands, and myriad other techniques that a pianist will be busy with for his whole life.
Those difficult parts are like resistance. But the pianist never wants to get rid of those. He acknowledges it’s just part of life. It’s part of the fun of learning a new piece.
So when some of you guys are talking about getting rid of resistance, my counterpoint to that is, you never will get rid of it entirely, and nor would that even be desirable. Your subconscious mind is a very extensive pattern of programs and beliefs. You’ll likely make very good progress, but there will never be a day when it’s just done.
Does that make sense?
Thanks Brandon and yes, I am not at all advocating that resistance should be gotten rid of, because like you said it’s impossible especially living in a human body.
But, I also know that life is only supposed to be as difficult as we allow ourselves to believe it is through that old subconscious programming which manifests as resistance. Myself and many others are healing our bodies by releasing resistance and coming to see our true nature. Undoubtedly it’s been a very difficult resistance filled process for myself. But, having seen through so many old beliefs, it’s going to be quite difficult for those beliefs to ‘get me’ again in the future in the same way. In the non physical we manifest instantaneously without any resistance at all. This has been reported from every NDE and OBE I have encountered, plus channels and mediums. Therefore, I don’t believe resistance is a necessity in manifesting. I believe it simply adds an intended effect while we are here in these bodies and a well intended effect it is.
And yes, of course if I take on a larger project in my life, there undoubtedly will be a push back against it, but it doesn’t have to cause me suffering or be painful, and I can instantaneously soothe that scared part of myself and don’t have to believe it anymore.
Of course we come here as some of us want to take on more and more challenging situations because that’s the fun of life like you said. But, I also think that’s across multiple lifetimes (even though all lives are simultaneous) as well as each life will offer different challenges depending on the theme we are exploring. Meaning, I think we explore a theme in each life and I already known mine is related to illness and not loving myself, and when we’re done exploring it, we can create anything we want and life just doesn’t have to be a struggle.
Not that long ago which I have not shared on here, but I did share on an Eckhart Tolle non-duality forum I post on which has some Abe people that I am friendly with, I developed an immediate desire for more financial abundance. I started incorporating this into my visualizations. The feelings of living my life completely financially free and the feelings of ‘having everything I need in my life’….and it felt awesome in the visualizations. A couple of weeks later, I got a call from a recruiter in my field for an awesome weekend part time job for some extra cash, and then my car insurance company (Allstate) called me to notify me that I qualified due to my great credit for a new program of theirs about a week later. They lowered my 6 month insurance from 1,050 to 600 dollars which is about 800 dollars cheaper a year. This all happened within a few weeks this past fall. I didn’t feel any resistance to the financial aspect and I manifested this. Now, I understand this isn’t necessarily a ‘ larger’ goal, but it still worked for me with very little resistance. And the reason I believe is because I didn’t think much about it except for those visualizations.
The same thing for healing…..the releasing of resistance is what actually is healing the body, because the nervous system is shifting from a defensive posture of fear to its normal state (our own natural state) of ease and peace. It’s resistance itself (while serving an intended aspect initially) which actually causes dis-ease.
So, just to put out there, I 100 percent agree with you, in the context of yin and yang, but I still feel that the yang part (whichever part is the action part) will feel inspired and feel good to take action to do things when the time is right. And when resistance arises, you just release it. But, the more you re-program your subconscious now, those old beliefs should not still be arising in the same way. I think for many people, more and more resistance arises when they get so attached to a goal. I have been delving more and more into doing activities and things that simply bring me joy (and loved the trills and arpeggios reference as a former guitar and piano player myself) and I think this is connecting me with a much deeper place within me, yet it’s also pushing me out of my comfort zone a bit which of course doesn’t always feel good as there is more resistance there to be released.
I have this inkling of my intuition that life is about finding that place of love and excitement within ourselves that brings us joy and acting on those things. Sure, it might feel uncomfortable at times, and I know there will be resistance that comes to the surface again for sure without a doubt…..but I can only say that the more I release my own resistance, life if anything is getting easier, because of my perception of it. But, will let you know when I try to build the next “Empire State Building” and we’ll see how much arises then ha
Hi Derek,
I think we largely agree.
I think you misunderstand me though. I’m not saying that resistance is always necessary. In the case of your money manifestation (congratulations, BTW), that was something you could already easily believe in. The structures were already in place in your subconscious mind to manifest those things. This is what most LOA teachers are referring to when they say to just feel good.
Recall the difference between current level goals and next level goals. If something is already pretty believable to you, the subconscious structures are in place, and it’s easy. If it is not believable, then there will be resistance, and the struggle with that resistance will create the new structures needed to create what you want.
Imagine a river. At first, it might have to carve its way through the landscape, through rock and everything else. But after its path is carved, then it is effortless to follow that path.
Or again back to the pianist. After he masters those trills in that one piece, those trills will forever come easily to him. There is no more resistance, and that’s awesome. The subconscious structures are in place to make those trills easy.
But in the next piece, maybe there are left hand trills, or maybe there are arpeggios, or something else. And, that’s a next level goal. So again, he struggles against it, and the subconscious mind creates the structures necessary to make that possible, too.
So when you manifested your money, and the discount in your insurance, you already believed that was possible. You felt good about more money, and all you had to do was to envision it briefly, forget about it, and it happened. That’s a current level goal.
But now let’s say you wanted to double your income. I doubt it’d be so effortless for you. I also don’t think it would just require thinking about it once, dropping it, and it happening a few weeks later. You don’t have the subconscious structures in place to allow that to happen. So, the resistance comes up, you work through it, and the structures are developed.
The healing is a different story. You held resistance in your energy field, and in your physical body. Resistance is only useful when it is allowed to flow through naturally. it comes up, and we allow it, and make the decision to focus on our goal instead. When it is repressed, into the subconscious mind, into the energy field, or into the physical body, you are feeding that manifestation (more about that in Saturday’s podcast). You’re making it real. You’re weaving your tapestry (see latest post) with the thread of that unwanted story.
Absolutely life will get easier as you learn to work with resistance. Even Abraham has a new Step 5, which is very similar to what I’m saying above. They say not to be afraid to be in Step 1 (ask), which is the contrast, because that is the catalyst to your new desires. Don’t be afraid to get into the resistance and work through it. In their Step 5, resistance becomes just another welcomed part of the process.
I think I mentioned in Tuesday’s support call about my recent two effortless manifestations. The first one, I had to get a new Mac charger, but didn’t want to have to pay $80. Well, I found a spare I didn’t realize I had. Zero effort, zero resistance, totally feeling good. Why? it was a current level goal.
Second example, I wanted a plugin for WordPress to auto-link affiliate keywords, like to Amazon and such. I found one that cost $49. I didn’t want to pay that. I found another, better one that was free. Another totally effortless manifestation, totally feeling good, zero resistance. It was a current level goal.
So I totally get the effortless manifestation angle. I’m totally on board with it. But that’s not the type of manifestation I’m referring to in these posts. I’m largely referring to those next level goals, because let’s be honest, when people come to the law of attraction, what they want is to create something big in their life. They don’t just want those parking spaces, or whatever else is small to them. They want something big, or else they wouldn’t seek out the law of attraction.
But the letting go method won’t work for those big goals. They require another approach, which necessitates getting comfortable with discomfort and through creative tension, building those subconscious structures to make it possible to manifest those big goals.
Thank you Brandon for clarifying that. And I read your new post and think it’s brilliant and I think it sums up the entire structure of why suffering relating to resistance. I too have found a lot of value in Byron Katie’s “work”.
I’ve been drawn to your blog over the past few months before your perspective is much more in line with mine than other deliberate creation blogs like Melodys (where I too found you ha). You speak with immense clarity, I have to say. I have not had a chance to listen to Tuesday’s call. I will absolutely make an effort to hear Saturday’s podcast.
I do understand what you are saying. I guess, for me, at this point in time, perhaps where my own perspective has shifted a bit in a different direction than others in the deliberate creating community, is that the only long term larger goal I am aiming for right now……is healing and I just don’t have long term visions which is not a bad thing nor a good thing.
Because I’m in the process of trying to act on little things right now that excite me and bring me happiness and it’s been so much fun that it’s so hard for me to focus on manifesting in a larger context. Life being such a struggle for me growing up into my adult years now (I’m 35)….has taught me so much about resistance and how it serves us. But, what has been so amazing for me in reading your posts, is trying to grasp the nature of resistance (in relation to my own life with dis-ease), and I do agree largely with the majority of what you say, because you and I clearly see this differently than Abe and others.
What you describe in the healing process is EXACTLY on par with the brain retraining program I am doing which I find so fascinitating and is why I have been so drawn towards your writings in that context. It’s literally about…..not getting caught up in the story (the resistance) and focusing instead on your goal. The way I see it, is that…..why WOULDN’T your goal manifest? The thoughts that worry about it manifesting and the doubts and fears and anxieties are just resistance and the ‘natural’ part of who we are already knows that are goals are going to happen, but we just have to soothe the ‘survival parts” (the same terms I use for what you call the subconscious) and simply not give them life.
So, what you are saying is (and give me feedback here), smaller level goals obviously are not going to bring up that much resistance because the survival mechanism/subconscious has an easier time getting on board with it. But, the LARGER level goals (whatever you would define as that) obviously are going to bring up more resistance because the survival part of us does not believe it is possible due to old beliefs and therefore, it is going to require greater soothing of that resistance/discomfort. Is this correct?
And I think the point I was trying to make in the last post, is that after you continually soothe and release that resistance, the more and more larger goals you take on going forward, should not bring on that same level of resistance anymore as your subconscious gets trained to understand that ‘what it believes to be a solid, empirical objective reality where only this, this , and this is possible’ is actually a malleable piece of clay and really ANYTHING is ultimately possible (well within some level of reason ha).
So, the greater part of us, (who we truly are) already knows that we can manifest our goals and it’s really a matter of convincing the ego or subconscious by re-programming it (Bashar calls it….making a contract with the ego, which I love) that it’s ok. I actually don’t see it as adding on ‘new beliefs’, but simply removing the beliefs that were in place to see that you ALWAYS have a choice to indulge in the old story or the new story.
So, other than offering us the opportunity to experience suffering and struggling which DOES give off desire to explore the opposite, why other purpose does resistance serve in our live down the line? This is where I agree partially with what CJ is saying in that earlier post, that I feel resistance will only serve a purpose up until a certain point. That’s not the same as saying resistance will totally be gone. But, I only see it serving an initial purpose in our lives.
Your thoughts?
Hi Derek,
Great discussion. 😀
It’s perfectly okay, obviously, that you are only seekign the smaller goals right now. Nothing wrong with that at all. 🙂
Correct.
But besides beliefs, and I’ll respond about this lower down, too, but it’s about subconscious structures. I’m realizing I need to perhaps write a post on this.
When you learn that piece on the piano, you don’t necessarily disbelieve you can play that difficult part, you’re just not used to it. It takes training.
So it’s about beliefs, yes. But it’s also about these subconscious structures that make it easier to achieve your goal. The subconscious structure of “make a million dollars a year” is totally different than that of “Make $50,000 a year.” Even if you believe the former is possible, which you probably won’t initially, it doesn’t negate the fact that you don’t have the structures in place to generate that much. You don’t know how to do it on a manifestational level.
It’s like if you’re used to only walking say a mile at the most, you don’t have the structures in place to run a marathon. It takes training to get to that level.
And I agree in principle. Back to the pianist: when he’s just learning how to play his first piece, the structures to play the piano just aren’t there at all. Twenty years later when he’s playing Beethoven sonatas, it’s far, far, far easier. But as before, that doesn’t mean he won’t struggle with new technical difficulties.
I find that there’s a time when someone is new to manifesting, that they just don’t have that trust. Trust is one of the 10 keys you need to manifest. Once you build that trust, and some of the basic subconscious structures to create your reality, you become a better manifester. But, there will be technical struggles, new areas of life that you haven’t trained in yet, which will give you trouble—i.e., bring up resistance.
This is what I wanted to respond to. It is definitely removing old beliefs. I also think it’s definitely about building new structures. I dont’ want to call them beliefs, but new… skillsets. New abilities to manifest bigger things. It’s not just about beliefs. It’s about subconscious structures.
Yes, Abraham says the purpose of resistance is to fire off “rockets of desire”, and that’s about it.
My view of it is more holistic. It’s the other side of the coin. It’s the shadow self that challenges us to develop those new structures, just like in the pianist example I keep alluding to.
What’s the point to struggling with a new piece? Because without that struggle, you don’t develop the new technique to play it properly.
What’s the purpose of resistance? Because without resistance, you don’t develop the new ability to manifest bigger things.
In a movie, do you want to witness the protagonist meet success after success? It gets boring. We need a villain. We need someone for him to struggle against. Think of Joseph Campbell and The Power of Myth. We need light and dark in life.
A few months ago, I made a commitment to studying darkness. You might recall that I started working with the deity Hades. I think this is why I’ve learned as much as I have about the shadow side of all of this. And I’ve learned that it is the shadow side that forces you to grow.
So, the purpose of resistance, again, is not just to know what you want. It is to train your subconscious mind to manifest those bigger goals.
But just as with the post above, there are cycles of resistance and release. You’re currently in a release phase, and that’s okay. Eventually, I predict your energy will naturally attract you to a creation/resistance stage for those bigger goals. It might take months, or years, but that’s the cycle. So I think a lot more of this will make sense as you set your vision on bigger things.
I also just wanted to say, I think that when you really know what you want, you’ll always know what direction to move in. The tension created by your deliberate choice will set up new pathways to open up to you, and you’ll know exactly where to go. This has been my experience.
The river doesn’t ever not know where to go. It goes according to the structures in place, no matter how much resistance is in the way. It burrows through rock if necessary, given enough time.
So, the act of deciding on what you want, will set forces in motion which will naturally bring you to that desire.
So, Brandon, here you are saying that no matter if everything is stacked against you, you can still achieve what you want.
Also, with emotions, I think they are taken way too seriously. Why do people get depressed with every single thing that comes along? I know a lot of people do. Many jump to conclusions with every drawback. They conclude worthlessness and hopelessness with every glitch. I think we are conditioned to think that, if it is not going smoothly, you might as well give up. But who decides this? Why would society say that is all we do is work anyway, so it might as well be in what we want. At least, that is how I look at it. Please respond to this because it is pretty important.
Hi Kat,
Correct. No matter what your subconscious mind wants to be holding on to, you can still achieve your goal. In the upcoming podcast, we compare it to your obstacle being like a mountain. You can try to dig through it, or you can just walk right around it. 🙂
And I agree that we take emotions way too seriously. If anything, they are just your subconscious mind showing you where you hold resistance. It’s really nothing more than that. Emotions are just energy. They come and they go.
I hope this answers your question.
You can also go under the mountain or fly over the mountain. 🙂
Yes, thank you! I think people get upset way too often about things. What concerns me is these emotions affect physical health and mental state can lead to physical deterioration and vice versa. It is one, not two separate things, as we know and now researchers are coming to this conclusion.
We should take things with a grain of salt. Just because someone says you can’t doesn’t mean much. Perhaps it can go either way- you believe them and not go ahead, or ignore them and do go on with it.
One more comment, in the non physical manifestation happens instantaneously simply by thinking about something. There is zero resistance in the non physical. This has been reported in every NDE that I have researched and I’ve done extensive research with OBE’s as well with people like William Buhlman who are experts in this field. And Robert Monroe’s work as well.
It’s only here in the physical where there is resistance which slows down manifestations. So, resistance to me is not necessary at all for manifestation, but IS necessary to create a desire. It’s necessary to experience yourself as ‘darkness’ in order to understand ‘light’ in a different context.
Hi Derek,
I agree that in the non-physical, manifestation is instantaneous. But I disagree with the conclusion.
To me, the reason it is instantaneous is because every possibility is present. Every goal is a current level goal. There are no next level goals, because everything is immediately available energetically.
And that’s why we incarnate, for the excitement of striving for those next level goals, and having to work through that resistance, because we are at a place where not everything is immediately available. We are at a place where our subconscious minds have certain programming, and need to be trained to accomplish certain results.
Also, I see ourselves as both darkness and light. A lot of spiritual people characterize the non-physical as only light, and the process of self-discovery, or enlightenment, as totally cutting out the darkness and becoming only the light. But we are both, or else there could not be non-duality. We cannot be one and not the other. We are here for both the light and the dark. Getting comfortable with that darkness has been a transformative process for me.
The non physical IS light as I see it. There really IS only Light in actuality. Darkness while I completely agree is to be embraced and I am completely on board with being with the darkness, is ultimately not real when you see where the darkness is stemming from. Darkness is simply a belief that you are something other than light. It’s believing the old resistant thought patterns. There is no actual entity called ‘darkness’ that exists. And yes, I too have studied and done a lot of inquiry and light and darkness.
I agree completely Brandon on why we are here. But, again, to me, the resistance will only serve a purpose for as long as you believe you need it. The rest I see as tension which is different from resistance.
Basically, I feel we are saying the same things. The only difference to me is that I don’t view life as going from one goal to the next. Because it’s far too easy to get into ‘achiever mode’. I’ve been there in the past.
I view life as first of all finding out who I truly am and from that place of love (zero state has fit it perfectly for me) connecting to what I truly DO want and taking any inspired action from there. Sure, old resistance will come up to the surface for as long as it needs be. But, only for as long as needs be. I speak as this has been my experience of late with healing and with taking part in activities that excite me including starting singing lessons which I recently began.
I don’t necessarily think life is just going from one goal to the next.
I did want to respond to your earlier comment about the guitar, because I think your experience there colors your view of achievement, compared to my experience with the piano.
I love the experience of struggling with a new piece. I love the experience of working for 30-60 minutes on a difficult part of a piece, letting it go, coming back the next day and seeing it improve almost magically. To me it’s not about achievement, but about shaping my performance to be in alignment with my vision of how I want it to be.
So our experiences there are different. And that necessity to struggle will never come to an end, because there is always new technique.
Sure, I could just play pieces that were easy to me, but that takes away the joy of improvement and growth.
I will disagree about there not being darkness. I believe that light and dark are just emanations of the same Source, which is neither and both. Here’s a great quote from Byron Katie’s blog:
Source
Thanks for that quote and yeah, this is just a matter semantics, because I completely agree. I am using the term “light” not as in polarity to darkness, but Light as in “All there is”. Ultimately, as I see it, there is only “All there is” which is unconditional love. Unconditional love ultimately is what we are. It’s that peace, that stillness. And of course within that ‘unconditional love’ exists the ‘potential’ for expression of darkness, but the darkness is not in polarity to our true nature as love. When I have been in that place of stillness and I really can only speak from experience, there is only love for everything and I know that dark emotions cannot exist there, for when I hold the space for them, they no longer seem ‘dark’.
This is such a fascinating topic because, I use the term “light” as a reference to Pure Awareness. From reading so many near death experiences in the past, there is something to be said for ‘higher vibrations’ not as in a right or wrong context. But, our true nature IS of that vibration of love which is what some call ‘higher’ But, higher does not mean ‘better’. But, love is not something different than “not love”.
Love is simply total allowance and unconditional acceptance…..OF the shadow as well. When energy does not flow in the body, due to energizing old belief patterns of fear, and worry and anxiety, dis-ease happens because those patterns are not in alignment with our true nature which is love and always total allowance. It’s like the shadow is believing yourself to be a limiting, unworthy aspect when in reality the greater part of you knows this not to be true. And we are completely free to experience that type of bondage for as long as we please. But, life will let you know as helpful pointers where you are.
What I have learned from my own healing process is that when I allow the darkness, and stop fighting it, it is transmuted into light and love. That’s why darkness itself is not something separate that I have come to see. The shadow aspect is simply an aspect of us that believes it is something other than light. And that TOO is perfectly ok. But, you know and feel it in your experience (life does not feel good) when you are operating from a place of depression, powerlessness, anxiety, fear. It feels terrible. The minute you allow them, and dis-identify from being them alone, they are transmuted. It’s always a belief that keeps these emotions alive. Of course these too are loved by Source which has NO judgment. But, there is a reason that unconditional acceptance and love feels so peaceful, because peace is our inherent nature. And the darkness is meant for us to compassionately with love embrace and integrate. But, darkness exists when you block off the flow of who you truly are and what you truly desire.
It’s a beautiful process. Ultimately all of it is perfectly valid. But, your experience will absolutely let you know when you are aligning to closer to your nature and when you are not.
I totally agree with what you’re saying.
I just differentiate between non-dual Light (capital L to show it’s absolute nature), and dualistic light, which is in the polarity of light/dark. I don’t like using the word Light in the non-dual sense for that reason, because it can be confusing. I prefer zero state, or Peace, or Stillness, or Emptiness, or whatever.
I find that a lot of people try to be positive all the time, because of this light = good and dark = bad idea. And, that doesn’t work. Both sides of the polarity will be present at some point. When we enter Stillness, or Peace, we can be present to whatever comes up, as it comes up.
In NDE’s, many people experience ‘hell’ which is just a carryover of beliefs from physical life. Those beliefs that are aligned with fear, and doubt and anxiety produce the emotions of darkness and that darkness cannot exist in the higher vibrations of love and that is why many people first experience “hellish” types of near death experiences. It’s a turning away from the light often out of feelings of unworthiness and a lack of self love. This has been the largest aspect of my life here. I experienced countless darkness for years because I didn’t love myself. My life experiences taught me that it was self love that I was seeking all along and this process INCLUDED turning INTO the darkness.
So, ultimately Source is the ‘all that is’, but the vibrations of love are more aligned with that Source because all Source can do….is love.
If I think of something that I DO want, there is obviously going to be excitement and happiness for me. There has never been anything that I have ever wanted that did not bring me some level of excitement or joy. With that said, there absolutely is resistance often at times, to those larger goals. That resistance displays as fear. But, I would have to already have established that this is what I want by really getting into a place of stillness and tapping in from there. If I have already established that I want this, and then feel fear when I decide to embark on it, I will know that this fear is simply an old belief taking the form of resistance that I can work through by inquiring into it.
Relief is a very nebulous term and I too do not agree with Abraham at all on their perspective on finding relief and finding a better feeling thought, because often you can be finding relief for the wrong reasons. Going out of your comfort zone will often bring up a lot of resistance and that’s ok. But, at the same time, I understand where Abe is coming from with relief. You can’t get there from here is what they say. And you can’t access what you do want from a place of massive resistance. So, they are always telling us to find relief first before trying to find out what we want I feel like.
The zero state to me is the highest vibrational place you can be in a sense, because it’s a place of unconditional love and acceptance. I know personally I can’t be in a low emotional vibration of powerlessness and despair while in that place of stillness at the same time. I can observe emotions, but that often will dissipate the emotion right there. That vibration of stillness cancels out that vibration of powerlessness and if I really am in the place of powerlessness, like really trapped in the emotion, which I have been many times, I absolutely cannot get to the zero state in one big jump, unless I can see through the belief that has brought me to this lower emotional state. The way I see it, emotions would not feel a certain way if they were not trying to tell us something about where we are. But, of course, emotions can be misinterpreted. A feeling of relief is not nearly the same as a high vibrational emotion of unconditional peace and love. Love is the essence of what we are.
I’ve seen what living in a state of resistance and fear, does to your body on a level of health and I’ve chosen to make my life about living from a place of love. Of course I know resistance will always arise on some level, but if I stay grounded in practice by learning to get into the zero state more and more (which is something I really do want and desire), then I will always still be aligned with love, even when negative emotions arise.
Hi Derek,
All very true. 🙂
I just think I don’t like when it is over-simplified. Like in the example of my client I gave above, relief can sometimes mean you’ve given up on your vision. It might be a temporary relief, but long-term, it’s not going to be good.
Just like you said, sometimes when moving towards what you want, fear comes up. That’s quite common. But you work through it anyway and get to the other side.
The premise that “a positive emotion means your ‘inner being’ agrees with what you’re focused on” just seems over simplistic to me. What about a drug addict who succumbs to the temptation of getting high, to feel good temporarily, vs. struggling through the difficulty of withdrawal for a better end-result? Or someone who is tempted to buy that expensive item now, which feels good in the moment, but their real goal is to build up an emergency fund?
That’s why emotions are not always so black and white. One of my enjoyments is ordering in. Sometimes I think about doing it, and think whether I’d prefer to order in now, or save that money for something else later. If I make the decision on the spot, I’ll usually choose the temporary gratification, and I’ll also usually feel guilty later on. If I enter the zero state and really think about what I’d prefer, it can go either way. Sometimes I prefer to still order in, and I celebrate that, and other times I prefer to save the money for later, and I celebrate that, too. Either way, I end up feeling better about the end decision, but it took real contemplation and meditation to come to that decision. The “relief”, if you had asked me at first, would be to just do what I wanted to do.
This is really good, Derek. I struggle with that as well and it keeps me back. What kind of fun, fearless female am I, I often ask myself. The zero state is THE state to be in from which experiences can come about. I am tired creating from fear and it also affects me physically.
100 percent agree Brandon. Abe tell us to find relief as a form of feeling better from where we are, to get us ‘into the vortex’, but I think their methodology really sucks haha and I prefer instead, to just go into deep meditation/stillness unconditional surrender, and the zero state is a perfect method for me. Because that’s where our true nature is in that stillness. It’s what I’m learning to do now to access what I truly want.
I agree…there are so many people that got what they wanted and they aren’t happy 100% of the time, I feel theres something missing big time with Abe’s teaching. Abe has a really high vibration maybe from their perspective they aren’t that understanding of our human experiences? I’ve learned that guides can be wrong too, they don’t know everything. Or maybe Abe’s teachings are meant for a very specific group of people (like chronic negative focusers).
Hi Indigo,
I suspect that what it is more is that Esther might not be a great channeler, or she lets her biases get in the way.
Unfortunately, a lot of these channelers imply that channeling is an exact science. The entity speaks, and the channeler says exactly what the guide said.
But this is far from true. There’s a lot of interpretation, and subconscious beliefs can get in the way of hearing what the entity is really saying.
This is what I suspect is going on, especially because of some of the topics Abraham has been outright wrong about, such as the existence and importance of the subconscious mind.
Hi Indigo,
This came to me more now with a bit more clarity on Abe.
I think the main premise of their teachings along with bashar, Bentinho Massaro and many others who teach the same thing, is not that finding relief is going to get us what we want. But, what Abe does teach which greatly resonates with me is that it’s rarely in the manifestation itself that we truly want and if you are looking to manifest things to find happiness, well, it still might happen, but it will catch up with you in the long run when you continue to push against ‘who you are’, because you are actually cutting off the flow of who you actually are. Of course if you are manifesting simply because it’s fun or because you are just trying to make your life easier and better while you are here is completely different. You have to know who you truly are NOW. That’s what they mean by alignment. We are all unconditional love. That’s our nature. The farther you get from that by continuing to believe thoughts that are not true by really buying into the resistance, you inevitably will cause immense distress to your body because it’s incredibly stressful to keep thinking and believing so many thoughts that are not in alignment with your true nature. Their main message is utterly simplistic and beautiful. It’s just that their notion of “finding a better feeling thought” is incredibly vague and really does not work.
I can sit here and bash them and find a lot that I don’t resonate with. But, if you look at the simplicity of their message as well, it’s filled with so much value. Of course we can over think it and over analyze it, but ‘find out who you truly are’ is really it. Everyone on the planet wants to feel the love from their nature. That’s what resistance really is. It’s a feeling of being scared which starts in childhood due to the inherent fear of separation from who we truly are. Your nervous system over reacts, subconscious creates beliefs that life is scary, and then lives out those beliefs. This is resistance to who you truly are because it’s scary to be who you truly are and desire the things you desire. Adolf Hitler had his own manifestation plan called the Final Solution and he sure did a darn good job at almost wiping out the entire population of jewish people on the planet, but Adolf Hitler had his own desires which were so blocked with fear that his only form of ‘relief’ was to manifest the horrific things he did. That’s what Abe means by relief. Everyone is simply looking for that connection home, because it’s who we truly are. And so many of us are so lost here because we’ve started believing that the resistant thoughts and beliefs are who we are and instead, we look for distractions and anything for relief from those thoughts. Serial Killers feel good by murdering because it brings them ‘relief’. But, if any of these poor disturbed people would actually try to embrace their pain and resistance, they would all come to see something quite beautiful and would actually tap into their heart’s desires and not the desires from fear.
Manifesting is supposed to be fun and to make our lives easier while we are here. It was never meant as a tool to complete us. And I think so many people who come to Abe and Bashar’s teachings vastly mis understand this. So, Abe has recently changed their tone as a result.
Ah, this is also really good, Derek. Thanks for the reminder. This is how I pretty much understand it as well. Manifesting is meant to be fun but not complete us. This is the crux of most problems, as we get stuck in our resistance and wallow in it and seek relief and there goes the cycle. Going to the zero state helps recalibrate and rejuvenate to get you back on track with goals. Also, the fun part so many forget. And the knowing.
Abe also teach to not give a rip about what anyone else thinks and this is a great reminder that we shouldn’t because it affects our manifestations and this is another way the zero state helps. Basically, I see the zero state as going back to who we are and like a hug from the Universe, if that makes any sense. If it doesn’t, don’t sweat it.
Hi Kat, so sorry I missed these messages from you. Was going through my email chain tonight. There were like 100 messages on this site from all of the comments I’ve made the past few days ha. Finally had a chance to sort through them. I’ll be taking a break from here for a while after tonight as I’ve been spending too much time posting, although getting a lot of great insight from everyone, but will still be reading the site regularly.
Yes, exactly, the zero state that Brandon talks about is so highly resonate with me, because it’s like, the focal point I feel of ‘who we really are’. We are not ‘happiness’ alone, nor are we ‘fear’. Both are just aspects of this inner peace that we are. Happiness and joy are excitement you feel when you are manifesting something exciting and inspiring, but you don’t stay in those states as I’ve commented elsewhere. They come and go. And fear obviously is another emotion to me where you are buying into a belief system false identification with the ego (the survival mechanism). Our nervous systems simply go into high arousal by over reacting to things trying to protect us. It resists our desires and resists the natural expression of who we are.
Obviously, you don’t stay in fear either. But, I find the more and more I detach from my thoughts and stop trying to analyze, tackle down, and self help and fix them, I realize all along, there was only perfection here. I’ll admit that it’s been helpful to consciously become aware of my own beliefs so that I can recognize them more clearly when they do arise and when there is very strong emotion, simply be with that emotion in the body rather than trying to change it (this allowing is really the key to it all and it’s also loving to yourself).
That’s kind of what the zero state feels like…..peace. At first when you first dis-identify from the story in your mind, it can feel like incredible bliss because you are contrasting all of that suffering all of those years, from identifying so long with those resistant thought patterns of worry and fear, believing you are the story in your mind, but eventually, that bliss dies down and if you train yourself to live in presence, you can find an inner sense of peace around all experiences. But, training yourself does not mean you’re training yourself with only positive thoughts as opposed to rejecting negative ones. I see it as just realizing that you don’t have to believe the negative ones anymore based in worry, because you can start to recognize where they come from, why they are there and they’re really just your friend when you learn go accept them, but not indulge in them! You get to choose the story of your life. Whether you are manifesting goals or not, you are still creating. You can’t help, but create. So, why not create a story that better aligns with your nature as unconditional love? You get to choose it. But, I know this is not possible when I am continuing to analyze my thoughts. But, just being with the raw emotions in my body and the symptoms.
You and I both deal with chronic illness and pain and one of the more humbling aspects of this dis-ease is learning to be with the sensations in the body and not trying to fight them.
But, at the same time, what we learn in brain re-training for CFS and fibromyalgia is that mindfulness all day long, while interrupting the thoughts is really vital to stopping the cycle of the amygdala or nervous system (I use different terms all meaning the same thing) from over reacting to stimuli….in our case….reacting to the symptoms which in turn creates more thoughts and symptoms…..lovely process 😉 This is equivalent to releasing resistance, because it’s resistance which is keeping the cycle going and preventing healing in the body. Energy is not flowing through the body due to resistance thoughts/beliefs among other factors of course as well. But, we learn that genetics are not at all solid and we can literally change the genetic and cellular structures of our body through……consciousness which is primary.
I have been doing 1-2 nice visualizations per day now. I use music underlying it as well which is also part of the process of laying down that intention.
Ok, I’m rambling now 🙂
I actually totally agree with everything you just said. I just interpret it differently. 🙂
I’ve suffered from generalized anxiety for a long time. I also work with some clients who deal with the same issue.
And any sufferer of generalized anxiety can tell you, sometimes there’s just no reason for the anxiety. It’s not a thought, or a story, or anything else. Sometimes it’s just there in the background.
In my experience, just allowing that energy has helped a lot. it’s subtle negative energy that has gotten stuck in the energy body.
Focusing on that energy will often generate a reason to be anxious, either thoughts or even events. But, it starts out as just subtle general anxious energy.
So that’s part of why I strongly believe that emotions are more subtle forms of energy than thoughts. They definitely influence one another in a very involved, complex way, but if I had to choose one that came first in the sequence, it’d be emotions.
I think sometimes we confuse the stories we tell for the actual cause of the energy. It is not always so, though admittedly it is often. But sometimes, the energy comes first, and then the thoughts/stories to back it up.
If I think of something that I DO want, there is obviously going to be excitement and happiness for me. There has never been anything that I have ever wanted that did not bring me some level of excitement or joy. With that said, there absolutely is resistance often at times, to those larger goals. That resistance displays as fear. But, I would have to already have established that this is what I want by really getting into a place of stillness and tapping in from there. If I have already established that I want this, and then feel fear when I decide to embark on it, I will know that this fear is simply an old belief taking the form of resistance that I can work through by inquiring into it.
Relief is a very nebulous term and I too do not agree with Abraham at all on their perspective on finding relief and finding a better feeling thought, because often you can be finding relief for the wrong reasons. Going out of your comfort zone will often bring up a lot of resistance and that’s ok. But, at the same time, I understand where Abe is coming from with relief. You can’t get there from here is what they say. And you can’t access what you do want from a place of massive resistance. So, they are always telling us to find relief first before trying to find out what we want I feel like.
The zero state to me is the highest vibrational place you can be in a sense, because it’s a place of unconditional love and acceptance. I know personally I can’t be in a low emotional vibration of powerlessness and despair while in that place of stillness at the same time. I can observe emotions, but that often will dissipate the emotion right there. That vibration of stillness cancels out that vibration of powerlessness and if I really am in the place of powerlessness, like really trapped in the emotion, which I have been many times, I absolutely cannot get to the zero state in one big jump, unless I can see through the belief that has brought me to this lower emotional state. The way I see it, emotions would not feel a certain way if they were not trying to tell us something about where we are. But, of course, emotions can be misinterpreted. A feeling of relief is not nearly the same as a high vibrational emotion of unconditional peace and love. Love is the essence of what we are.
I’ve seen what living in a state of resistance and fear, does to your body on a level of health and I’ve chosen to make my life about living from a place of love. Of course I know resistance will always arise on some level, but if I stay grounded in practice by learning to get into the zero state more and more (which is something I really do want and desire), then I will always still be aligned with love, even when negative emotions arise.
Hi Derek,
All very true. 🙂
I just think I don’t like when it is over-simplified. Like in the example of my client I gave above, relief can sometimes mean you’ve given up on your vision. It might be a temporary relief, but long-term, it’s not going to be good.
Just like you said, sometimes when moving towards what you want, fear comes up. That’s quite common. But you work through it anyway and get to the other side.
The premise that “a positive emotion means your ‘inner being’ agrees with what you’re focused on” just seems over simplistic to me. What about a drug addict who succumbs to the temptation of getting high, to feel good temporarily, vs. struggling through the difficulty of withdrawal for a better end-result? Or someone who is tempted to buy that expensive item now, which feels good in the moment, but their real goal is to build up an emergency fund?
That’s why emotions are not always so black and white. One of my enjoyments is ordering in. Sometimes I think about doing it, and think whether I’d prefer to order in now, or save that money for something else later. If I make the decision on the spot, I’ll usually choose the temporary gratification, and I’ll also usually feel guilty later on. If I enter the zero state and really think about what I’d prefer, it can go either way. Sometimes I prefer to still order in, and I celebrate that, and other times I prefer to save the money for later, and I celebrate that, too. Either way, I end up feeling better about the end decision, but it took real contemplation and meditation to come to that decision. The “relief”, if you had asked me at first, would be to just do what I wanted to do.
This is really good, Derek. I struggle with that as well and it keeps me back. What kind of fun, fearless female am I, I often ask myself. The zero state is THE state to be in from which experiences can come about. I am tired creating from fear and it also affects me physically.
100 percent agree Brandon. Abe tell us to find relief as a form of feeling better from where we are, to get us ‘into the vortex’, but I think their methodology really sucks haha and I prefer instead, to just go into deep meditation/stillness unconditional surrender, and the zero state is a perfect method for me. Because that’s where our true nature is in that stillness. It’s what I’m learning to do now to access what I truly want.
I agree…there are so many people that got what they wanted and they aren’t happy 100% of the time, I feel theres something missing big time with Abe’s teaching. Abe has a really high vibration maybe from their perspective they aren’t that understanding of our human experiences? I’ve learned that guides can be wrong too, they don’t know everything. Or maybe Abe’s teachings are meant for a very specific group of people (like chronic negative focusers).
Hi Indigo,
I suspect that what it is more is that Esther might not be a great channeler, or she lets her biases get in the way.
Unfortunately, a lot of these channelers imply that channeling is an exact science. The entity speaks, and the channeler says exactly what the guide said.
But this is far from true. There’s a lot of interpretation, and subconscious beliefs can get in the way of hearing what the entity is really saying.
This is what I suspect is going on, especially because of some of the topics Abraham has been outright wrong about, such as the existence and importance of the subconscious mind.
Hi Indigo,
This came to me more now with a bit more clarity on Abe.
I think the main premise of their teachings along with bashar, Bentinho Massaro and many others who teach the same thing, is not that finding relief is going to get us what we want. But, what Abe does teach which greatly resonates with me is that it’s rarely in the manifestation itself that we truly want and if you are looking to manifest things to find happiness, well, it still might happen, but it will catch up with you in the long run when you continue to push against ‘who you are’, because you are actually cutting off the flow of who you actually are. Of course if you are manifesting simply because it’s fun or because you are just trying to make your life easier and better while you are here is completely different. You have to know who you truly are NOW. That’s what they mean by alignment. We are all unconditional love. That’s our nature. The farther you get from that by continuing to believe thoughts that are not true by really buying into the resistance, you inevitably will cause immense distress to your body because it’s incredibly stressful to keep thinking and believing so many thoughts that are not in alignment with your true nature. Their main message is utterly simplistic and beautiful. It’s just that their notion of “finding a better feeling thought” is incredibly vague and really does not work.
I can sit here and bash them and find a lot that I don’t resonate with. But, if you look at the simplicity of their message as well, it’s filled with so much value. Of course we can over think it and over analyze it, but ‘find out who you truly are’ is really it. Everyone on the planet wants to feel the love from their nature. That’s what resistance really is. It’s a feeling of being scared which starts in childhood due to the inherent fear of separation from who we truly are. Your nervous system over reacts, subconscious creates beliefs that life is scary, and then lives out those beliefs. This is resistance to who you truly are because it’s scary to be who you truly are and desire the things you desire. Adolf Hitler had his own manifestation plan called the Final Solution and he sure did a darn good job at almost wiping out the entire population of jewish people on the planet, but Adolf Hitler had his own desires which were so blocked with fear that his only form of ‘relief’ was to manifest the horrific things he did. That’s what Abe means by relief. Everyone is simply looking for that connection home, because it’s who we truly are. And so many of us are so lost here because we’ve started believing that the resistant thoughts and beliefs are who we are and instead, we look for distractions and anything for relief from those thoughts. Serial Killers feel good by murdering because it brings them ‘relief’. But, if any of these poor disturbed people would actually try to embrace their pain and resistance, they would all come to see something quite beautiful and would actually tap into their heart’s desires and not the desires from fear.
Manifesting is supposed to be fun and to make our lives easier while we are here. It was never meant as a tool to complete us. And I think so many people who come to Abe and Bashar’s teachings vastly mis understand this. So, Abe has recently changed their tone as a result.
Ah, this is also really good, Derek. Thanks for the reminder. This is how I pretty much understand it as well. Manifesting is meant to be fun but not complete us. This is the crux of most problems, as we get stuck in our resistance and wallow in it and seek relief and there goes the cycle. Going to the zero state helps recalibrate and rejuvenate to get you back on track with goals. Also, the fun part so many forget. And the knowing.
Abe also teach to not give a rip about what anyone else thinks and this is a great reminder that we shouldn’t because it affects our manifestations and this is another way the zero state helps. Basically, I see the zero state as going back to who we are and like a hug from the Universe, if that makes any sense. If it doesn’t, don’t sweat it.
Hi Kat, so sorry I missed these messages from you. Was going through my email chain tonight. There were like 100 messages on this site from all of the comments I’ve made the past few days ha. Finally had a chance to sort through them. I’ll be taking a break from here for a while after tonight as I’ve been spending too much time posting, although getting a lot of great insight from everyone, but will still be reading the site regularly.
Yes, exactly, the zero state that Brandon talks about is so highly resonate with me, because it’s like, the focal point I feel of ‘who we really are’. We are not ‘happiness’ alone, nor are we ‘fear’. Both are just aspects of this inner peace that we are. Happiness and joy are excitement you feel when you are manifesting something exciting and inspiring, but you don’t stay in those states as I’ve commented elsewhere. They come and go. And fear obviously is another emotion to me where you are buying into a belief system false identification with the ego (the survival mechanism). Our nervous systems simply go into high arousal by over reacting to things trying to protect us. It resists our desires and resists the natural expression of who we are.
Obviously, you don’t stay in fear either. But, I find the more and more I detach from my thoughts and stop trying to analyze, tackle down, and self help and fix them, I realize all along, there was only perfection here. I’ll admit that it’s been helpful to consciously become aware of my own beliefs so that I can recognize them more clearly when they do arise and when there is very strong emotion, simply be with that emotion in the body rather than trying to change it (this allowing is really the key to it all and it’s also loving to yourself).
That’s kind of what the zero state feels like…..peace. At first when you first dis-identify from the story in your mind, it can feel like incredible bliss because you are contrasting all of that suffering all of those years, from identifying so long with those resistant thought patterns of worry and fear, believing you are the story in your mind, but eventually, that bliss dies down and if you train yourself to live in presence, you can find an inner sense of peace around all experiences. But, training yourself does not mean you’re training yourself with only positive thoughts as opposed to rejecting negative ones. I see it as just realizing that you don’t have to believe the negative ones anymore based in worry, because you can start to recognize where they come from, why they are there and they’re really just your friend when you learn go accept them, but not indulge in them! You get to choose the story of your life. Whether you are manifesting goals or not, you are still creating. You can’t help, but create. So, why not create a story that better aligns with your nature as unconditional love? You get to choose it. But, I know this is not possible when I am continuing to analyze my thoughts. But, just being with the raw emotions in my body and the symptoms.
You and I both deal with chronic illness and pain and one of the more humbling aspects of this dis-ease is learning to be with the sensations in the body and not trying to fight them.
But, at the same time, what we learn in brain re-training for CFS and fibromyalgia is that mindfulness all day long, while interrupting the thoughts is really vital to stopping the cycle of the amygdala or nervous system (I use different terms all meaning the same thing) from over reacting to stimuli….in our case….reacting to the symptoms which in turn creates more thoughts and symptoms…..lovely process 😉 This is equivalent to releasing resistance, because it’s resistance which is keeping the cycle going and preventing healing in the body. Energy is not flowing through the body due to resistance thoughts/beliefs among other factors of course as well. But, we learn that genetics are not at all solid and we can literally change the genetic and cellular structures of our body through……consciousness which is primary.
I have been doing 1-2 nice visualizations per day now. I use music underlying it as well which is also part of the process of laying down that intention.
Ok, I’m rambling now 🙂
I actually totally agree with everything you just said. I just interpret it differently. 🙂
I’ve suffered from generalized anxiety for a long time. I also work with some clients who deal with the same issue.
And any sufferer of generalized anxiety can tell you, sometimes there’s just no reason for the anxiety. It’s not a thought, or a story, or anything else. Sometimes it’s just there in the background.
In my experience, just allowing that energy has helped a lot. it’s subtle negative energy that has gotten stuck in the energy body.
Focusing on that energy will often generate a reason to be anxious, either thoughts or even events. But, it starts out as just subtle general anxious energy.
So that’s part of why I strongly believe that emotions are more subtle forms of energy than thoughts. They definitely influence one another in a very involved, complex way, but if I had to choose one that came first in the sequence, it’d be emotions.
I think sometimes we confuse the stories we tell for the actual cause of the energy. It is not always so, though admittedly it is often. But sometimes, the energy comes first, and then the thoughts/stories to back it up.
Kat, much of the manifestation does happen behind the scenes. If you want more of a road map, then you can ask the universe to send you signs you will recognize. You may have to pull some of them out of your meditation when you are in the 0 state, but I ask the universe to send me signs so I keep up with what’s going on.
Justin
Ha! This is one of the signs! Your response to me! Something told me there would be more for me here so, although my eyes are exhausted from being on the computer today, I managed to come back and found your response to me! Thank you Justin.
Yes, I always ask for signs from the U. They are what power me along. And I really love your voice on the podcasts. It is very soothing. I’m really a southern girl living in the big city, after all. ????
I’ve had this too with signs. Happened to me over the summer in a blatant way. But, I never could tell if it was really a sign or not. End of the summer, I was going through a difficult situation and pleaded with the universe for help basically with the underlying intention of “Please prove to me that this stuff is real”. Later that night, this girl that I am friends with that I met literally on an Abe Hicks Face book group lol, I hadn’t spoken to her many months. But, I pondered messaging her that night to ask her for opinion on manifestation stuff and why weird stuff was happening to me. Within the hour, she messaged me just like that to say hi. I had not talked to her in months. It was incredible. So, I always wonder if this is a synchronicity or not.
Sounds like a sign to me. 🙂 My criterion for signs is: if it triggers an emotional reaction (including positive obviously), it’s a sign. I believe that just about everything means something, if only to help us work through some resistance or something.
Thanks Brandon. I’d like to think so. It was incredible at the time. I wrote about it on the Abe forum back in August haha and no one responded.
Yes, everything is a sign and there are no coincidences. The Universe communicates with you all the time. If you feel a little zing or a little bell goes off inside or a lightbulb goes on, it’s a sign. How do you know? I’m intuitive so I just do. You can learn how with various techniques here as they are taught, if that’s your next question. It’s usually the next question on the Abe forum, which I don’t follow anymore, FYI. ????
Derek, the Ego is to be used as you would use any other tool. I regular encounter people who fall into the trap of attempting to destroy the ego. It’s important that we don’t allow it to take charge and run away with us.
Resistance, whether it is external, or internal lets us know which path to take, and gives us sign posts to follow. It lets us know what’s going on with our subconscious mind. During meditation, you can pull each bit of the resistance out and look at it and discern why it’s here. You also can choose to let it pass you buy and not react to it at all. I sometimes talk to it some, discern why it’s here, then let it go on its way. I do that in my 0 state.
Z, you can both allow the feelings, and set a boundry. You don’t have to do one of the other. Use your 0 state to allow the feelings to flow through, then choose to set whatever boundaries you want. Just ask your higher self, and do what feels right with your boundaries. You can also change the boundaries when you want as well.
Justin
Thank you for your advice, Justin! I admit, I was kind of thinking that I would have to do one OR the other. Although I do know that I have trouble setting boundaries in general, because of fear with conflict with other people. I am always afraid that either I would start reacting with anger towards them, or that they would start yelling at me. I guess it’s a carryover from my childhood experience with my parents.
Z, that’s the problem, you fear conflict with others when there isn’t a need to. Most people won’t even react, so you have nothing to fear. Those who do will just defend their actions, that’s all. I’ve been through this enough to know how it goes, so believe me.
But if you don’t open your mouth to say something and make your feelings known, then you will continue in this perpetual cycle of frustration from people stepping all over your boundaries. You need to communicate this and not even think about the others. It is great that you are nice and considerate, but this won’t solve the issue that keeps coming up. ????
Yeah I know, Kat. xD
I think that being afraid has to do with my childhood, since anytime I’d try to say something of the same kind to my mother, she’d explode. There’s still a lot of fear in me from that unhealthy relationship. But yes you’re definitely right. I do have to start telling people when something they’re doing is bothering me. Me keeping it shut is also in a direct conflict with a big goal of mine, to be “fearlessly” open and communicative with people.
Actually a week ago, I was at my parents’ house, and there was a worker. (my parents are renovating)
He would smoke inside the house, and it would make me choke. It took time for me to ask him to smoke inside. I was really afraid that he would explode on me, but on the contrary, he immediately agreed, and I noticed that he was more like a scared puppy himself.
Thank you for helping me, I really appreciate it. 🙂
This really is a wonderful community.
smoke *outside (typo)
Hi Z,
I get this. Christine is also the same way, because of her mother, who would always blow up at her. These comments are too confusing for her to navigate, or I’d ask her to weigh in on all of this. Perhaps I can bring it up next Tuesday during the call.
Thanks Brandon, for your comment. I would appreciate it if you could talk about allowing the emotions (caused by someone else’s behavior) vs setting a boundary. I am always afraid that either the other person will explode at me, or that I will explode at them. Often, at those times, I ask myself, “why is this person doing this?”. It’s the discomfort.
I’ve noticed that my mother has had chronic pattern of putting up with inappropriate behaviors from others, and on the other side exploding at her family (whom she didn’t find threatening). My father is similar, but he never explodes.
Sounds like the displacement defense mechanism which is an immature defense mechanism when you feel aggression from an authority, you take it out on an innocent. There are more mature ways to gentle this such as channeling that for good causes, or going to the gym and boxing it out, etc. it needs to be released.
My mom is the same way and I ended up exploding at her and she said that I never said anything. So there you go, you need to express this stuff and you will see, there is really nothing to fear and things will get better once you do. Things will shift along with the energy that got moved.
And yes, it is a good community. Every single one of your questions, comments, observations, jokes, laments, what have you, get answered, I’ve noticed. That should tell you something right there. People are very responsive to you. Some of my comments don’t get a response, for example, if you want me to clarify. All of yours do and you are never left hanging.
@Kat
Yeah, it would be much better to go to the gym or something, like you said, and blow off some steam in a healthy way. Some people are a “lost case” though, sadly. In this lifetime of theirs, anyway.
I’ll do my best to start setting boundaries. It’s scary, but yeah, definitely needs to be done. I really appreciate your help with this.
By the way, I don’t think I am getting some special treatment here, compared to others. Well, maybe I have been a “drama queen” with all my complaining xD, and that draws attention. You’re cooler and more stable than me.
Although, I would suggest to you to visit the “gravatar” website, and change (add) something as your profile picture there. CCC site uses the avatar you register there. When I scroll through a lot of comments, I can easily discern my comments, and Brandon’s comments, because the 2 of us have a distinctive avatar picture. Your kind of blends with everyone else, because you all have a grey default picture. A picture is much easier to recognize than the text that is read. Especially when there’s a mountain of comments like in here. 😛
I tried Z, but I wasn’t able to put a photo on there.
what I meant was that you are way more than you give yourself credit for.
Misunderstandings are my cue to stop with the blog and get to work, because I actually have a lot of it to do! Exit stage right!
@Kat
It should work, try again. 🙂 It says that there’s a 1MB file size limitation, so maybe that’s the thing?
Here’s the line from the site: “We will automatically resize large images, but please note that there is a 1MB file size limit.”
I suggest the .png format, because it’s the best (also .gif , but that’s mostly for animations). Also you can have .jpg (.jpeg) format, but that one has lower quality, so only use it as a last resort. Also make sure that the email you use on gravatar is the same one you use on cocreationcoaching.
If you mean that you’re addicted to this blog, well so am I. 😛
I blame Brandon for being so good. Although I have caught myself several times to be doing too much of reading and listening (the theory), and slacking off at meditating, or intending, etc. (the practice).
Too much theory…I know how that is lol. It’s easy to get the theory, but the practice… that’s a bit harder lol.
You never cease to amaze me, Z. Thank you for the tips. I was actually able to upload the pic! I figured I’d give it one last try.
I know, I feel the same way, but work beckons so got to go! 🙂
That’s a very beautiful picture, Kat. I’m so glad that you managed to make it work. 😀
It also brings more life to the comments. I hope you have a great day, and that ease flows for you. I’m going to sleep soon. xD
Thank you Justin. I hope I wasn’t giving off the impression that I was trying to get rid of the ego or resistance, because that is not at all what I was intending to say. If anything, I was actually in large support of the ego. Now that I have a bit more clarity tonight in meditation, I have a bit more insight of what I was really trying to say above.
You could not have a physical experience without resistance. That’s what death is for. There is no resistance in the non physical. But, there is a reason we ‘leave’ the non physical to incarnate here….and that is form the experience of what it is like to be a human which involves…..resistance.
It’s like…..you already ARE perfection. But, how cool would it be to experience what it is like to “pretend” and perceive yourself as something “other” than perfection for a temporary blip of time we call……life? We’re all eternal beings and all going back to the same place. But, in order to have an experience in human life, there has to be a perceived ‘other’ along with the experiences of first “not believing you have a choice” (darkness)…..to then realizing (Just see Brandon’s latest Blog Post) that you always have a choice. No, you can’t physically control the external circumstances, but you can control your story as a starter and then eventually shift your external circumstances….or not.
Manifestation is a great tool to use and we are always manifesting one way or another and creating since it’s simply our nature to create. But, the insight that has come through for me tonight is in line with what Bashar always says……”circumstances don’t matter, only state of being matters”. Point being, how you FEEL is of utmost importance than whether your goal was attained. I know many will disagree, but this is the insight that has come through for me tonight. Of course if you’re manifesting something, you want that goal to happen, but if you NEED it to happen to make you happy….well……
Meaning, that if you are constantly checking the outside to see your progress, you start to rely on that as a measuring tool for happiness. But, if you find a way to be happy NOW (again referring to happiness in a place of finding your joy by connecting to your heart), it doesn’t matter if you have the worse chronic dis-ease (this has been the greatest lesson I have learned in loving myself with a chronic illness), or where your circumstances are, that will change in time, but you can’t get there until you get happy NOW. Find that peace and stillness and love that is your nature NOW.
if you’re waiting for the external to change for you to be happy, then you’ll never be happy. And I see people commenting on recent posts and other areas even on YouTube asking “hey, I don’t need to be happy to manifest successfully, right”. Well, the answer is of course not! Anyone can manifest.
But, I find the over analysis of the word “happy” often to be somewhat telling that perhaps people are UN happy, but still want to make sure they can get what they want. Donald Trump manifested what he wanted and he did a damn good job. But, is Donald Trump happy? Is Donald Trump connected to his heart? Again, there is NO right or wrong in the greater sense, nor is the universe judging Donald Trump, but only you know by how you are living if you are connected to your heart or not. Only Donald Trump knows if he is wearing a mask of false bravado to try to manifest outward financial success to hide the fear that he feels on the inside.
Of course on the other hand manifesting because it’s simply fun and taking on new challenges because they are FUN and because you want to improve your life, is a completely different animal. Hey, if my car breaks down and I want a new car, there is no underlying feeling behind that, other than….I want to make my life easier! Sorry Abraham, but it’s not always about an underlying feeling. So, manifest a new car then! It’s not that hard to do. And yes, there WILL be resistance always. And you just keep soothing that resistance by realizing it’s just part of that scared survival aspect trying to keep you safe. There is an incredible act of love by being with your emotions and your body in understanding why that negativity is arising. But, that resistance does not ever have to be suffering. That was the main point I was trying to get across earlier. Sure, challenges will always be present in a body and life will not always be comfortable, but that’s an incredible difference than believing you have to suffer. Suffering only happens when you are so attached to a goal, that you lost track of the present moment and are attached and identified with thoughts that are based in the future and are basing your entire sense of happiness on whether you achieve that goal or not.
I want to share some of the things I have learned on my path of brain re-training (which is far more than just brain re-training, it’s a deep spiritual program). I am currently in the process of manifesting health in my body, but this is the amazing realization that I have come to learn. And I’ve listened to speakers like Tara Brach, Anita Moorjani and many other amazing spiritual teachers who themselves, had chronic illness. If you need so badly for outer circumstances to change before you get happy NOW, then you will always be looking for something to complete you. Manifesting is supposed to be a tool, but not a tool to make you happy.
At this point in my life, happiness and joy (yes, I know many people are not thrilled with those terms, but to me they equate to inner peace. I am not referring to temporary emotions of conditional happiness) is the only thing of importance to me. I can manifest anything I want, but I don’t care about that right now. I care about connecting to my heart and tapping into what I truly DO want. And THEN, if I want to manifest something, I do it from there from inspired action. Lately, I have just been tapping into my heart and starting to take on new activities just because they excite me. I’ve taken up singing, drawing and started playing guitar again for the first time in years. I’m literally just following my heart right now and it’s beautiful. Will there be a time where I want to manifest a big goal? Perhaps, but I think the more emphasis I put on manifesting as manifesting, the more I make it into a challenge. I’d like to think of life as listening to my heart and acting from inspiration on that desire in my heart.
Negative emotions are not wrong, nor are they bad. Those are human labels. They are just manifestations of where your beliefs are. Where do you WANT to be? You get to decide that. But, the only way you can really decide that is tapping into your heart and following your heart. It should feel good to follow your heart. If it doesn’t, then you’re not following your heart. But, “feeling good” seems to be getting way too much over analysis. Approaching life from a place of inner stillness and peace DOES feel good. That’s the whole point! Not feel good in an “Abraham” type of way. But, connecting to things in your life which excite you and bring you joy and then living the rest of your time in presence. Presence only embraces all emotions as they are.
Anyway, I’m done here. Thanks for the conversation folks. 🙂
Awesome points Derek. 🙂
I love what you said about why we came here: to experience what it’d be like to be limited. I totally agree.
And I agree with what you said about resistance not having to be suffering. I think that was the conflict earlier: I don’t see resistance as necessarily being suffering.
And yes, being in the zero state should feel good. And we “should” be spending more and more time in that place. That is a very beneficial thing to do, and will result in more resistance melting away as we do so.
I think we come at this from two relatively different angles. For me, it was hammered in over and over “get happy before you try to manifest”. so I would try to not even think of my manifestation until I could be happy without it. But that point never came.
Overall, I was pretty happy. But I also wanted to see results.
So what I’m trying to express to people is this: don’t expect perfection from yourself before you go after your manifestation. Don’t think you have to become an enlightened master before you can have success. Too many people are just working away at becoming happy, so that then they can give themselves permission to go after their manifestation.
I wanted to separate those two paths a bit. They are interrelated, but also separate. Work on being happy, but simultaneously, go after your manifestation.
You might fall more on the “happiness first” end, and I might fall more on the “manifestation first” end. Both are okay. I totally agree that the manifestation can’t cause happiness, but it’s also okay to just want that manifestation. Not need it, no, but just want it.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. 🙂
I was going to mention Anita who discovered all this along the way from illness to her recovery. I honestly think Trump was having a ball running for President while Hilary took it way too seriously. I think Yrumo was surprised he actually made it, but of course, he always has fun in his life, it’s a game to him. He’s a good example for manifesting.
It’s not happiness but inner peace that is the place to be. Also, when it comes to goals, what I’ve seen is that those who are successful keep at it and do eventually get somewhere they want. It is true that if you knock long enough, the door or a window will open.
Another example also comes to mind. The singer Fergie was in a bad state when she sought therapy. She had a great therapist who told her, why don’t you want a #1 hit rather than just break the top 10? Where are these therapists? Her therapist showed her not to be afraid of going beyond where you want to go, because it’s totally possible.
Kat,
I just love the example of Fergie. It just shows that we have to set what we want and go after it. 🙂
But, the definition of “successful” is completely different to everyone. “successful” to me is living with joy regardless of whether I manifest anything outwardly or not, and that’s where I have been lately. And that is totally fine if others are at different points in their lives.
No one can know if Donald Trump is living with joy or not or manifesting from his heart and yes, I strongly believe there is a difference between manifesting from fear and manifesting from your heart.
Adolf Hitler manifested his own form of “success” from fear. Osama Bin Laden the same. Serial Killers do the same. Of course the universe HAS no judgment towards any of these people which is why they CAN be successful….successful in their own way…..but….when you continually live that far disconnected from yourself, it will catch up to you either in the form of dis-ease or another method (both Hitler and Bin Laden lived hidden in immense fear towards the end and both died at young ages). Of course Trump is in NO way in the same class as these people, but I am using as examples of “successful manifestors”.
And again, just to clarify, because it seems to come up a lot, I am referring to happiness as “inner peace” and this is in no way a knock against Donald Trump (I was the first person to tell people that no one can create in your reality), and this has nothing to do with politics, since I take no part in political positions, but Donald Trump in my estimation ran for President for HIMSELF and only himself. I pick up a lot of things on people, and I did not feel any real love from him towards the American people. This entire election, I strongly believe was an ego trip for himself and only himself. On the other hand, someone like Bernie Sanders I believe had more loving intentions from his heart to manifest his own success,…..manifesting from the heart, meaning manifesting your intentions from a place of who you truly are…..love.
Yes, Trump was having fun, but I don’t think he had the real intention of first of all WINNING (He seemed incredibly surprised when he won) . I just saw immense fear in that man and still do. There’s a vast difference between truly ‘loving yourSelf’ and ‘loving yoiurself”. The way Donald Trump reacts on twitter is a sign to me that this man is incredibly scared of what people think of him and does not truly love himSelf.
That aside, on a collective scale, there were obvious reasons to me why Trump won over Hillary. And I think we NEEDED this election result, as a transition phase. I think Trump is going to be that ‘in between’ guy when we finally transition.
And I completely disagree that happiness is “not the place to be”. I say speak for yourself.
If you’re not happy, that’s fine. But, the more you try to define and conceptualize the word “happiness”, the more you get away from what it truly is. Again, as I mentioned in the post, I am not talking about a temporary passing emotion of happiness derived from gathering materialism. I am referring to happiness as in acting on your own joy or excitement which of course does not in any way negate negative emotions, but it means you are not taking action or manifesting from a place of fear, but taking action and manfiesting from a place of joy which IS happiness. And the rest of the time, living in that inner peace around every experience including the ‘darkness” 🙂
And there is a vast difference in TRYING to be happy all of the time which is pure nonsense and not really happiness and incredibly exhausting and unloving to the ‘darkness’ within you, as opposed to making every action from a place of love from your heart. What inspires you NOW and NOW and NOW? This is what truly drives me right now in my life. How can I be of most love to myself and what action can I take if any that BE that love? Hope that makes sense. This is just my experience of where I am at right now. I spent a lot of time in deliberate creation teachings and I’ve drifted away from Melody and Abe’s stuff and found a lot more resonance in Brandon’s teachings because his teachings and experience much more correlate with my own.
Kat, much of the manifestation does happen behind the scenes. If you want more of a road map, then you can ask the universe to send you signs you will recognize. You may have to pull some of them out of your meditation when you are in the 0 state, but I ask the universe to send me signs so I keep up with what’s going on.
Justin
Ha! This is one of the signs! Your response to me! Something told me there would be more for me here so, although my eyes are exhausted from being on the computer today, I managed to come back and found your response to me! Thank you Justin.
Yes, I always ask for signs from the U. They are what power me along. And I really love your voice on the podcasts. It is very soothing. I’m really a southern girl living in the big city, after all. ????
I’ve had this too with signs. Happened to me over the summer in a blatant way. But, I never could tell if it was really a sign or not. End of the summer, I was going through a difficult situation and pleaded with the universe for help basically with the underlying intention of “Please prove to me that this stuff is real”. Later that night, this girl that I am friends with that I met literally on an Abe Hicks Face book group lol, I hadn’t spoken to her many months. But, I pondered messaging her that night to ask her for opinion on manifestation stuff and why weird stuff was happening to me. Within the hour, she messaged me just like that to say hi. I had not talked to her in months. It was incredible. So, I always wonder if this is a synchronicity or not.
Sounds like a sign to me. 🙂 My criterion for signs is: if it triggers an emotional reaction (including positive obviously), it’s a sign. I believe that just about everything means something, if only to help us work through some resistance or something.
Thanks Brandon. I’d like to think so. It was incredible at the time. I wrote about it on the Abe forum back in August haha and no one responded.
Yes, everything is a sign and there are no coincidences. The Universe communicates with you all the time. If you feel a little zing or a little bell goes off inside or a lightbulb goes on, it’s a sign. How do you know? I’m intuitive so I just do. You can learn how with various techniques here as they are taught, if that’s your next question. It’s usually the next question on the Abe forum, which I don’t follow anymore, FYI. ????
Derek, the Ego is to be used as you would use any other tool. I regular encounter people who fall into the trap of attempting to destroy the ego. It’s important that we don’t allow it to take charge and run away with us.
Resistance, whether it is external, or internal lets us know which path to take, and gives us sign posts to follow. It lets us know what’s going on with our subconscious mind. During meditation, you can pull each bit of the resistance out and look at it and discern why it’s here. You also can choose to let it pass you buy and not react to it at all. I sometimes talk to it some, discern why it’s here, then let it go on its way. I do that in my 0 state.
Z, you can both allow the feelings, and set a boundry. You don’t have to do one of the other. Use your 0 state to allow the feelings to flow through, then choose to set whatever boundaries you want. Just ask your higher self, and do what feels right with your boundaries. You can also change the boundaries when you want as well.
Justin
Thank you for your advice, Justin! I admit, I was kind of thinking that I would have to do one OR the other. Although I do know that I have trouble setting boundaries in general, because of fear with conflict with other people. I am always afraid that either I would start reacting with anger towards them, or that they would start yelling at me. I guess it’s a carryover from my childhood experience with my parents.
Z, that’s the problem, you fear conflict with others when there isn’t a need to. Most people won’t even react, so you have nothing to fear. Those who do will just defend their actions, that’s all. I’ve been through this enough to know how it goes, so believe me.
But if you don’t open your mouth to say something and make your feelings known, then you will continue in this perpetual cycle of frustration from people stepping all over your boundaries. You need to communicate this and not even think about the others. It is great that you are nice and considerate, but this won’t solve the issue that keeps coming up. ????
Yeah I know, Kat. xD
I think that being afraid has to do with my childhood, since anytime I’d try to say something of the same kind to my mother, she’d explode. There’s still a lot of fear in me from that unhealthy relationship. But yes you’re definitely right. I do have to start telling people when something they’re doing is bothering me. Me keeping it shut is also in a direct conflict with a big goal of mine, to be “fearlessly” open and communicative with people.
Actually a week ago, I was at my parents’ house, and there was a worker. (my parents are renovating)
He would smoke inside the house, and it would make me choke. It took time for me to ask him to smoke inside. I was really afraid that he would explode on me, but on the contrary, he immediately agreed, and I noticed that he was more like a scared puppy himself.
Thank you for helping me, I really appreciate it. 🙂
This really is a wonderful community.
smoke *outside (typo)
Hi Z,
I get this. Christine is also the same way, because of her mother, who would always blow up at her. These comments are too confusing for her to navigate, or I’d ask her to weigh in on all of this. Perhaps I can bring it up next Tuesday during the call.
Thanks Brandon, for your comment. I would appreciate it if you could talk about allowing the emotions (caused by someone else’s behavior) vs setting a boundary. I am always afraid that either the other person will explode at me, or that I will explode at them. Often, at those times, I ask myself, “why is this person doing this?”. It’s the discomfort.
I’ve noticed that my mother has had chronic pattern of putting up with inappropriate behaviors from others, and on the other side exploding at her family (whom she didn’t find threatening). My father is similar, but he never explodes.
Sounds like the displacement defense mechanism which is an immature defense mechanism when you feel aggression from an authority, you take it out on an innocent. There are more mature ways to gentle this such as channeling that for good causes, or going to the gym and boxing it out, etc. it needs to be released.
My mom is the same way and I ended up exploding at her and she said that I never said anything. So there you go, you need to express this stuff and you will see, there is really nothing to fear and things will get better once you do. Things will shift along with the energy that got moved.
And yes, it is a good community. Every single one of your questions, comments, observations, jokes, laments, what have you, get answered, I’ve noticed. That should tell you something right there. People are very responsive to you. Some of my comments don’t get a response, for example, if you want me to clarify. All of yours do and you are never left hanging.
@Kat
Yeah, it would be much better to go to the gym or something, like you said, and blow off some steam in a healthy way. Some people are a “lost case” though, sadly. In this lifetime of theirs, anyway.
I’ll do my best to start setting boundaries. It’s scary, but yeah, definitely needs to be done. I really appreciate your help with this.
By the way, I don’t think I am getting some special treatment here, compared to others. Well, maybe I have been a “drama queen” with all my complaining xD, and that draws attention. You’re cooler and more stable than me.
Although, I would suggest to you to visit the “gravatar” website, and change (add) something as your profile picture there. CCC site uses the avatar you register there. When I scroll through a lot of comments, I can easily discern my comments, and Brandon’s comments, because the 2 of us have a distinctive avatar picture. Your kind of blends with everyone else, because you all have a grey default picture. A picture is much easier to recognize than the text that is read. Especially when there’s a mountain of comments like in here. 😛
I tried Z, but I wasn’t able to put a photo on there.
what I meant was that you are way more than you give yourself credit for.
Misunderstandings are my cue to stop with the blog and get to work, because I actually have a lot of it to do! Exit stage right!
@Kat
It should work, try again. 🙂 It says that there’s a 1MB file size limitation, so maybe that’s the thing?
Here’s the line from the site: “We will automatically resize large images, but please note that there is a 1MB file size limit.”
I suggest the .png format, because it’s the best (also .gif , but that’s mostly for animations). Also you can have .jpg (.jpeg) format, but that one has lower quality, so only use it as a last resort. Also make sure that the email you use on gravatar is the same one you use on cocreationcoaching.
If you mean that you’re addicted to this blog, well so am I. 😛
I blame Brandon for being so good. Although I have caught myself several times to be doing too much of reading and listening (the theory), and slacking off at meditating, or intending, etc. (the practice).
Too much theory…I know how that is lol. It’s easy to get the theory, but the practice… that’s a bit harder lol.
You never cease to amaze me, Z. Thank you for the tips. I was actually able to upload the pic! I figured I’d give it one last try.
I know, I feel the same way, but work beckons so got to go! 🙂
That’s a very beautiful picture, Kat. I’m so glad that you managed to make it work. 😀
It also brings more life to the comments. I hope you have a great day, and that ease flows for you. I’m going to sleep soon. xD
Thank you Justin. I hope I wasn’t giving off the impression that I was trying to get rid of the ego or resistance, because that is not at all what I was intending to say. If anything, I was actually in large support of the ego. Now that I have a bit more clarity tonight in meditation, I have a bit more insight of what I was really trying to say above.
You could not have a physical experience without resistance. That’s what death is for. There is no resistance in the non physical. But, there is a reason we ‘leave’ the non physical to incarnate here….and that is form the experience of what it is like to be a human which involves…..resistance.
It’s like…..you already ARE perfection. But, how cool would it be to experience what it is like to “pretend” and perceive yourself as something “other” than perfection for a temporary blip of time we call……life? We’re all eternal beings and all going back to the same place. But, in order to have an experience in human life, there has to be a perceived ‘other’ along with the experiences of first “not believing you have a choice” (darkness)…..to then realizing (Just see Brandon’s latest Blog Post) that you always have a choice. No, you can’t physically control the external circumstances, but you can control your story as a starter and then eventually shift your external circumstances….or not.
Manifestation is a great tool to use and we are always manifesting one way or another and creating since it’s simply our nature to create. But, the insight that has come through for me tonight is in line with what Bashar always says……”circumstances don’t matter, only state of being matters”. Point being, how you FEEL is of utmost importance than whether your goal was attained. I know many will disagree, but this is the insight that has come through for me tonight. Of course if you’re manifesting something, you want that goal to happen, but if you NEED it to happen to make you happy….well……
Meaning, that if you are constantly checking the outside to see your progress, you start to rely on that as a measuring tool for happiness. But, if you find a way to be happy NOW (again referring to happiness in a place of finding your joy by connecting to your heart), it doesn’t matter if you have the worse chronic dis-ease (this has been the greatest lesson I have learned in loving myself with a chronic illness), or where your circumstances are, that will change in time, but you can’t get there until you get happy NOW. Find that peace and stillness and love that is your nature NOW.
if you’re waiting for the external to change for you to be happy, then you’ll never be happy. And I see people commenting on recent posts and other areas even on YouTube asking “hey, I don’t need to be happy to manifest successfully, right”. Well, the answer is of course not! Anyone can manifest.
But, I find the over analysis of the word “happy” often to be somewhat telling that perhaps people are UN happy, but still want to make sure they can get what they want. Donald Trump manifested what he wanted and he did a damn good job. But, is Donald Trump happy? Is Donald Trump connected to his heart? Again, there is NO right or wrong in the greater sense, nor is the universe judging Donald Trump, but only you know by how you are living if you are connected to your heart or not. Only Donald Trump knows if he is wearing a mask of false bravado to try to manifest outward financial success to hide the fear that he feels on the inside.
Of course on the other hand manifesting because it’s simply fun and taking on new challenges because they are FUN and because you want to improve your life, is a completely different animal. Hey, if my car breaks down and I want a new car, there is no underlying feeling behind that, other than….I want to make my life easier! Sorry Abraham, but it’s not always about an underlying feeling. So, manifest a new car then! It’s not that hard to do. And yes, there WILL be resistance always. And you just keep soothing that resistance by realizing it’s just part of that scared survival aspect trying to keep you safe. There is an incredible act of love by being with your emotions and your body in understanding why that negativity is arising. But, that resistance does not ever have to be suffering. That was the main point I was trying to get across earlier. Sure, challenges will always be present in a body and life will not always be comfortable, but that’s an incredible difference than believing you have to suffer. Suffering only happens when you are so attached to a goal, that you lost track of the present moment and are attached and identified with thoughts that are based in the future and are basing your entire sense of happiness on whether you achieve that goal or not.
I want to share some of the things I have learned on my path of brain re-training (which is far more than just brain re-training, it’s a deep spiritual program). I am currently in the process of manifesting health in my body, but this is the amazing realization that I have come to learn. And I’ve listened to speakers like Tara Brach, Anita Moorjani and many other amazing spiritual teachers who themselves, had chronic illness. If you need so badly for outer circumstances to change before you get happy NOW, then you will always be looking for something to complete you. Manifesting is supposed to be a tool, but not a tool to make you happy.
At this point in my life, happiness and joy (yes, I know many people are not thrilled with those terms, but to me they equate to inner peace. I am not referring to temporary emotions of conditional happiness) is the only thing of importance to me. I can manifest anything I want, but I don’t care about that right now. I care about connecting to my heart and tapping into what I truly DO want. And THEN, if I want to manifest something, I do it from there from inspired action. Lately, I have just been tapping into my heart and starting to take on new activities just because they excite me. I’ve taken up singing, drawing and started playing guitar again for the first time in years. I’m literally just following my heart right now and it’s beautiful. Will there be a time where I want to manifest a big goal? Perhaps, but I think the more emphasis I put on manifesting as manifesting, the more I make it into a challenge. I’d like to think of life as listening to my heart and acting from inspiration on that desire in my heart.
Negative emotions are not wrong, nor are they bad. Those are human labels. They are just manifestations of where your beliefs are. Where do you WANT to be? You get to decide that. But, the only way you can really decide that is tapping into your heart and following your heart. It should feel good to follow your heart. If it doesn’t, then you’re not following your heart. But, “feeling good” seems to be getting way too much over analysis. Approaching life from a place of inner stillness and peace DOES feel good. That’s the whole point! Not feel good in an “Abraham” type of way. But, connecting to things in your life which excite you and bring you joy and then living the rest of your time in presence. Presence only embraces all emotions as they are.
Anyway, I’m done here. Thanks for the conversation folks. 🙂
Awesome points Derek. 🙂
I love what you said about why we came here: to experience what it’d be like to be limited. I totally agree.
And I agree with what you said about resistance not having to be suffering. I think that was the conflict earlier: I don’t see resistance as necessarily being suffering.
And yes, being in the zero state should feel good. And we “should” be spending more and more time in that place. That is a very beneficial thing to do, and will result in more resistance melting away as we do so.
I think we come at this from two relatively different angles. For me, it was hammered in over and over “get happy before you try to manifest”. so I would try to not even think of my manifestation until I could be happy without it. But that point never came.
Overall, I was pretty happy. But I also wanted to see results.
So what I’m trying to express to people is this: don’t expect perfection from yourself before you go after your manifestation. Don’t think you have to become an enlightened master before you can have success. Too many people are just working away at becoming happy, so that then they can give themselves permission to go after their manifestation.
I wanted to separate those two paths a bit. They are interrelated, but also separate. Work on being happy, but simultaneously, go after your manifestation.
You might fall more on the “happiness first” end, and I might fall more on the “manifestation first” end. Both are okay. I totally agree that the manifestation can’t cause happiness, but it’s also okay to just want that manifestation. Not need it, no, but just want it.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. 🙂
I was going to mention Anita who discovered all this along the way from illness to her recovery. I honestly think Trump was having a ball running for President while Hilary took it way too seriously. I think Yrumo was surprised he actually made it, but of course, he always has fun in his life, it’s a game to him. He’s a good example for manifesting.
It’s not happiness but inner peace that is the place to be. Also, when it comes to goals, what I’ve seen is that those who are successful keep at it and do eventually get somewhere they want. It is true that if you knock long enough, the door or a window will open.
Another example also comes to mind. The singer Fergie was in a bad state when she sought therapy. She had a great therapist who told her, why don’t you want a #1 hit rather than just break the top 10? Where are these therapists? Her therapist showed her not to be afraid of going beyond where you want to go, because it’s totally possible.
Kat,
I just love the example of Fergie. It just shows that we have to set what we want and go after it. 🙂
But, the definition of “successful” is completely different to everyone. “successful” to me is living with joy regardless of whether I manifest anything outwardly or not, and that’s where I have been lately. And that is totally fine if others are at different points in their lives.
No one can know if Donald Trump is living with joy or not or manifesting from his heart and yes, I strongly believe there is a difference between manifesting from fear and manifesting from your heart.
Adolf Hitler manifested his own form of “success” from fear. Osama Bin Laden the same. Serial Killers do the same. Of course the universe HAS no judgment towards any of these people which is why they CAN be successful….successful in their own way…..but….when you continually live that far disconnected from yourself, it will catch up to you either in the form of dis-ease or another method (both Hitler and Bin Laden lived hidden in immense fear towards the end and both died at young ages). Of course Trump is in NO way in the same class as these people, but I am using as examples of “successful manifestors”.
And again, just to clarify, because it seems to come up a lot, I am referring to happiness as “inner peace” and this is in no way a knock against Donald Trump (I was the first person to tell people that no one can create in your reality), and this has nothing to do with politics, since I take no part in political positions, but Donald Trump in my estimation ran for President for HIMSELF and only himself. I pick up a lot of things on people, and I did not feel any real love from him towards the American people. This entire election, I strongly believe was an ego trip for himself and only himself. On the other hand, someone like Bernie Sanders I believe had more loving intentions from his heart to manifest his own success,…..manifesting from the heart, meaning manifesting your intentions from a place of who you truly are…..love.
Yes, Trump was having fun, but I don’t think he had the real intention of first of all WINNING (He seemed incredibly surprised when he won) . I just saw immense fear in that man and still do. There’s a vast difference between truly ‘loving yourSelf’ and ‘loving yoiurself”. The way Donald Trump reacts on twitter is a sign to me that this man is incredibly scared of what people think of him and does not truly love himSelf.
That aside, on a collective scale, there were obvious reasons to me why Trump won over Hillary. And I think we NEEDED this election result, as a transition phase. I think Trump is going to be that ‘in between’ guy when we finally transition.
And I completely disagree that happiness is “not the place to be”. I say speak for yourself.
If you’re not happy, that’s fine. But, the more you try to define and conceptualize the word “happiness”, the more you get away from what it truly is. Again, as I mentioned in the post, I am not talking about a temporary passing emotion of happiness derived from gathering materialism. I am referring to happiness as in acting on your own joy or excitement which of course does not in any way negate negative emotions, but it means you are not taking action or manifesting from a place of fear, but taking action and manfiesting from a place of joy which IS happiness. And the rest of the time, living in that inner peace around every experience including the ‘darkness” 🙂
And there is a vast difference in TRYING to be happy all of the time which is pure nonsense and not really happiness and incredibly exhausting and unloving to the ‘darkness’ within you, as opposed to making every action from a place of love from your heart. What inspires you NOW and NOW and NOW? This is what truly drives me right now in my life. How can I be of most love to myself and what action can I take if any that BE that love? Hope that makes sense. This is just my experience of where I am at right now. I spent a lot of time in deliberate creation teachings and I’ve drifted away from Melody and Abe’s stuff and found a lot more resonance in Brandon’s teachings because his teachings and experience much more correlate with my own.