You’ve heard from me that you should be detached from your goals. Of course, this is all true.
However, this should not be mistaken with being passive about your goals. Some people will read my posts, and actually try to stop wanting what they want.
But, this won’t work, either. What you want is what you want, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
That’s right, look at your goal and acknowledge that you are perfectly validated in wanting to achieve that goal. It is not bad, or unspiritual in the least.
But, we must strike a balance, between desperation—i.e., extreme attachment to the goal—and passivity.
I call this balance, persistence.
Why Goals Are Important
Let’s first have a brief discussion on the importance of goals.
I’ve been emphasizing detachment, and as I said above, I don’t want to make it seem as though you should not desire, as that is not my intention at all.
Goals are the driver behind the Universal flow.
If you will, imagine a river. It requires a downward slope. The bigger that slope, the faster and more power the river.
Now, imagine no slope whatsoever, or even an upward slope. Except for under extraordinary circumstances, such a thing would simply be impossible.
The Universal flow is that river. Your desires are the degree of the slope. The bigger the desire, the greater that decline, and the faster the flow.
However, if there is no desire, then there is nowhere for the river to go. It simply has no direction.
The Universal flow is always flowing through you, no matter how much resistance you have. Your only job, and I mean your only job, is to hold the desired manifestation in mind with a pure intention, free of resistance.
This intention will determine the direction of that Universal flow. That is the power of creation at work.
Notice how you don’t actually do the creating yourself. You simply provide the direction, and the rest is done.
But without that direction, there is simply nothing to flow towards.
You see this sometimes in very depressed people. They have no goals, and therefore feel directionless. They simply can’t find the motivation to get out of bed, or to do very much with their day, because, what’s the point? There’s no driving force behind it.
Interestingly, this can result from having absolutely no goals in life, or on the other hand, having a very strong goal, towards which you have intense resistance. I’ve seen both, and both look about the same practically speaking.
Either way, the solution is usually to set your focus on a manageable goal towards which there is little resistance.
The point is, without goals in life, there is simply nothing to keep someone motivated.
So, make peace with your goal, no matter how big or small it is.
The Trap of Desperation
Now, this is where detachment enters in.
The trap that many people fall into is that they believe they need the goal.
Remember that as the attachment to a goal increases, so does the aversion. We live in a dualistic world, and you simply cannot have one extreme without the other. Light implies darkness. Good implies evil. In fact, the Tao Te Ching says:
When people see some things as beautiful,
other things become ugly.
When people see some things as good,
other things become bad.
Being and non-being create each other.
Difficult and easy support each other.
Long and short define each other.
High and low depend on each other.
Before and after follow each other. (Tao Te Ching, ch. 2, translated by Stephen Mitchell)
So the more you are attached to the goal, the more you are averse to the lack of it. The more you want money, the more you push away the lack of it.
And the law of attraction says, whatever you put your focus on, and respond to emotionally, will get bigger in your reality.
Therefore, as this aversion grows, so you draw that aversion into your outer reality in bigger and bigger ways.
It is only by letting go, and fully allowing, that the desired manifestation can come.
Going back to our river analogy from earlier, it is like that uphill slope. Though the desire is big, there is equally big resistance to it, which feels like desperation.
While yes, with technological means, we can make water go uphill, it takes an incredible amount of power and effort.
Similarly, while we can push through that resistance temporarily, it takes a lot of effort, and will just result in greater resistance in the end.
The Importance of Persistence
So, without a goal, you have no flow. With desperation, you might have temporary flow, but it is only going to bring disappointing results.
What is the balance?
Obviously, it is persistence.
Persistence is saying, “Yes I might have resistance to this goal, but despite this resistance, I nevertheless choose to pursue this goal.”
You see, goals are great ways of dredging up resistance.
It’s why it doesn’t work when you flippantly decide to set a huge goal, such as a million dollars overnight. You might daydream about it, but aren’t really ready or willing to deal with the resistance necessary to truly pursue that goal. In fact, if that kind of goal is far outside of your comfort zone, the resistance would likely crush you.
This is why it is important to set small, believable goals.
No matter the goal, if you don’t have it yet, it’s going to bring up some kind of resistance, and you have to be willing to deal with that.
However, persistence is that willingness to deal with whatever comes, and still choose to have this desire.
Don’t get me wrong, there are definitely instances where a near instant manifestation happens, because you had very little resistance. But, for most “big” goals, there is going to be resistance.
The question is, are you willing to nurture this manifestation? Are you willing to put your energy into it every day via your intentions?
Or, if it isn’t here in a week or two, are you just going to give up on it?
A Goal Is Like a Work of Art
The truth is, your goal is much like a work of art.
You can’t just snap your fingers and a painting be created. In fact, most artists would say that even if they could, that would take away the enjoyment.
The enjoyment of the art is in shaping it out of nothing. You have before you a blank canvas, and you must envision something new taking form, far before it becomes reality.
In fact, the artist Michelangelo said: “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”
Your goal is much like that statue or painting. You must take raw energy (the Universal flow), and decide what you would like to create in your reality.
Initially, you’ll see little to no evidence of it. But persistence is in seeing internally what you’d like to create, so that the Universe does the job of shaping that inner vision into outer reality.
Does an artist give up if their creation takes longer than expected? No, they stick with it to completion. They know what they want to see, and they endeavor to find the shortest path from where they are to where they want to be.
If the painter simply looked at the blank canvas, he might say, “It’s just a blank canvas. What’s the point of envisioning what I want? It can never become more than a blank canvas.”
But instead, he starts to see what he might paint upon this canvas, and as he begins to paint, his ideas take shape before him.
Your paintbrush is your practice of intending your goal the way you want it to be. It is to hold that vision of your desired reality, in the face of reality as it is now, or of your resistant thoughts about why your goal isn’t possible.
Without that persistence, your goal simply remains an idea.
It’s like those people who say how one day, they want to start a business, or write a book, or travel the world. But if you ask them why they don’t do it, they have all sorts of excuses. Their goal only becomes a “one day” goal. They aren’t willing to nurture their vision and make it reality.
You Are the Creator
I think that people are afraid to step into their true role as creator. They say, “God knows best,” or, “I can’t go against God’s will.”
But, while this might ruffle some feathers, the truth is that you are God. You get to decide the path of your river. You choose your goal, and the Universal flow makes it happen.
The ego, though it craves this kind of control, is actually afraid to wield that power. And indeed, the ego could not wield it, because the ego believes in limitation and lack.
But you, as the true Self, do hold that power, once you realize that all limitations are of the mind.
You are as free as you choose to be. You have the keys to your own chains.
Perhaps at first you begin as a small-time creator. You manifest small things that are easily believable to you. That is okay.
But as you discover the power of your own mind, you will expand in your ability to create. You will realize that your own vision is reality. You are the painter. You are the sculptor.
Imagine a painter who limited himself to only using, say, red and blue in his paintings. Of course, he wouldn’t be very happy with the result, and this really wouldn’t be sticking to his vision. It would be allowing his limitations to create for him.
Eventually he discovers he has the whole spectrum of colors at his disposal. It is completely his choice which colors he uses, when. As long as he stays true to that vision, it will take form.
You must step into your own role as creator. You must look at reality, and realize that it is not set in stone. It is simply what you have unconsciously created in the past. You must stick with your vision until it manifests, for that is what a creator does.
In Genesis 1, God spoke the word of what he wanted. He actually did not do much himself. He just decided what he wanted, and spoke the word.
It was the word (the expression of God, or the Universal flow), which went out and created. He said, “Let there be light,” and the word—the Divine expression—the Universal flow—made it so.
You must speak the word and allow the Universal flow to make it so. When I say, “speak the word”, I do not necessarily mean literally. I simply mean to set universal forces into motion by setting your intention decisively, and sticking with it. That is creation in essence.
If your subconscious beliefs challenge you, give them no more attention than the artist would give to a color he doesn’t need. If the painter doesn’t want to use red right now, he doesn’t agonize over that red paint sitting there. He simply focuses on the color he wants.
Have single-minded attention on the vision, and ignore all else that is not the vision. That will set the Universal flow in motion, and create your vision very quickly.
This is really all you need to know to create anything you want.
How About You?
Now it’s your turn. Have you been persistent with your own goals, or have you allowed them to become “one day” goals? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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