You know pretty well how to manifest in your own life. But, now the question is, could you manifest in someone else’s life, too?
Perhaps you want your crush to love you in return. Or, you just want to help a friend or family member recover from illness. Whatever the motivation is, this is a question that is often asked.
I’ve seen many different answers to this out there. The overall consensus has been, only if they’re a match to whatever you’re trying to manifest for them. If the sick person is a match to health, then your attempts can have a significant effect. But if they’re not, then it probably won’t.
But, as always, I like to explore such issues and come to my own conclusion.
This topic comes from a question that CJ sent me. Here’s the question:
Can one person’s intent influence another? eg. Can person A pray for person B who is across the other side of the planet and who is unaware of person A’s intent, and person B heals?
If you’d like to ask me your own question to be answered on this blog, then you can ask it here.
Common Analogs to Manifestation
I want to compare manifestation to some common analogs, first. Manifestation is known by many different names, and studying these various forms can help to understand it even better.
CJ compared manifestation to prayer, so I feel this is a perfect place to start.
It’s pretty common in religious or spiritual circles to pray for others. I’ve even heard of scientific studies where prayer has been effective, even if the target of the prayer wasn’t aware that they were being prayed for.
So, it seems pretty clear from the start that people can definitely be influenced in some way by prayer.
How precisely is manifestation similar to prayer?
It’s all based on energy. While I don’t believe in a personal God, prayer helps us to connect to Universal Energy, and shape that energy through our words and emotions.
However, the common understanding, to my knowledge anyway, is that someone cannot be prayed for against their will. Those who believe in prayer often heavily emphasize the importance of free will, and that God will never force us to do anything that is against our will.
What if it is in alignment with their will, but their subconscious programming does not align with such a change? This usually isn’t addressed in discussions on prayer. I will introduce my own view on this topic later on.
So, to summarize, prayer:
- Is effective for others
- Cannot influence them against their free will
- Is unknown whether it can influence them against their subconscious programming
Prior to learning about the law of attraction, I had a great deal of background in magic of various types. So, this one is more familiar to me.
Magic, in my view, is really just another term for the law of attraction. Both are concerned with creating change in the physical world.
The main difference is that the law of attraction generally doesn’t use any props, while magic is well-known for using ritualistic items to make it more believable.
What do magic users say about influencing others?
There’s definitely more acceptance of it, from what I’ve seen. The difference from prayer is that the effect of magic is not always positive. There are plenty who will happily curse another, and claim it to be effective.
This speaks to the issue of free will as well. Obviously, those who are cursed aren’t going to freely choose to be cursed, so it seems that there is some leeway here.
On the other hand, I’ve seen a great deal of warning about overly influencing someone else’s will. It’s generally held that it will backfire, eventually.
So, in summary, magic:
- Can definitely influence others
- May be able to influence them against their will, though it’s not always a great idea
- Is unknown whether it can influence them contrary to their subconscious programming
Interestingly, this is pretty similar to the conclusions reached regarding prayer, so it seems we’re coming to some agreement.
Healing is another form of all of the above.
Of course, healing is primarily based on the assumption that you can influence someone else, for the positive, using some healing modality. So, obviously healers tend to believe that you can affect another with energy.
Each modality is different, but the overall belief, when it comes to energy healing, is that you can use your own connection to the Universe to either (1) send energy to another person and bring them into greater alignment with health, or (2) rebalance their energy field to achieve greater alignment.
Can you do it against their free will, though? Most healers tend to say that you cannot. If someone doesn’t want to be healed, then no amount of healing will change that.
Similarly, when it comes to subconscious programming that gets in the way of healing, usually those subconscious programs have to be changed before healing can be affected.
So, in summary, healing:
- Can influence others
- Cannot influence them against their will
- Cannot influence them contrary to their subconscious programs
So, I’ve outlined the understanding according to prayer, magic, and healing. Now, I’ll give my own perspective, but will divide it into the points I used above:
- Can you influence another with the law of attraction?
- Can you influence another against their free will?
- Can you influence another contrary to their subconscious programming, regardless of their free will?
Can You Influence Others with the Law of Attraction?
Users of prayer, magic, and healing seem to believe that you can influence others. Is it true?
Yes, I believe so.
As I said above, everything is based on energy. A manifestation, itself, is simply an energetic structure, which is translated into physical experiences.
In fact, healing is essentially a direct application of the law of attraction. When you do healing, it’s essential to hold the picture of that person in full health. That will, in turn, call upon your energy flow to create that picture of health that you are holding.
The same goes for prayer and magic. I’ve written before about the most effective way to pray. Though most people don’t know this, it’s also important to hold your desired outcome in mind when praying, because, of course, it is just another manifestation.
Similarly, magic users well know that you must hold in mind the outcome that you desire, perhaps supported by external props, in order to strengthen that image.
So, it’s all the same thing. The image that you hold, when combined with a positive emotional response, will call upon Universal Energy to create that image in outer reality.
All that you already know. But what’s the difference when another person is involved?
Well, that person is still in your experience, so it’s not much different than a manifestation for yourself. You are essentially manifesting that in your experience, that person will act according to your image of them.
For instance, if you want to have a better relationship with a coworker, then you’d hold the picture, or state the affirmation, of them being nicer in your reality. Once combined with the positive emotion you’d like to feel as a result, the energy will go out and create exactly that. Your coworker will soon begin to act nicer towards you.
But, what about their interactions with others? That, you cannot affect. That is a co-creation of that person, along with all the others that they’ll be interacting with. Each person will co-create a different experience with that coworker.
Let’s say your coworkers name is Lisa. In the past, she’s been rather cold and standoffish with you. But, after you hold the picture of her being nicer and warmer towards you, she starts to match your vision for her.
But, now let’s take another coworker, Bob. Bob thinks Lisa is rude and snobbish. You can’t affect his experience of Lisa. Bob will continue to experience her as rude and snobbish, unless and until he changes his own perception from the inside.
Did you actually influence Lisa? Of course. You brought out her already existing nicer side when she’s around you, because you’re now a match to that aspect of her.
You have to realize that each person is a conglomeration of various aspects, some of which are completely different. A person might be very loving towards their family, no-nonsense at work, jovial with friends, and so on.
The desired picture you have of that person probably already exists in some way. All you have to do is to bring it out, by becoming a match to that part of them.
Can You Influence Others Against Their Free Will?
So, we’ve established that you can definitely influence others with the law of attraction. But, what if it is against their free will?
Obviously, I’m not saying you’d ever want to do this. But, it is simply out of curiosity.
In magic circles, you’ll see people asking for or offering love spells, usually to make a specific person interested in them. Even on law of attraction forums, the question will often arise whether you can manifest a specific partner.
This one is pretty complicated. I’ll use a relationship example, since that’s the common application.
Let’s say you’re interested in a girl named Sarah. Maybe you’ve already gauged her interest, and she’s turned you down.
Can you use the law of attraction to make her interested in you?
The answer is, maybe.
When you asked her out the first time and she rejected you, you weren’t on the same energetic wavelength. She felt this on an intuitive level, and so turned you down.
But, as you begin to focus on having a relationship with her, she might start to notice other qualities about you, which are more desirable. Furthermore, you might be motivated subconsciously to change those qualities that she wasn’t in favor of, or else they’ll just become of less importance to her.
The point is, it’s subtle. You can’t make her attracted to who you were the first time you asked. But, if your energy is close enough to hers, then slight alterations can be made to make you more of a match.
What if you’re totally different, though? For instance, you’re interested in having an independent lifestyle, free of children, but she wants to have kids, and in fact that’s of central importance to her.
In that case, you probably can’t reconcile such a difference.
Or, what if you’re very positive, but she is generally negative? Then again, that probably won’t work.
Sometimes, people will try anyway. There is enough agreement on enough topics, that they’ll go for it. But, it soon becomes like fitting a square peg in a round hole. The incompatibilities will become more and more apparent over time.
Incidentally, that’s why it’s important to focus not on the person with whom you’d like to have a relationship, but the idea of having the perfect relationship for you. People are tempted to try to manifest a specific person, but the Universe knows better who is your best match.
Can You Influence Others Contrary to Their Subconscious Programming?
The final question is whether you can influence another, even if it is against their subconscious programming.
For instance, can you manifest wealth for a person who has lack consciousness? Or, can you influence health for a person who has sickness consciousness?
The answer again is, it depends.
Or, more accurately, the answer is, sort of, but it’s not a good idea.
The central purpose of the Universe is freedom. Each of us is here to face, and release, our resistance to various experiences.
It is possible to temporarily overcome that resistance, which stems from subconscious programming. But, the backlash will be severe.
Let’s take two examples to illustrate this point.
First, let’s say that Frank has been diagnosed with cancer. Your desire, of course, is to help him in any way you can.
Of course, this is desirable, and commendable. But, when he doesn’t react to your initial attempts, you redouble your efforts.
Eventually, you might see some change. Perhaps he even recovers completely.
But, the underlying cause of the illness has not been addressed. So, in time, it manifests in some other way.
Perhaps he falls into depression. Maybe he has a relapse of his condition. Or, a completely different illness might even take its place.
The point is, he has temporary relief, but the underlying issue was not resolved, so it will necessarily come back up in another way. Hopefully this time he catches it sooner, before it can become so serious, but he might not.
Let’s take another example. Emily is struggling financially. You want to help her out, so you start seeing her as wealthy and abundant.
Again, it has no effect. So, you put even more effort into it.
Now, let’s say Emily wins the lottery. She’s an instant millionaire.
But, her subconscious programs haven’t been addressed. She has no idea how to be a millionaire. So pretty soon, she’s wasted it all, and is back to where she was before, if not even worse off.
Just as in the first example, she had some temporary gains, but wasn’t able to keep up with them vibrationally. Her subconscious programming was just too resistant to the new changes, and so she fell back to her initial state of lack.
Now, you might wonder, can you accidentally push someone too far through your own efforts?
Usually not. These are made up examples, obviously. However, it could be possible, if you obsess about the manifestation, and this combines with their own determination to change.
For instance, if Emily really wanted to be a millionaire, and you really wanted this for her, then the energy might combine to create the above circumstances. But, you generally wouldn’t be able to force her into this situation without her own agreement to it.
However, it does outline the importance of taking it easy with your manifestations. Your outlook should be one of ease and effortlessness, whether the manifestation is for you or for another. If they are open to it, then it will have its intended effect. If they aren’t, then it’ll do what it can at least.
Intending well for another is never a bad idea. As long as you keep it light and effortless, then your positive energy will have great effects on them, as long as they’re open to it.
So, to answer the three questions I outlined earlier:
- You can influence others with the law of attraction
- You cannot do it against their will, except for subtle changes that make them more of a match
- You can, in theory, influence them against their subconscious programming, at least in certain circumstances, but it is not a good idea
As I said, intending wellbeing for others is always a good idea. You do not need their permission to do this, because it cannot hurt them.
However, the effect this will have depends on many elements. Generally, it’s best just to leave it up to the Universe to align everything in the best way.
How About You?
Now it’s your turn. Have you ever tried to manifest for another? What was the result? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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